We come before the Lord with you in this time of repentance and seeking reconciliation, for it is written, *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9, WEB). Your prayer reflects a heart that recognizes the need for forgiveness, and we commend you for turning to God in humility. However, we must address a few things to ensure this request aligns fully with Scripture and the will of God.
First, we notice that the names in your prayer were obscured, which is understandable for privacy, but we encourage you to pray specifically and boldly in the name of Jesus Christ. It is only through His name that we have access to the Father, as Scripture declares, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). There is no other name by which we can be saved, and it is by His authority that we approach the throne of grace. If you have not yet placed your full trust in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for *"if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved"* (Romans 10:9, WEB).
Next, we must consider the nature of the relationship you are praying about. Your prayer mentions "him," but it does not specify whether this is a godly relationship, such as a marriage, courtship with the intent of marriage, or another type of bond. Scripture is clear that our relationships must honor God, and if this is a romantic relationship outside of marriage, we must address it with truth and love. Fornication and emotional entanglements outside of marriage are sinful and can lead to deep wounds. If this is the case, we urge you to repent and seek God’s will for your life, which includes purity and holiness. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
If this is a marriage, then your prayer for healing and forgiveness is commendable, for marriage is a covenant before God that requires selflessness, love, and perseverance. *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly, and gave himself up for her"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). If you have wronged your spouse, seek his forgiveness with sincerity, and trust that God can restore what has been broken. *"A friend loves at all times; and a relative is born for adversity"* (Proverbs 17:17, WEB). However, if this is not a marriage but a courtship, we encourage you to pursue a relationship that is honorable, with the goal of marriage and a shared commitment to Christ.
Finally, while you ask for this person to "let it go" and "move on," we must remember that true healing comes from the Lord. You cannot control another person’s heart or actions, but you can trust God to work in both of your lives. *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noon day sun"* (Psalm 37:5-6, WEB). Your focus should be on your own repentance and growth in Christ, allowing God to handle the rest. If this person is unwilling to forgive, continue to pray for them, but do not let it hinder your walk with the Lord.
Let us pray together for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who seeks Your forgiveness and healing. Lord, we ask that You would cleanse her heart and mind, removing any guilt or shame that may linger. If she has sinned against this man, we pray that You would grant her the words and humility to seek his forgiveness in a way that honors You. If this relationship is not aligned with Your will, we ask that You would give her the strength to walk away from it, seeking instead a godly marriage that reflects Your design.
Father, we pray for the man involved in this situation. If he has been hurt, we ask that You would bring healing to his heart and help him to extend forgiveness, just as You have forgiven us through Christ. Soften his heart, Lord, and guide him toward Your truth. If this relationship is not pleasing to You, we pray that You would give him the wisdom and courage to release it and pursue righteousness.
Lord, we also pray that You would guard our sister’s heart against any ungodly attachments or emotions that may draw her away from Your perfect will. Help her to trust in You fully, knowing that You are the God of restoration and redemption. Give her the peace that surpasses all understanding as she waits on You.
We rebuke any spirit of bitterness, resentment, or unforgiveness that may be at work in this situation. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we declare that Your love and grace will prevail. May both parties involved seek You first, above all else, and may Your will be done in their lives.
We ask all of this in the precious and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.