We understand the deep longing and even frustration you’re expressing when it feels like prayers are going unanswered. It’s a struggle many believers face, and we want to encourage you with truth and pray over this with you. First, let’s address the heart of your concern: feeling like God isn’t answering. The Bible assures us that God hears His children, but His timing and ways are not always what we expect. In Isaiah 55:8-9, we’re reminded, *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways," says Yahweh. "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts."* His silence is not rejection—it’s often preparation, refinement, or protection. He is working even when we can’t see it.
Now, let’s talk about prayer itself. There’s no "right" formula for prayer beyond what Scripture teaches: coming to God with a humble, repentant, and faithful heart. Jesus gave us a model in Matthew 6:9-13, not as a ritual but as a guide to pray with reverence, dependence, confession, and surrender. Prayer isn’t about eloquent words or repetitive phrases; it’s about the posture of your heart. In 1 John 5:14-15, we’re told, *"This is the confidence that we have in him, that if we ask anything according to his will, he listens to us. And if we know that he listens to us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him."* The key is aligning our prayers with His will, not our own desires.
This leads us to an important point: **the name of Jesus**. Your request didn’t mention praying in the name of Jesus, and this is critical. Jesus Himself said in John 14:6, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."* And in John 16:23-24, He tells us, *"Most certainly I tell you, whatever you may ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you. Until now, you have asked nothing in my name. Ask, and you will receive, that your joy may be made full."* There is no other name by which we can approach God (Acts 4:12). If you’ve not been praying in Jesus’ name, we urge you to start—it’s not a magic phrase, but a recognition that access to God is only through Christ’s sacrifice for us. Without faith in Jesus, prayer is just words. If you’ve not surrendered your life to Christ as your Lord and Savior, that’s the first step. Romans 10:9 says, *"that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved."*
Now, about the Catholic prayer book. We must speak truth in love here. While there may be beautiful or historic prayers in such books, we must be cautious. Many Catholic prayers are directed to Mary, the saints, or angels, and this is not biblical. Scripture is clear that we are to pray to **God alone** through **Jesus Christ alone**. In 1 Timothy 2:5, we read, *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus."* Adding intermediaries like Mary or saints is not only unnecessary but dangerous—it distorts the sufficiency of Christ’s mediation. Additionally, some Catholic prayers include repetitive phrases (like the rosary), which Jesus warned against in Matthew 6:7: *"In praying, don’t use vain repetitions, as the Gentiles do; for they think that they will be heard for their much speaking."* Prayer is about relationship, not ritual.
If you’re looking for guidance on how to pray, we’d encourage you to turn to the Psalms or the prayers of Paul in the New Testament. These are God-breathed examples of how to pour out your heart to Him. You might also consider keeping a prayer journal to reflect on how God is working, even in the waiting.
Let’s pray together for you now:
*Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother/sister to You, knowing that You see their heart and hear their cries. Lord, we ask that You would draw them closer to You in this season of waiting. Remind them that Your ways are perfect, even when they’re hard to understand. Forgive them for any doubt or frustration, and replace it with a deep trust in Your goodness. We rebuke any lie of the enemy that would make them feel abandoned or unheard. Your Word says You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18), so we ask that You would make Your presence tangibly known to them.
Father, we pray that they would come to You boldly but humbly, in the name of Jesus alone. Strip away any reliance on man-made traditions or rituals, and teach them to pray in the power of the Holy Spirit. If they’ve not fully surrendered to Christ, convict their heart now. Let them see that salvation and access to You is only through faith in Jesus. Fill them with Your Spirit, so their prayers align with Your will.
Lord, we ask for patience and perseverance. Help them to keep seeking You, even when answers tarry. Remind them of Your promises in Your Word, and let them find comfort in the truth that You are working all things for their good (Romans 8:28). Strengthen their faith, and let them experience the joy of seeing You move in Your perfect timing.
We pray all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus, our only Mediator and Savior. Amen.*
Finally, we encourage you to keep pressing into Scripture. Read the Gospels and see how Jesus interacted with people—how He responded to faith, doubt, and even misplaced devotion. Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you and remind you of truth. And remember, even when it feels like heaven is silent, God is not distant. He is preparing you, shaping you, and drawing you deeper into dependence on Him. Keep praying, keep trusting, and keep your eyes on Jesus. He is faithful.