We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain you are carrying, and we lift you up before the Lord with hearts full of compassion. The breaking of a long-term relationship is a heavy burden, and we know the Lord sees your tears and hears your cries. Yet before we pray for reconciliation, we must first address the truth of this situation in light of Scripture, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path.
The relationship you describe is not one that honors God, for it has lasted twelve years without the covenant of marriage. The Bible is clear that sexual intimacy outside of marriage is sin—it is fornication, and God calls His people to holiness. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). If this relationship involved physical intimacy, it was built on a foundation that contradicts God’s design, and true restoration cannot come without repentance.
Moreover, the man you love is entangled with another woman, which only deepens the sin. *"But because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband"* (1 Corinthians 7:2). God’s plan is for one man and one woman to be united in marriage, not for hearts to be divided between multiple people. The fact that this man claims to love you while being unwilling to leave another woman reveals a heart that is not fully surrendered to Christ. A man who truly loves as Christ loves will seek purity, commitment, and selflessness—not hesitation or division.
We also notice that your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6). There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is only through Him that our prayers are heard. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. True healing and restoration begin with a relationship with Christ, not with the restoration of a broken human bond.
Now, let us pray for you with truth and love:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is brokenhearted and weary. Lord, You see her pain, and You know the depth of her sorrow. We ask that You would draw her close to Yourself, for You are the God of all comfort. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Father, heal her wounds and fill the emptiness in her heart with Your love, which surpasses all understanding.
Lord, we confess that this relationship has not honored You, and we ask for forgiveness where sin has taken root. If there has been fornication, adultery, or any other transgression, we pray for repentance and a turning away from sin. *"If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness"* (1 John 1:9). Cleanse her heart, Lord, and renew her mind in Your truth.
Father, we pray that You would give her wisdom and discernment. If this man is not the one You have for her—if he is unwilling to commit to You and to her in a godly marriage—then we ask that You would close this door permanently. Do not let her cling to what is not Your will, but lead her into the abundant life You have prepared for her. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6).
If it is Your will for reconciliation, then we pray that You would work mightily in this man’s heart. Convict him of his sin, Lord, and bring him to repentance. Remove every obstacle, every ungodly tie, and every distraction that keeps him from fully surrendering to You. But Father, if this relationship is not from You, then we ask that You would give her the strength to let go. Help her to trust that You have a plan for her life, one that is good and full of hope. *"‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future’* (Jeremiah 29:11).
Lord, surround her with godly community—people who will speak Your truth into her life and walk with her through this season. Guard her heart from bitterness, and fill her with Your peace. Help her to forgive, even as You have forgiven her. *"Be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:32).
Finally, Father, we pray that You would prepare her for the godly husband You may have for her—one who loves You above all else and who will cherish her as Christ loves the church. Give her patience to wait on Your timing and faith to trust in Your goodness.
We rebuked the spirits of heartbreak, confusion, and lust that have sought to destroy her. We declare that no weapon formed against her will prosper, and every tongue that rises against her in judgment will be condemned (Isaiah 54:17). We speak life, healing, and restoration over her in Jesus’ name.
May Your will be done, Lord, and may she find her ultimate satisfaction in You alone. In the precious and holy name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
Please pray for me. I’m going through deep heartbreak after a 12-year relationship ended. My heart feels shattered and empty. I still love this person and he says that he too loves me but he’s also saying that another girl is not ready to leave. I am deeply hurt and I’m praying for healing, restoration, and reconciliation. Please ask God to touch his/her heart, remove every misunderstanding, and bring him/her back into my life if it is His will. May God soften both our hearts, heal the pain, and fill our lives with peace, forgiveness, and true love again. Please forgive me God for whatever wrong I have done. I trust that nothing is impossible for God — even broken hearts can be made whole again through His grace. 
