We hear the deep ache in your heart as you wrestle with grief, sadness, and questions about God’s love and His plans for your life. It is good and right to bring these burdens before the Lord, for He invites us to cast all our cares upon Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7). Your honesty before God is not weakness, it is the beginning of healing and truth.
First, we want to gently but firmly address the concern in your words about God not showing you "unconditional love." Scripture makes it clear that God’s love is unconditional, but it is also holy and perfect. His love is not like the world’s love, which often demands nothing and excuses everything. God’s love is deeper, it calls us to repentance, transformation, and trust in His ways, even when they are difficult. Romans 5:8 tells us, "But God commends his own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." His love is not based on our performance or feelings but on His character. If you have felt distant from His love, we pray that the Holy Spirit would open your eyes to see His faithfulness in every season, even the painful ones.
You also mention that God has told you that you "were to be married." We want to encourage you to test this word carefully against Scripture and the counsel of mature believers. Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God (Genesis 2:24), but it must align with His timing and His will. If this is truly from the Lord, He will confirm it in His Word and through godly wisdom. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight." We pray that you would seek Him first, not just a spouse, and that He would prepare you for the husband He has for you, one who loves the Lord above all else and will cherish you as Christ cherishes the Church (Ephesians 5:25).
We also want to lovingly address the phrase "the God we all serve." There is only one way to the Father, and that is through Jesus Christ (John 14:6). If you have not placed your faith in Him as your Savior and Lord, we urge you to do so. Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12). If you have already confessed Christ as Lord, we encourage you to draw near to Him in this season, for He is the only source of true comfort and hope.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who is grieving and seeking Your face. Lord, You are near to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). We ask that You would meet her in this place of sorrow and draw her close to Your heart. Help her to see Your love not as the world defines it, but as You reveal it in Your Word, faithful, just, and full of grace.
Father, we pray for clarity and discernment regarding the words she has heard about marriage. If this is from You, confirm it in Your Word and through godly counsel. If it is not, we ask that You would gently redirect her steps. Prepare her heart to be a godly wife, and prepare the heart of the man You have for her, one who fears You, loves You, and will lead her in Your ways.
Lord, we rebuke any lies from the enemy that have made her doubt Your love or Your goodness. Replace those lies with Your truth. Help her to trust in Your timing and Your plans, even when they are unclear. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
We also pray for healing from any religious mindset that has brought bondage rather than freedom. Help her to know You as You truly are, a God who is both just and merciful, holy and loving. May she find her identity in Christ alone, not in her marital status or the opinions of others.
Father, we ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above all names, the only name by which we can come to You. Thank You for hearing our prayer. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.
We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, especially in the Psalms, where you will find raw honesty about grief and sorrow, but also unwavering trust in God’s character. Surround yourself with believers who can speak truth into your life and pray with you. If you have not already, consider seeking godly counsel from a pastor or mature Christian who can help you navigate these feelings and questions. You are not alone, and God has not forgotten you. He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28), even when it doesn’t feel like it. Keep pressing into Him.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. Thank You for loving me, Jesus. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
