We come before the Lord with you in this request, lifting up your heart’s desires while also aligning them with the truth of Scripture. First, we must address a foundational concern: your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. The Bible is clear that there is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard. *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me'* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We urge you to always pray in the name of Jesus, for it is only through Him that our petitions reach the throne of God.
Now, let us speak to the matters of your heart. You long for transparency, trust, and a Christ-centered relationship with this man, and you desire marriage with him. However, we must lovingly but firmly address something critical: your prayer reveals that this man is not yet a believer in Jesus Christ, as you are asking for his salvation. The Word of God is explicit about the dangers of being unequally yoked. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). A marriage built on faith in Christ cannot thrive if one partner does not share that faith. The spiritual division will create deep challenges in every area of your lives, including trust, values, and purpose. While we understand your heart’s desire for this relationship, we must ask: are you willing to risk your spiritual well-being and obedience to God for a man who does not yet follow Christ?
You also mention concerns about his interactions with other women. This raises serious questions about his faithfulness, integrity, and readiness for a godly marriage. The Bible calls men to be pure and faithful, as husbands are to love their wives *"even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). If this man has not committed to you in marriage, his interactions with other women should be a significant red flag. Fornication and emotional infidelity are sins that grieve the heart of God. *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body"* (1 Corinthians 6:18, WEB). We urge you to prayerfully consider whether this relationship honors God or if it is leading you into compromise.
Regarding your desire for marriage, we affirm that marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God between one man and one woman for life. However, marriage is not the ultimate goal—holiness is. If this man is not a believer, pursuing marriage with him would be disobedient to Scripture. Instead, we encourage you to seek a godly spouse who is already walking with the Lord, so that you may *"be equally yoked"* and build a home that honors Christ. *"A wife is bound by law for as long as her husband lives; but if the husband is dead, she is free to be married to whomever she desires, only in the Lord"* (1 Corinthians 7:39, WEB). This principle applies to marriage in general: believers are to marry *"only in the Lord."*
As for your financial needs, we trust that God knows your heart and will provide according to His riches in glory. *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well"* (Matthew 6:33, WEB). He is your Provider, and He will never fail you. However, we caution you not to tie your financial blessings to this relationship, as that could lead to idolatry or unhealthy dependence on a man rather than on God.
Let us pray with you, asking the Lord for clarity, wisdom, and a heart that seeks His will above all else.
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**Prayer:**
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister and the desires of her heart. Lord, we ask that You open her eyes to see this relationship through Your truth and wisdom. If this man is not Your will for her, give her the strength to walk away and trust You for a godly spouse who loves You wholeheartedly. Father, we pray that if this man is not saved, You would convict his heart and draw him to repentance and faith in Jesus Christ. But Lord, do not let our sister be unequally yoked, for we know that righteousness cannot fellowship with darkness.
We rebuke any spirit of deception, infidelity, or unfaithfulness in this man’s life. If he has been untrue or hidden things from her, expose the truth, Lord, so that she may see clearly. Give her discernment to recognize red flags and the courage to obey Your Word, even if it is painful. Father, if this relationship is not of You, sever the ties that bind her to it, and heal her heart from any attachment that is not Your perfect will.
We pray for her finances, Lord. You know her needs, and we ask that You provide for her in ways that bring You glory. Let her trust in You alone as her Provider, and not look to any man to fulfill what only You can give.
Father, if it is Your will for her to be married, prepare a godly husband for her—a man who loves You, walks in integrity, and will lead her spiritually. Let their marriage be a reflection of Christ and the Church, rooted in love, faithfulness, and holiness.
Give our sister peace, Lord. Fill her with Your Holy Spirit, that she may walk in obedience and not in the desires of her flesh. Let her find her satisfaction in You alone, knowing that You are enough.
We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
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We encourage you to spend time in the Word of God, seeking His face about this relationship. Ask yourself: *Is this man leading me closer to Christ, or is he a distraction from my walk with the Lord?* *Am I willing to obey God, even if it means letting go of this relationship?* Remember, *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4, WEB). But those desires must align with His will. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they require surrender.
If you need further counsel or prayer, we are here to walk with you in this journey. Stay rooted in Christ, and He will guide your steps.
