Our hearts break for you and your children as we read of the suffering you have endured at the hands of your husband. The violence and anger you describe are grievous sins against God and against those He has entrusted to your care. We want you to know that God sees your pain, hears your cries, and is deeply grieved by the injustice you have suffered. The Lord is not ignorant of your suffering, nor is He indifferent. His ways are higher than ours, and though we may not always understand His timing, we can trust that He is just and that He will act on behalf of the oppressed.
The Scriptures are clear about God’s heart for the vulnerable and His judgment against those who harm them. Proverbs 6:16-19 tells us, *"There are six things which Yahweh hates; yes, seven which are an abomination to him: arrogant eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are swift in running to mischief, a false witness who utters lies, and he who sows discord among brothers."* Your husband’s actions are an abomination in the sight of God, and the Lord will not allow such evil to go unpunished forever. Romans 12:19 assures us, *"Don’t seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God’s wrath. For it is written, ‘Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord.’"* Justice will come, and it will come from the Lord’s hand. Your role is not to take vengeance but to trust in God’s perfect timing and justice.
We also want to address something critical: your safety and the safety of your children must be your immediate priority. The Bible does not require you to remain in a situation where you or your children are in danger. In 1 Corinthians 7:15, the apostle Paul writes, *"Yet if the unbeliever departs, let there be separation. The brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us in peace."* While this verse speaks specifically about an unbelieving spouse leaving, the principle applies here—God does not call you to endure abuse. He calls you to peace, and sometimes that means removing yourself and your children from harm’s way. We strongly urge you to seek help from trusted Christian leaders, a biblical counselor, or local authorities who can assist you in finding a safe place to stay. You are not sinning by protecting yourself and your children; you are acting in wisdom and love.
As for your question of why God has allowed this to continue, we cannot fully know the mind of God, but we can trust His character. The Lord is longsuffering, not wishing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). It may be that He is giving your husband time to turn from his wickedness, though his heart seems hardened at this moment. However, this does not mean you must wait indefinitely for his repentance while enduring abuse. You have a responsibility before God to care for the innocent lives He has placed in your hands—your children. Their well-being is precious to Him, and He will honor your steps to protect them.
We also want to encourage you with the truth that God is your healer and your refuge. Psalm 34:18 says, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* He sees your broken heart, and He is near to you. Psalm 147:3 reminds us, *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds."* The Lord wants to bring healing to your soul and to the souls of your children. He can restore what has been broken, and He can bring beauty from these ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Your children *do* deserve peace, love, and happiness, and God is able to provide these things for them, even in the midst of this storm.
Now, let us pray together for you, your children, and even for your husband, that God’s will would be done in this situation.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious sister and her children to Your throne of grace. Lord, You are the God who sees, the God who hears, and the God who acts on behalf of the oppressed. We ask that You would intervene mightily in this situation. Father, we pray for supernatural protection over this mother and her children. Hide them under the shadow of Your wings (Psalm 91:4) and deliver them from the violence and anger that has tormented them for far too long.
Lord, we ask that You would provide a way of escape—a safe place for them to go, wise counselors to guide them, and godly people to surround them with love and support. Open doors that no man can shut, and give this mother the wisdom to know what steps to take next. Strengthen her, Lord, for she is weary. Renew her spirit and fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Let her know that she is not alone, for You are with her, and we, her brothers and sisters in Christ, are standing with her in prayer.
Father, we pray for her children—innocent souls who have endured so much pain. Heal their hearts, Lord. Restore their joy and their sense of security. Surround them with Your love and let them know that they are precious in Your sight. Raise up godly mentors and friends to speak life into them and to show them the love of Christ in tangible ways. Do not let this evil define their lives, but let Your redemption and healing be their story.
Lord, we also pray for this woman’s husband. His heart is hardened, and his actions are wicked, but we know that nothing is impossible for You. Father, if it is Your will, soften his heart and bring him to repentance. Let him see the gravity of his sins and the destruction he has caused. Convict him by Your Holy Spirit, and if he refuses to turn from his ways, we pray that You would restrain his ability to harm others. Do not let his violence go unchecked, Lord. Bring justice, and let Your will be done in his life.
Father, we ask that You would heal the wounds of this family—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Bind up their broken hearts and restore what the enemy has stolen. Let this season of suffering be a testament to Your faithfulness and Your power to redeem. Give them hope for the future, Lord, and let them see that You have not abandoned them.
We rebuke the spirit of violence, anger, and oppression that has ruled in this home. In the name of Jesus, we command these evil forces to flee, for greater is He who is in us than he who is in the world (1 John 4:4). We declare that this family belongs to You, Lord, and that You are their defender, their healer, and their provider.
Finally, Father, we ask that You would use this trial for Your glory. Let it drive this family closer to You and deeper into Your Word. Let them find their strength in You and their hope in Your promises. Remind them that You are a God of justice, and that You will repay the wicked for their deeds. Help them to release their pain and their questions into Your hands, trusting that You will make all things right in Your perfect time.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who bore our sins and our sorrows on the cross. It is only through Him that we have access to Your throne, and it is only through His blood that we are saved. Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayers. Amen.
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Sister, we want to leave you with a few practical steps to take as you walk through this valley. First, if you have not already, reach out to a trusted pastor or biblical counselor who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom. If you are in immediate danger, please contact local authorities or a domestic violence hotline in your area. You do not have to face this alone.
Second, immerse yourself and your children in the Word of God. Read Psalms together and pray through them. Let the truth of God’s love and protection sink deep into your hearts. Teach your children to trust in the Lord, even when life is painful.
Third, surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you spiritually and practically. Isolation is a tool of the enemy, but fellowship with other believers can bring strength and encouragement.
Lastly, hold on to hope. This season will not last forever. God is at work, even when you cannot see it. Cling to Him, and let Him carry you through. We are standing with you in prayer, and we believe that God will bring justice, healing, and peace to your family. Do not lose heart, for *"the Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). He will not fail you.
