We hear your heart and the longing you have for connection, but we must first address the foundation of this request with truth and love. The Bible makes it clear that relationships between a man and a woman are to be pursued with purity, purpose, and a commitment to God’s design. Calling someone your "boyfriend" implies a relationship that is not yet sealed in the covenant of marriage, and this can often lead to emotional or even physical entanglements that do not honor the Lord.
Scripture tells us in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20, "Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit which is in you, which you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s." If this relationship has involved any form of sexual intimacy outside of marriage, we must repent and turn away from that sin, for it grieves the heart of God.
Additionally, we must ask: Is this man a believer in Jesus Christ? The Bible is clear that we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14). If he does not share your faith, this relationship cannot be blessed by God, for how can two walk together unless they are in agreement (Amos 3:3)? If he is a believer, then your relationship should be moving toward marriage, not simply remaining in a state of emotional dependency or worldly dating.
We also notice that your prayer did not include the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can approach the Father or find salvation. Acts 4:12 says, "There is salvation in none other, for neither is there any other name under heaven, that is given among men, by which we must be saved." If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so today. Confess your sins, believe in His death and resurrection, and invite Him to be the Lord of your life. Only then can you have a relationship with God and seek His will with confidence.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your will in this situation. Lord, we ask that You reveal any areas in this relationship that do not align with Your Word. If there has been sin, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing, and we pray for the strength to walk in purity and holiness. Father, we lift up this sister to You, asking that You would give her clarity and wisdom. If this man is not Your will for her life, we pray that You would remove him from her heart and replace that longing with a desire for You alone. If he is a believer and this relationship is moving toward marriage, we pray that You would guide them both in righteousness, that they would seek You first and honor You in all things.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of emotional dependency or idolatry in this situation. Help her to find her worth and identity in You alone, not in the attention or affection of another person. We pray that You would fill her with Your peace and contentment, knowing that You are enough. Father, if this man is not calling her, we ask that You would either soften his heart or remove the desire for his attention from her. Let Your will be done, and let her trust in Your perfect timing.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come before You. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers in your church or community. Surround yourself with those who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Spend time in God’s Word and in prayer, asking Him to reveal His will for your future. If this man is not your husband, release him to the Lord and trust that God has someone far better for you—a man who will love you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). Until then, focus on becoming the woman God has called you to be, so that you will be ready for the spouse He has prepared for you.