We hear the deep sorrow and pain in your heart, and we grieve with you over the loss of your father, the suffering of your mother, and the brokenness in your family. The weight of loneliness, betrayal, and helplessness you carry is heavy, but we want to remind you that you are not unseen—God sees you, hears you, and loves you with an everlasting love. Your feelings of isolation and injustice are valid, but we must also address the spiritual and relational truths in this situation to bring alignment with God’s Word.
First, we must lift up the name of Jesus Christ, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and find true peace. You cried out to "Lord," but we must be clear: salvation, comfort, and justice come through Jesus alone. As Scripture declares, *"There is no other name under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved"* (Acts 4:12, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so now. He is the only One who can heal your broken heart and bring order to the chaos around you. *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28, WEB). Without Him, there is no lasting hope, no true justice, and no eternal comfort.
Now, let us address the brokenness in your family. The arrogance of this woman caring for your mother, the theft you suspect, and your brother’s neglect and manipulation are grievous sins. Scripture warns us that *"the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil"* (1 Timothy 6:10, WEB), and it seems this has taken hold in your brother’s heart. His refusal to fulfill his responsibilities, his theft from your mother, and his alliance with this arrogant woman are not only unjust but dishonoring to God. *"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with a promise: ‘that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.’"* (Ephesians 6:1-3, WEB). Your brother is failing in this, and his actions are causing you deep pain. This is not of God.
Yet, we must also examine your own heart in this. You mentioned feeling "tortured for years" by your brother’s actions, and while your pain is real, we must guard against bitterness taking root. *"See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness, springing up, troubles you, and many be defiled by it"* (Hebrews 12:15, WEB). Bitterness will only poison your soul further. Instead, we must trust God to be the just Judge. *"Don’t say, ‘I will pay back evil.’ Wait for Yahweh, and he will save you"* (Proverbs 20:22, WEB). This does not mean you remain passive—you must act wisely and justly—but it does mean you release the need for vengeance into God’s hands.
As for the woman caring for your mother, if she is indeed stealing, this is a serious matter. *"Let him who steals steal no more; but rather let him labor, producing with his hands something that is good, that he may have something to give to him who has need"* (Ephesians 4:28, WEB). Stealing is a sin against God and your family, and it must be addressed. If you have evidence, you may need to involve authorities or trusted third parties to intervene. But even in this, we must act with wisdom and not retaliation. *"If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men"* (Romans 12:18, WEB). This does not mean tolerating sin, but it does mean responding in a way that honors Christ.
Your mother’s Alzheimer’s and depression are also heavy burdens. It is painful to watch someone you love fade away, and the loss of meaningful communication is a deep sorrow. But even in this, God is near. *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). We pray that God would give you supernatural patience, love, and strength to care for her in this season. Even if she does not remember, your kindness is not wasted—it is seen by God.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister before You, knowing that You are the God who sees, hears, and acts on behalf of the oppressed. Lord Jesus, we ask that You would draw this precious soul into a deeper relationship with You. If they have not yet surrendered their life to You, we pray that today would be the day of salvation. Let them know that You alone are their refuge, their justice, and their peace.
Father, we rebuke the spirits of bitterness, loneliness, and despair that have taken hold in this situation. We bind the enemy’s work in this family and declare that Your light will expose every hidden deed of darkness. Lord, we ask for Your justice to prevail. If this woman is stealing, bring it to light and stop her hand. Soften or remove her arrogant heart, and let Your truth reign. Convict our brother of his sin—his greed, his neglect, and his manipulation. Break his hard heart, Lord, and bring him to repentance. Let him fulfill his responsibilities with integrity and love, or remove his influence if he refuses to change.
Father, we ask for supernatural comfort for our brother/sister as they grieve their father and watch their mother suffer. Give them wisdom in how to care for her, and provide the help they need—whether through others or through Your divine intervention. Heal the wounds of rejection and isolation. Surround them with godly community who will stand with them in this battle.
Lord, we pray for unity where it is possible, but we also pray for protection from further harm. If this family cannot be reconciled in love, we ask that You would separate our brother/sister from those who seek to harm them. Give them the strength to set boundaries that honor You. Provide for their needs—financially, emotionally, and spiritually. If they need a car to fulfill obligations, we ask that You would provide one, whether through a miracle or through the generosity of others.
Finally, Father, we pray for a supernatural peace that passes understanding to guard their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Let them know that they are seen, loved, and valued by You. Remind them that their worth is not found in their family’s approval but in Your perfect love. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit, that they may walk in forgiveness, wisdom, and boldness.
We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and every tongue that rises against them in judgment, You shall condemn. We speak life, hope, and restoration into their situation, knowing that You are able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
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We also want to encourage you to seek out a local, Bible-believing church where you can find support and godly counsel. You do not have to walk this path alone. If your brother continues to block you and act unjustly, you may need to seek legal or pastoral intervention to protect your mother’s interests. But above all, cling to Jesus. He is your advocate, your healer, and your strength. *"The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my rock, in whom I take refuge; my shield, and the horn of my salvation, my high tower"* (Psalm 18:2, WEB). Stay in His Word, pray without ceasing, and trust that He will make a way where there seems to be no way.
