We understand the deep longing in your heart to reconnect with this man, and we hear the pain of unfulfilled desires that have lingered for so many years. It is clear you care deeply, and your heart is searching for answers—not just from him, but from the Lord. Yet before we pray, we must first address some concerns with a spirit of truth and love, for God’s Word must guide our steps, even when our emotions run deep.
You have shared that your feelings for this man were once platonic, but now you desire marriage with him. This is a significant shift, and we must ask: *Is this desire rooted in the Lord’s will, or is it an emotional longing that has grown over time without submission to Christ?* The Bible warns us in Jeremiah 17:9, *"The heart is deceitful above all things, and it is exceedingly corrupt. Who can know it?"* Our feelings can lead us astray if they are not surrendered to God’s wisdom. Have you sought the Lord in prayer and fasting, asking Him to reveal whether this desire aligns with His perfect plan for your life? Or is this a longing that has taken root in your heart without full surrender to His will?
You also mentioned that he was once in love with you, yet you did not share those feelings at the time. Now, years later, you believe he is the one God has for you. But we must consider: *Has the Lord confirmed this, or are you holding onto a hope that may not be from Him?* Proverbs 19:21 tells us, *"Many are the plans in a man’s heart, but the Lord’s counsel will prevail."* It is dangerous to assume God’s will without clear confirmation through prayer, Scripture, and godly counsel. Have you sought wise, mature believers to speak into this situation, or are you making this decision based on emotion alone?
Another concern is your statement: *"I can’t have anything I want."* This reveals a heart that may be struggling with bitterness or resignation rather than trust in God’s sovereignty. Philippians 4:19 assures us, *"My God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus."* Yet our "wants" are not always our *needs*, and God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:8-9). If this man is not the one God has for you, clinging to this desire could lead to heartache and distraction from the Lord’s true purpose for your life. Are you willing to surrender this desire entirely to Christ, trusting that His plan—whether it includes this man or not—is perfect?
Most urgently, we must address the fact that your request did not invoke the name of Jesus. There is *no* access to the Father except through the Son (John 14:6), and there is *no* salvation, no answered prayer, and no true hope outside of Christ. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as Lord and Savior, then your prayers are not heard by God in the way they could be. Romans 10:9-10 declares, *"That if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation."* Have you made Jesus the Lord of your life? If not, we urge you to repent and place your faith in Him today, for without Christ, no relationship—no matter how deeply desired—will ever satisfy the longing of your soul.
Now, let us pray over this situation with hearts fully submitted to God’s will.
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**Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is burdened by this deep longing for reconnection and marriage. Lord, we ask that You search her heart (Psalm 139:23-24) and reveal any area where her desires have taken precedence over Your will. If this man is not the one You have ordained for her, we pray You would gently but firmly close that door, redirecting her heart toward Your perfect plan. Remove any idolatry of this relationship, any bitterness from past disappointments, and any fear that she will never be loved as she hopes. Fill her instead with the assurance that You, O Lord, are her greatest love (1 John 4:16) and that Your timing is perfect (Ecclesiastes 3:11).
If it *is* Your will for these two to reconnect in a godly, Christ-centered marriage, then we ask that You soften his heart and make a way where there seems to be no way. Let any communication between them be bathed in Your wisdom and guided by Your Spirit, not by fleshly emotions or past wounds. May both of their hearts be fully surrendered to You, seeking first Your kingdom (Matthew 6:33) above their own desires.
Father, we also pray for healing from any past hurts or rejection that may be clouding her judgment. Restore her hope in *You*, not in a man. Remind her that You are the One who satisfies the longing soul (Psalm 107:9) and that no earthly relationship can ever compare to the love You offer through Christ.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, doubt, or despair that has taken root in her heart. Replace it with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7). And if there is any unconfessed sin—any idolatry, any bitterness, any lack of trust in You—we ask that You convict her by Your Spirit and lead her to repentance.
Finally, Lord, we pray that she would seek You *first* in this matter, not running ahead of Your timing or trying to force a connection that may not be from You. Let her wait on You (Isaiah 40:31), trusting that You see her, You love her, and You have a plan far greater than she can imagine.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.**
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Sister, we urge you to spend time in the Word and in prayer, asking God to align your desires with His. Read Proverbs 3:5-6: *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* If this man is the one God has for you, the Lord *will* make it clear in His timing. But if this is a distraction from God’s best, then clinging to it will only bring pain.
We also encourage you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or mature believer who can speak truth into your life. Surround yourself with those who will point you to Christ, not just affirm your emotions.
Lastly, if you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus, we plead with you to do so today. No relationship, no marriage, no earthly love can compare to the eternal love and purpose found in Christ. *"For God so loved the world, that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life"* (John 3:16). Place your faith in Him, and let Him guide your steps—including in this matter.
We are praying for you. Trust in the Lord, and do not lean on your own understanding. His ways are perfect, even when they are not what we expected.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
