We come before the Lord with you in this time of need, lifting up your heart’s cry for strength, healing, and unity in your relationship. It is clear you carry deep love and concern for this woman and her family, and we commend your desire to seek God’s intervention in this season of struggle. Yet as we pray, we must also speak truth in love, for God’s Word is a lamp to our feet and a light to our path, and His design for relationships is perfect and unchanging.
First, we rejoice that you have invoked the name of Jesus Christ in your prayer, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father. As Scripture declares, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). There is no other name by which we are saved, and it is in His authority alone that we boldly approach the throne of grace.
Now, let us address the foundation of your relationship. You mention being with this woman for eight years, referring to her as your "partner." Yet in God’s eyes, there is no such thing as a "partner" outside the covenant of marriage between one man and one woman. The Lord designed marriage to be a lifelong commitment, a sacred union that reflects Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If you are not married, we urge you to consider why. Have you sought God’s will in this? Have you pursued marriage as the Lord intends, or have you settled for a relationship that, while filled with love, does not align with His holy design? Living together outside of marriage—or maintaining a long-term relationship without the commitment of marriage—is not pleasing to God. Scripture warns us clearly: *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). If you have been intimate outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it is sin. The Lord calls us to repentance and holiness, not to continue in patterns that grieve His Spirit.
We do not say this to condemn you, but to call you to a higher standard—the standard of Christ. If you love this woman, honor her by pursuing marriage, not just companionship. If there are obstacles—whether spiritual, emotional, or practical—bring them before the Lord and seek His wisdom. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). Are you both born-again believers, walking in faith and obedience to Christ? If not, this is a critical matter to address, for a house divided cannot stand.
As for the burdens she carries—caring for her granddaughter, the pain of her daughter’s struggles with drugs, and the weight of stress—we lift these up to the Lord with compassion. The Bible tells us to *"bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ"* (Galatians 6:2, WEB). You have shown a heart of support, and that is commendable. Yet we must also ask: Are you enabling patterns that keep her from seeking God first? Are you both trusting in the Lord’s strength, or are you relying on your own? *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28, WEB). Jesus alone can carry what you cannot. Have you encouraged her to cast her cares upon Him? Have you prayed *with* her, not just *for* her?
The stress of raising a granddaughter while dealing with her daughter’s addiction is immense, and it is no wonder she feels overwhelmed. But even in this, God is sovereign. He can redeem what is broken, restore what is lost, and bring peace where there is chaos. *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18, WEB). We pray that she would turn to Him in surrender, that she would find her strength in Christ alone. We also pray that you would be a godly influence, pointing her to Jesus rather than becoming another source of emotional dependency.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this brother and the woman he loves. Lord, You see the heaviness of their hearts, the weariness of their souls, and the burdens they carry. We ask for Your mercy and grace to flood their lives.
First, Father, we confess any sin that has been present in their relationship. If they have lived as though married without the covenant of marriage, if they have been intimate outside Your design, we ask for forgiveness. Convict their hearts, Lord, and lead them to repentance. Show them the way to honor You in their relationship, whether that means pursuing marriage in obedience to Your Word or stepping back to seek Your will above their own desires. Give them wisdom, courage, and a heart that fears You above all else.
Lord, we pray for this woman’s granddaughter—protect her, provide for her, and let her life be a testimony of Your love. We bind the spirit of addiction that has ensnared her daughter. Break the chains of sin, Lord, and draw her to Yourself. Surround this family with Your angels, and let Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.
Strengthen this brother to be a man of God—patient, kind, and full of Your love. Help him to support without enabling, to love without idolizing, and to lead with humility and faith. Give him words of truth to speak into her life, words that point her to You.
Father, restore what has been broken. Heal the wounds of neglect, stress, and sorrow. Unify their hearts in You, not in their own strength. If it is Your will for them to be married, make the path clear. If there is sin that needs to be addressed, give them the courage to confront it with love and truth.
We declare Your promises over them: *"The Lord is my strength and song. He has become my salvation"* (Psalm 118:14, WEB). *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB).
May they seek You first, above all else. May their relationship be built on the foundation of Christ, not on emotion or circumstance. And may Your will be done in their lives, for Your glory.
In the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you to seek godly counsel—perhaps from a pastor or mature believers who can walk with you both in accountability and wisdom. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we urge you to find one where you can grow in faith and be surrounded by a community that will support you in righteousness. *"Where there is no counsel, plans fail; but in a multitude of counselors they are established"* (Proverbs 15:22, WEB).
Stand firm in Christ, and trust that He is working all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose (Romans 8:28). We are praying with you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
