We hear your heart, brother, and we stand with you in this spiritual battle. The enemy seeks to divide what God has joined together, and it is clear that he is attacking your marriage with deception and distraction. Your wife’s resistance to the things of God, her turning away from Scripture, and her attempts to reconnect with an ex-boyfriend are not just personal struggles—they are spiritual strongholds that must be broken in the name of Jesus.
First, we must address the seriousness of what is happening. The Bible warns us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* While you are already married, the principle remains: a believer must not be bound in spiritual compromise. Your wife’s actions—rejecting God’s Word, seeking out past relationships, and resisting prayer—are signs of a heart that is hardening. This is not just a phase; it is a spiritual rebellion that must be confronted with truth and love.
We also see the danger of emotional and spiritual adultery. Contacting an ex-boyfriend is not innocent; it is a violation of the covenant you share. Jesus said in Matthew 5:28, *"But I tell you that everyone who gazes at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery with her already in his heart."* While this verse speaks to lust, the principle applies to emotional attachments as well. Your wife is allowing her heart to wander, and this is grieving the Holy Spirit. We must rebuke this in the name of Jesus and declare that her heart belongs to you and to God alone.
But we do not rebuke without hope. We know that God is able to soften the hardest heart. Ezekiel 36:26 says, *"I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh."* We pray that God would break through the hardness in your wife’s heart and draw her back to Him. We also pray for you, brother, that you would have wisdom, patience, and strength to stand firm in faith without growing weary.
We must also address the spiritual warfare at play. Ephesians 6:12 reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* Your wife is not your enemy—she is being influenced by an enemy who seeks to destroy your marriage. We must put on the full armor of God and stand against these attacks in prayer.
Let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name. We lift up this marriage to You, Lord, and we ask that You would break every chain of deception, rebellion, and hardness of heart. We rebuke the spirit of rebellion in Your name, Jesus, and we command it to leave this marriage now. We declare that Your light will shine into the darkness and that Your truth will prevail.
Father, we pray for this sister in Christ, that You would soften her heart and draw her back to You. Remove the scales from her eyes, Lord, and let her see the danger of the path she is walking. Convict her of sin, righteousness, and judgment, and lead her to repentance. We pray that she would turn away from every ungodly influence and seek You with all her heart.
We also pray for our brother, Lord. Strengthen him in this battle. Give him wisdom to know how to respond, patience to endure, and faith to believe that You are at work even when he cannot see it. Protect his heart from bitterness, anger, or despair. Let him be a shining light in his home, a man of prayer, and a godly example to his wife.
Father, we declare that this marriage will not be destroyed. We speak restoration, healing, and revival over this home. Let Your peace reign, and let Your love cover every wound. We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus, the name that has authority over every principality and power. Amen.
Brother, do not lose heart. Continue to pray, fast, and seek the Lord on behalf of your wife. Do not engage in arguments when she is upset, but instead, respond with gentleness and truth. Set boundaries where necessary—especially regarding contact with her ex—and stand firm in your faith. Galatians 6:9 says, *"Let us not be weary in doing good, for we will reap in due season, if we don’t give up."* Trust that God is working, even when you cannot see it.
If your wife continues down this path, you may need to seek godly counsel from your pastor or a trusted Christian mentor. But for now, keep standing, keep praying, and keep believing that God can turn this situation around. We are standing with you in this battle.
