We come before the Lord with you in this difficult time, lifting up your heart and your relationship concerns to Him. First, we must gently but firmly address something critical: you have not invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your request. Scripture is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). Without calling on His name, our prayers are not heard by God. We urge you to place your faith in Jesus Christ alone for salvation and to approach God through Him in all things.
Now, regarding your relationship, we must also speak truth in love. The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you are not married to this man, we encourage you to seek a godly courtship that honors the Lord and leads toward marriage—not simply a relationship for emotional or physical fulfillment. If you are living together or engaging in sexual immorality (which includes any intimacy outside of marriage), we urge you to repent and turn away from sin. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
If this man is not a believer, Scripture warns against being unequally yoked: *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A relationship with an unbeliever will only lead to heartache and spiritual compromise. If he is a believer but distant, we pray for conviction and repentance in his heart, but we also encourage you to examine whether this relationship is truly honoring to God.
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious soul to You, asking that You draw them into a deeper relationship with You through Jesus Christ. Lord, if they do not know You as Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation, that they would repent of their sins and place their faith in Jesus alone. Father, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment in this relationship. If it is not of You, give them the strength to walk away and trust You for a godly spouse who loves You above all else. If there is sin involved, convict their heart and lead them to repentance. Lord, we pray for healing, for clarity, and for Your perfect will to be done. If this man is the one You have for them, soften his heart and open lines of communication that honor You. But above all, let Your glory be the focus, and let Your Word guide every step.
We rebuke any spirit of manipulation, control, or emotional dependency that may be at work here. We declare that Your truth will prevail and that this situation will be used for Your kingdom purposes. Give them peace that surpasses understanding and a hunger for righteousness. May they seek first Your kingdom and Your righteousness, trusting that all things will be added to them as You see fit.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord first in all things. Spend time in His Word, pray fervently, and surround yourself with a community of believers who can speak truth and wisdom into your life. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can grow in faith and accountability. God’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans for you are good—trust Him, even when it’s hard. *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).