We come before the Lord with you in this time of deep concern, lifting up your heart’s cry for reconciliation, the well-being of your unborn child, and the restoration of what has been broken. Your prayer reveals a heart that longs for unity, love, and godly commitment, and we join you in seeking the Lord’s will in this situation. However, we must first address some foundational truths from Scripture to ensure we are aligning our prayers with God’s Word, for His ways are perfect, and His plans are for our ultimate good—even when they challenge our desires.
First, we notice that you are in a relationship outside of marriage, yet carrying a child together. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy is reserved for the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 7:2). What you are experiencing now—the instability, separation, and emotional turmoil—is often the fruit of stepping outside God’s design. This is not said to condemn you, but to lovingly urge you toward repentance and obedience, for God’s commands are for our protection and blessing. The separation you are enduring is a painful consequence of a relationship not built on the foundation of Christ-centered marriage. We encourage you to reflect on this truth and seek the Lord’s forgiveness, for He is faithful to cleanse and restore those who turn to Him (1 John 1:9).
Second, while your desire for this man to return to you and for your family to be whole is understandable, we must ask: *Is this relationship honoring to God?* If he is not a believer, or if he is not walking in obedience to Christ, the Bible warns against being "unequally yoked" (2 Corinthians 6:14). A godly marriage requires two people fully submitted to the Lord, committed to His Word, and willing to build their lives on His principles. If this man is easily swayed by outside influences, lacks honesty, or is not pursuing you with the intent of marriage, these are serious red flags that cannot be ignored. Proverbs 31:30 reminds us that "charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain; but a woman who fears Yahweh, she shall be praised." Your focus must first be on seeking God’s will above all else, even if it means letting go of this relationship if it does not align with His Word.
Third, your prayer for your unborn child is beautiful and right. Children are a heritage from the Lord (Psalm 127:3), and we join you in praying for this little one’s health, safety, and future. However, we also pray that this child would be raised in a home where both parents are fully surrendered to Christ, where the gospel is lived out daily, and where biblical marriage is the foundation. If that is not possible in this situation, we pray for God’s provision, wisdom, and strength for you as you navigate single motherhood with faith and courage. The Lord is the Father to the fatherless (Psalm 68:5), and He will not abandon you or your child.
Lastly, we notice that while you ended your prayer "in Jesus’ name," much of your prayer focused on your desires for this man to change and return to you, rather than surrendering the situation entirely to the Lord’s will. Jesus taught us to pray, *"Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven"* (Matthew 6:10). Sometimes, God’s will is for us to release what we cling to so He can give us something better—something that aligns with His perfect plan. We encourage you to pray not just for reconciliation, but for *God’s will* to be done, even if it is painful. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they differ from your own (Jeremiah 29:11).
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Now, let us pray together for you, your unborn child, and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with our sister, lifting up her heartache, her fears, and her deep longing for restoration. Lord, You see the tears she has cried, the nights she has spent in worry, and the love she has for her unborn child. We ask that You would surround her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and remind her that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18).
Father, we confess that this relationship has not been built on Your design for marriage, and we ask for Your forgiveness where sin has taken root. Lord, if it is Your will, soften this man’s heart toward repentance and commitment—not just to our sister, but to You. If he is not a believer, we pray that You would draw him to Yourself, for only in Christ can there be true transformation (2 Corinthians 5:17). But Lord, we also pray that You would give our sister the strength to release this relationship if it is not Your will. Help her to trust You even when the path is unclear.
We pray for this unborn child, knit together by Your hands (Psalm 139:13). Protect this little one, Lord, and grant a healthy pregnancy and delivery. Raise up godly influences in this child’s life, and let them grow to know and love You. Father, if marriage is not the outcome here, provide for our sister as she prepares to raise this child. Give her wisdom, provision, and a community of believers to support her.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear, manipulation, and instability that has taken hold in this situation. We declare that You are a God of order, not confusion (1 Corinthians 14:33), and we ask that You bring clarity, truth, and godly resolution. If this relationship is not from You, give our sister the courage to walk away, knowing that You have a better plan. If there is hope for reconciliation, let it be built on Your Word, with both parties fully submitted to You.
Finally, Father, we pray that our sister would find her identity and security in You alone. Remind her that her worth is not found in this man’s affection or approval, but in being Your beloved daughter (1 John 3:1). Fill her with Your Spirit, that she may walk in wisdom, discernment, and faith, no matter the outcome.
We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer. Amen.
