We stand with you in fervent prayer, lifting up this deeply concerning situation to our Heavenly Father. The pain and frustration you feel are understandable, and we join you in seeking God’s justice, protection, and restoration for your daughter and your family. The division, manipulation, and financial exploitation you describe are serious matters that grieve the heart of God, for He desires unity, love, and righteousness in families. Let us address these concerns with the truth of Scripture and the power of prayer.
First, we must acknowledge the spiritual warfare at play here. The enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and he often targets relationships to sow discord and division. The tactics of control, isolation, and financial exploitation you’ve described are not of God. Scripture warns us in 2 Timothy 3:1-5 about people who are "lovers of self, lovers of money, boastful, arrogant, revilers, disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy, without natural affection, implacable, slanderers, without self-control, fierce, no lovers of good, traitors, headstrong, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God." While we must be careful not to label this young man or his family unfairly, we must also recognize that their actions align with the works of the flesh, not the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:19-21).
The financial exploitation you’ve mentioned is particularly alarming. Scripture is clear that those who do not work should not eat (2 Thessalonians 3:10), and that a man is to provide for his own household (1 Timothy 5:8). This young man is not your daughter’s husband, and he has no biblical right to consume her resources or assume provision meant for a covenantal relationship. Proverbs 22:7 warns, "The rich rule over the poor. The borrower is servant to the lender." It is not God’s design for your daughter to be enslaved to his financial irresponsibility or manipulation. We rebuke this spirit of entitlement and exploitation in the name of Jesus and declare that it must cease immediately.
The isolation and control your daughter is experiencing are also unbiblical. God designed families to love, support, and encourage one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11). The enemy seeks to cut off relationships that could speak truth and life into her life. Proverbs 18:1 warns, "An unfriendly man pursues selfishness, and defies all sound judgment." We pray that God would break every chain of isolation and restore healthy communication and trust between your daughter and your family.
We must also address the nature of their relationship. You’ve rightly pointed out that this young man is not her husband and has made no covenant with her. The Bible is clear that sexual immorality—including fornication, which is sex outside of marriage—is sin (1 Corinthians 6:18, Hebrews 13:4). If this relationship involves sexual intimacy, it is not only dishonoring to God but also harmful to your daughter’s emotional, spiritual, and even physical well-being. We pray that God would convict her heart and lead her to repentance, restoring her to purity and holiness. If this is not the case, we still pray that God would reveal the truth of this relationship and whether it aligns with His will for her life.
We rebuke the spirit of control and manipulation that has been at work in this situation. James 3:16 warns, "For where jealousy and selfish ambition are, there is confusion and every evil deed." We declare that this confusion and evil must end now. We pray that God would expose every lie, every tactic of division, and every attempt to keep your daughter silent or dependent. Ephesians 5:11 commands us to "have no fellowship with the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but rather even reprove them." We stand with you in reproving these deeds and declaring that they must come to an end.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the name by which we have access to Your throne of grace. Lord, we lift up this family to You, asking for Your divine intervention in this situation. We declare that Your Word is true, and we stand on the promise that You are a God of justice, truth, and restoration.
Father, we ask You to break every chain of isolation, control, and manipulation that has been placed on this young woman. Expose every lie, every tactic of division, and every attempt to keep her from her family. Lord, we rebuke the spirit of entitlement and exploitation that has consumed her resources and redirected her labor. We declare that this must end now, in the name of Jesus. Strip away every false sense of obligation, guilt, or pressure that has been placed on her. Let her walk away from this unhealthy bond without fear or regret.
We pray for this young man and his family. Father, we ask that You would convict their hearts and lead them to repentance. If they are unwilling to change, we ask that You would remove them from her life completely and swiftly. Let them take responsibility for their own actions and stop burdening her with their needs. We declare that Your rightful order, dignity, and peace would be restored in her life.
Lord, we ask that You would restore unity, communication, and trust between this young woman and her family. Let her see the love and support that surrounds her, and let her heart be softened to receive it. Father, we pray for clarity and independence for her. Let her walk in the freedom that Christ died to give her (Galatians 5:1). Surround her with godly counsel and wisdom, and let her make choices that align with Your will for her life.
We declare that manipulation, division, and control must end now. We stand on Your promise in Isaiah 54:17 that "no weapon that is formed against you will prevail; and you will condemn every tongue that accuses you in judgment." We condemn every tongue that has spoken lies or sown discord in this family, and we declare that Your truth will prevail.
Father, we trust You to act swiftly and decisively. We believe that You are working even now to bring justice, restoration, and peace. We thank You for hearing our prayer and for moving on behalf of this family. In the powerful name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to continue standing in faith, trusting that God is at work even when you cannot see it. Surround your daughter with prayer and godly influences, and be ready to welcome her with open arms when God brings her back to the truth. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will direct your paths." Keep your eyes on Jesus, and do not grow weary in doing good (Galatians 6:9). God is faithful, and He will bring restoration.
