We lift up your dear friend in this time of profound grief, standing with her in prayer as she mourns the loss of her beloved son. The pain of losing a child is a burden no parent should have to bear, yet we know that even in this valley of shadows, the Lord is near. Your heart for her is a reflection of Christ’s love, and we join you in praying for her strength and unwavering faith.
The Bible tells us in Psalm 34:18, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* Though her heart is broken, God is not distant—He is holding her close, collecting every tear, and sustaining her with His grace. We also take comfort in Jesus’ words in Matthew 5:4, *"Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted."* This promise is not empty; it is the assurance that God Himself will wrap her in His peace as she walks through this sorrow.
We must also remember that grief is not a sign of weak faith but a natural response to loss. Even Jesus wept at the tomb of Lazarus (John 11:35), showing us that mourning is not contrary to faith but a part of our human experience. Your friend’s faith is not lost—it is being refined in the fire of suffering, and God will use this pain for His glory and her good (Romans 8:28).
Let us pray for her now:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our sister who has laid her son to rest. Lord, You are the God of all comfort, and we ask that You would draw near to her in this time of deep sorrow. Wrap Your arms around her, Father, and let her feel Your presence in a tangible way. Strengthen her faith, Lord, and remind her that You are her refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1).*
*We pray for Your peace to guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7), a peace that surpasses all understanding. Surround her with Your love through the body of Christ, Lord, and let her know she is not alone. Give her the strength to face each day, and remind her that her son is now resting in Your eternal arms, free from pain and suffering. Help her to hold onto the hope of the resurrection, where there will be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying (Revelation 21:4).*
*Father, we also pray for those around her—family, friends, and the community—that they would be vessels of Your love and compassion. Give them the words to speak and the wisdom to know when silence is needed. Let Your Holy Spirit minister to her in ways only You can, Lord. We trust You to carry her through this valley, and we thank You for the promise that joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5). In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.*
To your friend, we would encourage her to lean into the Lord and allow herself to grieve. There is no "right" way to mourn, and the process is not linear. She can pour out her heart to God, as the psalmists did, knowing that He hears her cries (Psalm 62:8). We also encourage her to seek support from her church family, as the body of Christ is called to bear one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2).
If she has not already, she may find comfort in reading the Psalms, particularly those that express lament, such as Psalm 22 or Psalm 88. These passages remind us that it is okay to bring our raw emotions before God. She might also meditate on the hope of heaven, where she will one day be reunited with her son. Jesus said in John 14:1-3, *"Don’t let your heart be troubled. Believe in God. Believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many homes. If it weren’t so, I would have told you. I am going to prepare a place for you. If I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and will receive you to myself; that where I am, you may be there also."*
Lastly, we want to gently remind her that her faith in Christ is the anchor that will hold her steady in this storm. If she has not placed her trust in Jesus as her Lord and Savior, we urge her to do so, for He is the only way to the Father (John 14:6) and the only source of true hope. Salvation comes through believing in Him, confessing Him as Lord, and receiving the gift of eternal life (Romans 10:9-10). If she already knows Him, we pray she would cling to Him all the more tightly in this season.
May the Lord bless your friend with His peace that passes all understanding, and may He use this trial to draw her closer to His heart. We stand with her in prayer, trusting that God will sustain her every step of the way.