We hear your heartfelt cry for restoration and healing in what you describe as a broken relationship. First, we must acknowledge that all healing and reconciliation come through the power of Jesus Christ, who is the cornerstone of our faith and the only mediator between God and man. It is in His name we approach the Father, for there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ, we urge you to do so, for apart from Him, we can do nothing (John 15:5).
Your desire to rebuild and reconcile is commendable, but we must examine this relationship through the lens of Scripture to ensure it aligns with God’s will. The Bible calls us to pursue relationships that honor Him, particularly in marriage, which is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If this relationship is not a marriage, we must ask whether it is being pursued with the intention of honoring God through a godly courtship that leads to marriage. If it is a marriage, we stand with you in praying for its restoration, but we must also address any sin that may have contributed to its brokenness.
Scripture warns us that the enemy seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10), and distractions from him often manifest as bitterness, unforgiveness, pride, or even sexual immorality. If there has been fornication (sex outside of marriage) or adultery in this relationship, we must name it as sin and repent before the Lord. God is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9), but true repentance requires turning away from sin and walking in obedience to His Word. If this is a same-sex relationship, we must lovingly but firmly rebuke it, for Scripture is clear that homosexuality is a sin (Romans 1:26-27, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). God’s design for marriage and sexuality is holy, and we must align our lives with His truth, even when it is difficult.
We also encourage you to examine whether this relationship is built on a foundation of mutual faith in Christ. The Apostle Paul warns us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? If one or both of you do not share a saving relationship with Jesus, the foundation of this relationship will always be shaky. We pray that both of you would come to know Christ deeply and that your relationship would be rooted in Him.
Let us pray together for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear one who is seeking Your healing and restoration. Lord, we ask that You would draw near to them and reveal Yourself in a powerful way. If they do not yet know You as their Savior, we pray that they would surrender their life to Jesus Christ, for there is no other name by which we can be saved. Fill them with Your Holy Spirit and give them a hunger for Your Word.
Father, we ask that You would bring clarity to this situation. If this relationship is not aligned with Your will—whether because of sin, unequal yoking, or a lack of commitment to marriage—we pray that You would make that clear. Give them the courage to obey You, even if it means walking away from what is familiar. If this is a marriage that can be restored, we ask that You would begin the work of healing in both of their hearts. Soften their hearts toward one another and toward You. Help them to forgive as You have forgiven them (Colossians 3:13) and to lay down their pride, their hurts, and their demands at the foot of the cross.
Lord, we rebuke the enemy’s schemes to distract and divide them. We declare that no weapon formed against this relationship—or against their individual walks with You—shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17). We ask that You would remove every hindrance, every lie, and every stronghold that is keeping them from experiencing the fullness of Your peace and Your purpose for their lives. Help them to fix their eyes on You, Jesus, the author and perfecter of their faith (Hebrews 12:2).
Father, we ask that You would rebuild what has been broken. Give them wisdom to communicate with love and patience, and help them to seek godly counsel if needed. If there has been sin in this relationship, we pray that You would lead them to true repentance and restoration. Cleanse them from all unrighteousness and help them to walk in purity and holiness before You. If this relationship is not a marriage, we pray that they would honor You by reserving sexual intimacy for the covenant of marriage. If it is a marriage, we pray that You would renew their commitment to one another and to You.
Lord, we ask that You would heal the trauma and pain they have experienced, both individually and as a couple. Pour out Your comfort and Your peace, and remind them that You are close to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Help them to trust in Your timing and Your plan, even when it is difficult. Give them the strength to persevere and the faith to believe that You can do immeasurably more than they could ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
Above all, Father, we pray that Your will would be done in this situation. May Your name be glorified, and may their lives reflect Your love and Your truth. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or a mature Christian couple who can walk alongside you during this time. Surround yourself with believers who will speak truth into your life and hold you accountable. Spend time in God’s Word, for it is a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105). If this relationship is meant to be restored, God will make a way. If it is not, trust that He has something better in store for you. His plans for you are for good and not for harm, to give you a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Keep your eyes on Him, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).
