We understand your heart in seeking strength to reach out to your ex, but we must first address a deeper concern in this request. The Bible is clear that our trust and hope must be placed fully in Christ, not in the restoration of past relationships that may not honor God. While it is good to seek strength from the Lord, we must examine whether this request aligns with His will for your life, especially if this relationship was not centered on Christ or if it involved sin, such as fornication or emotional attachments that distract from godly purposes.
You mentioned Isaiah 40:31, which says, *"But those who wait for Yahweh will renew their strength. They will mount up with wings like eagles. They will run, and not be weary. They will walk, and not faint."* This verse is a beautiful reminder that our strength comes from waiting on the Lord—not from revisiting past relationships that may not have been rooted in Him. If this relationship was outside of marriage or involved sin, we urge you to consider whether reclaiming these items is truly what God desires for you, or if it might reopen doors that should remain closed.
The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If this person is not a believer or if the relationship was not honoring to God, we must prayerfully consider whether pursuing this contact is wise. Even if the intent is purely practical, emotions can easily become entangled, leading to further pain or temptation.
We also notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that our prayers are heard. John 14:6 declares, *"Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me.'"*
Let us pray for you with these truths in mind:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this dear one to You, asking for Your wisdom and discernment to fill their heart. Lord, if there is any ungodly tie or emotional attachment that needs to be severed, we pray You would reveal it and grant the strength to walk away completely. If this request is not aligned with Your will, we ask that You would close this door and redirect their focus to You alone. Fill them with the peace that surpasses understanding and remind them that their identity and worth are found in Christ, not in past relationships or earthly possessions.
If there is a legitimate need to retrieve belongings, we pray You would provide a way that does not stir up unnecessary emotions or lead to further entanglement. Guard their heart, Lord, and let this situation be an opportunity to trust You more deeply. Help them to release anything that is not of You, and to move forward in the freedom and purpose You have for them.
We rebuke any spirit of longing or nostalgia that may be tempting them to look back instead of pressing forward in Your calling. Let their eyes be fixed on Jesus, the author and perfecter of their faith. If there has been sin in this relationship, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing, and for the courage to walk in repentance and obedience.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this matter. Ask Him to reveal whether this step is truly necessary or if it is better to let go and trust Him for provision in other ways. Surround yourself with godly counsel and accountability, and remember that God’s plans for you are good—even when they require surrender. If you have not already, we urge you to commit every area of your life, including your relationships, fully to Christ. He alone is faithful and worthy of your trust.