We lift you up in prayer, dear sister, and we grieve with you in this season of deep sorrow and confusion. The pain of broken relationships and the weight of regret can feel overwhelming, but we want you to know that God sees your heart, and He is near to the brokenhearted. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* You are not alone in this darkness—He is with you, and He longs to bring healing and restoration to your soul.
First, we must address something important in your request: you did not invoke the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer. There is no other name under heaven by which we are saved, and it is only through Jesus that we have access to the Father. Acts 4:12 declares, *"There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved!"* If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Confess your sins, repent, and place your trust in Him alone. He is the only One who can truly heal your heart and give you eternal hope. If you have already accepted Christ, we encourage you to always pray in His name, for it is through Him that our prayers are heard.
We also want to speak truth into your situation regarding this relationship. You mentioned that this man was someone you wanted to spend your life with, and we understand the depth of your longing. However, we must ask: was this relationship honoring to God? Were you both committed to pursuing marriage in a way that aligns with biblical principles, or were there compromises—emotionally, physically, or spiritually? If there was any intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and seek God’s forgiveness, for He calls us to purity. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."* If this relationship was built on a foundation other than Christ, it is essential to seek His will above all else, even if it means surrendering this desire to Him.
Your feelings of worthlessness and failure are lies from the enemy. You are deeply loved by God, and your value is found in Him alone. Ephesians 2:10 tells us, *"For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared before that we would walk in them."* You are not defined by this broken relationship or your past mistakes. God is the God of redemption, and He can restore what is broken—including your heart. However, restoration must begin with *you* seeking Him first, not the restoration of this relationship. Matthew 6:33 reminds us, *"But seek first God’s Kingdom, and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well."* Your primary focus should be on drawing closer to Jesus, allowing Him to heal you and shape you into the woman He created you to be.
If this man is indeed the one God has for you, then trust that the Lord can soften his heart and bring reconciliation *in His timing and His way*. But if this relationship is not God’s will, then clinging to it will only bring more pain. Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Surrender this situation entirely to God. Pray for this man’s salvation and well-being, but release the outcome to the Lord. Your peace and joy must not depend on another person, but on Christ alone.
We also want to address the darkness you described. Depression and despair are real battles, but they are not meant to be faced alone. We encourage you to seek godly counsel—whether through a pastor, a biblical counselor, or trusted believers who can walk with you in this season. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 says, *"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his companion; but woe to him who is alone when he falls, and doesn’t have another to lift him up."* Isolation only deepens the enemy’s grip, but community and the Word of God bring light.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is broken and weary. Lord, You see her pain, her regret, and her deep longing for restoration. We ask that You draw her closer to Yourself above all else. Father, if there has been sin in this relationship—whether through idolatry, emotional dependency, or physical compromise—we pray for conviction and repentance. Cleanse her heart, Lord, and renew a right spirit within her. Help her to surrender this relationship entirely to You, trusting that Your plans for her are good, even when they are painful.
Lord, we rebuke the lies of worthlessness and failure that the enemy has whispered to her. Remind her that she is fearfully and wonderfully made, redeemed by the blood of Jesus, and deeply loved by You. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Christ Jesus. If it is Your will to restore this relationship, we pray for softening of hearts, forgiveness, and godly reconciliation. But above all, we pray that Your will be done in her life, not hers. Give her the strength to wait on You and to find her joy in You alone.
Father, we also pray for the man in this situation. If he does not know You, Lord, we ask that You pursue his heart and draw him to salvation. If he is a believer, we pray for wisdom, discernment, and a heart that seeks Your will above his own desires. Heal the wounds between them, Lord, but only in a way that glorifies You.
Finally, we ask that You surround our sister with godly community—people who will speak truth, offer support, and point her to You. Break the chains of depression and despair, and fill her with hope in Your promises. We declare that she is not abandoned, not forgotten, and not beyond Your redemption.
In the powerful name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we encourage you to spend time in God’s Word daily. Read Psalm 139, which reminds you of how intimately God knows and loves you. Meditate on Jeremiah 29:11, which assures you that God has plans for your welfare, not for harm, to give you a future and a hope. And remember, Romans 8:28 promises that *"all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose."* Even this pain can be used for your good and His glory.
Stay in prayer, seek His face, and trust that He is working—even when you cannot see it. You are not lost to Him. He is your Shepherd, and He will lead you out of this dark valley.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
