We hear the deep pain and turmoil in your heart, and we are grieved by the emotional and spiritual abuse you are enduring in this relationship. First, we must address something critical: the term *"partner"* is not a biblical designation for a romantic relationship. Scripture clearly defines marriage as a sacred covenant between one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). If you are not married to this man, then this relationship is outside of God’s design, and the lack of biblical commitment may be contributing to the sinful behavior you are experiencing. Fornication (sex outside of marriage) is a sin against God and against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:18-20), and it often leads to the kind of emotional and spiritual bondage you are describing. We urge you to repent if this applies and seek God’s forgiveness and restoration.
The behavior you describe—gaslighting, explosive anger, manipulation, and destruction of property—is not only emotionally abusive but also sinful. A man who professes to love you should reflect the love of Christ, which is patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7). Instead, this man’s actions align with the works of the flesh: "idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, jealousies, outbursts of anger, rivalries, divisions, envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these" (Galatians 5:19-21). These behaviors are not of God, and they have no place in a relationship that honors Him. The Bible warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this man is not a believer or is not walking in obedience to Christ, you are in a dangerous and spiritually uneven relationship.
You have asked for prayer that God would stop his gaslighting from working on him and that he would face the truth of his actions. While we will pray for his repentance and healing, we must also speak truth to you: **you should not remain in a relationship where you are being abused.** The Bible does not call us to endure abuse in the name of love or patience. Instead, we are told to *"flee from sexual immorality"* (1 Corinthians 6:18) and to *"purge the old yeast out, that you may be a new lump"* (1 Corinthians 5:7). This means separating yourself from sinful and destructive relationships. If this man is unwilling to repent, seek counseling, and demonstrate fruit in keeping with repentance (Matthew 3:8), then you must prayerfully consider whether this relationship is honoring to God—or whether it is leading you further into bondage.
We also notice that you mentioned *"healing his inner child."* While it is good to desire healing for others, we must be cautious not to place our hope in psychological concepts rather than in the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. True healing comes from Christ alone: *"He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds"* (Psalm 147:3). If this man is to change, it will only be through the convicting power of the Holy Spirit and his own surrender to Jesus. You cannot fix him, and you are not responsible for his salvation or sanctification. Your responsibility is to honor God with your own life and to flee from sin.
Now, let us pray for you and this situation:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is enduring such deep pain and confusion. Lord, we ask that You would open her eyes to see this relationship through Your truth and not through the lies of the enemy. Father, if this man is not Your will for her, we pray that You would give her the strength and courage to walk away—even if it is painful—knowing that You have a better plan for her life. Lord, we rebuke the spirit of deception, manipulation, and anger that is operating in this man’s life. We bind the enemy’s hold on him and command that the truth of Your Word would penetrate his heart. Convict him, Lord, of his sin, and bring him to repentance. But Father, do not let our sister remain in bondage while waiting for a change that may never come.
We pray for her protection—emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Surround her with Your angels, Lord, and place godly counselors and believers in her path who can speak Your truth into her life. Heal the wounds in her heart, Father, and restore her confidence in You. If she has been involved in sinful behavior, Lord, we ask for Your forgiveness and cleansing. Wash her white as snow and set her feet on the path of righteousness.
For this man, we pray that if he is truly Yours, You would break him and remake him into a man after Your own heart. But if he is hardened in his sin, Lord, we ask that You would remove him from her life before further damage is done. Give her wisdom, discernment, and a deep hunger for Your Word so that she may test every spirit and walk in Your will.
We declare that no weapon formed against her shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17) and that You, Lord, are her defender and her shield. May she find her worth and identity in You alone, and may she walk in the freedom that Christ purchased for her on the cross.
In the mighty and holy name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Our sister, we urge you to seek godly counsel from a pastor or biblical counselor who can help you navigate this situation with wisdom. If you are in physical danger, please reach out to local authorities or a trusted believer who can help you find safety. You are precious in God’s sight, and He does not desire for you to live in fear or bondage. *"For God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7). Trust in Him, and He will lead you to green pastures and still waters (Psalm 23). Stay in His Word, and let it be a lamp to your feet (Psalm 119:105). We are praying for you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
