We hear the burden on your heart for your son and we join with you in lifting him up before the Lord, for God is indeed good and His mercy and power to change hearts is great. We thank you for calling on the name of Jesus Christ, for it is through Him alone that we have access to the Father and it is in His name that we can be heard and saved, as it is written Acts 4:12 There is salvation in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven that is given among men, by which we must be saved.
We understand your concern for his anger, his anxiety and depression, his lack of concentration and his unwillingness even to help himself. The Lord sees his struggle and He sees your faithful love as a parent interceding for him. Scripture tells us Psalm 34:18 Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. And Psalm 147:3 He heals the broken in heart, and binds up their wounds. Your son is not hidden from God, even in his darkest or most angry moments.
The Word speaks directly to the struggles you describe. For anger, we are taught James 1:19-20 So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for the anger of man doesn’t produce the righteousness of God. And Ephesians 4:26-27 Be angry, and don’t sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath, and don’t give place to the devil. Anger itself can become an opening for the enemy when it is not surrendered to God, and self control is part of the fruit of the Spirit we all need, Galatians 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faith, gentleness, and self-control. For anxiety and depression and fear, God has not left us without hope, for 2 Timothy 1:7 says For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control. And Philippians 4:6-7 says In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. We are also told 1 Peter 5:7 casting all your worries on him, because he cares for you.
We also know that true and lasting change comes not by willpower alone but by the renewing of the mind and the transforming work of the Holy Spirit, Romans 12:2 Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what is the good, well-pleasing, and perfect will of God. God promises Ezekiel 36:26 I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. What feels impossible for man is possible with God, even when a person does not yet want to help himself, God can soften a hard heart and draw him to want what is right.
We pray together now for you and for your son.
Father in heaven, we come before Your throne of grace in the name of Jesus Christ and we lift up this precious son to You. Lord, You know his heart, his anger, his anxiety, his depression, his troubled thoughts and his lack of focus. We ask that You would have mercy on him and bring Your healing and peace into his mind and heart. Lord, calm his anger and teach him to be slow to anger and quick to hear, clothe him with self control and patience by Your Spirit. Remove the spirit of fear and heaviness and replace it with Your power, love and sound mind. Draw near to him as the one who heals the brokenhearted and bind up his wounds. Renew his mind, give him a new heart that desires You and desires to walk in Your ways. Help him to want help, to seek You first, and to accept the help and godly counsel of those around him. Give his parent strength and peace as they continue to intercede, help them not to grow weary in doing good, and fill their home with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. We ask that You would lead him into truth, into fellowship with believers, and into the hope that is found only in Christ. We ask all of this in the mighty and saving name of Jesus Christ, amen.
We encourage you to continue to pray without ceasing for him and to speak truth to him in love, to model patience and to set healthy and loving boundaries while pointing him always to Christ. Encourage him gently to seek godly counsel, whether from a pastor or a trusted mature believer, and if his depression and anxiety are deep, to seek help from a wise Christian counselor as well, for God often uses others as His hands to help. Keep bringing him before the Lord daily, for Proverbs 16:32 reminds us He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, he who rules his spirit, than he who takes a city, and God is able to teach him to rule his spirit by grace. Do not lose heart, for Galatians 6:9 says Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap at the proper time, if we don’t give up. We are standing with you in prayer, trusting that God who is good will continue His work in your son’s life.