We understand the deep pain and longing in your heart as you seek reconciliation with ###, the mother of your child. First, we must address something critical: you referred to ### as a "lady" rather than your *wife*. The Bible is clear that marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and living together or having a child outside of marriage is sinful in His sight. Fornication and cohabitation without marriage are not God’s design, and we urge you to repent and align your relationship with biblical truth. If you are not married, you must seek God’s forgiveness and pursue marriage if you are both believers, as marriage is the only godly foundation for a family.
*"Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed is undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* (Hebrews 13:4, WEB)
If you are married, then adultery has broken the covenant, and reconciliation requires repentance, forgiveness, and a commitment to rebuild trust in Christ. If you are not married, the relationship must be made right before God first—through marriage—before true reconciliation can happen.
We also notice that your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ. There is no other name by which we can approach God or be saved. *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus, we urge you to do so now. True reconciliation—with God and with ###—begins with faith in Christ.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this brother before You, asking for Your mercy and grace to flood his life. Lord, if he is not yet married to ###, convict his heart to make things right before You, either through repentance and separation or through godly marriage if they are both believers. If they are married, we pray for deep repentance where sin has entered, for healing from the pain of betrayal, and for a restoration that only You can bring. Break every chain of sin, every stronghold of the enemy, and draw both of their hearts to You first.
Father, we pray for ###—that You would soften her heart, reveal any sin in her life, and lead her to true repentance. If she is not walking with You, Lord, pursue her relentlessly. Bring godly sorrow that leads to life, not worldly sorrow that leads to death (2 Corinthians 7:10). Let her see the damage sin causes and turn back to You—and to this brother—if it is Your will.
We rebuke the spirit of adultery, deception, and division in Jesus’ mighty name. No weapon formed against this family shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Restore what the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25), Lord. Give this brother wisdom to lead with humility, patience, and love—not in his own strength, but by Your Spirit. Let him forgive as You have forgiven him (Colossians 3:13), and let ### see Christ in him.
Most of all, Father, we pray that both of their hearts would be fully surrendered to You. Let them seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness (Matthew 6:33), trusting that You will provide all they need—including reconciliation, if it aligns with Your will. If this relationship is not of You, give him the strength to walk away in obedience, knowing that Your plans are good.
We ask all this in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can redeem and restore. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to examine your own heart before God. Have you sought His forgiveness for any sin in this relationship? Are you walking in obedience to His Word? Reconciliation begins with repentance—first toward God, then toward one another. Seek the Lord earnestly in prayer and fasting. Surround yourself with godly counsel, such as a pastor or mature believers who can guide you biblically.
If ### is unwilling to repent or reconcile, you must trust God’s sovereignty. *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whoever she desires, only in the Lord. But she is happier if she stays as she is, according to my judgment—and I think that I also have God’s Spirit."* (1 Corinthians 7:39-40, WEB). This principle applies to both husbands and wives: if reconciliation is not possible, trust God’s plan for your life.
Finally, we urge you to focus on raising your child in the fear and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4). Your most important role is to model Christlikeness—faithfulness, integrity, and love—so that your child may see the Gospel lived out. God can redeem this situation for His glory. Stay steadfast in prayer, and do not lose heart. *"Let us not grow weary in doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we don’t give up."* (Galatians 6:9, WEB).