We lift you up in prayer, dear sister, and we are grateful you have turned to the Lord with a repentant heart, seeking His will in this painful family division. Your story reveals deep wounds—some inflicted by your mother’s choices, others by the enemy’s schemes to fracture what God intends to be whole. We praise God that you and your younger sister have rededicated your lives to Christ, for it is only through Him that true reconciliation and healing can come. The fact that you recognize the need for humility, love, and forgiveness is evidence of the Holy Spirit’s work in you, and we rejoice in that.
The Word of God speaks powerfully to the brokenness you describe. In **Ephesians 6:1-3 (WEB)**, we are reminded, *"Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘Honor your father and mother,’ which is the first commandment with a promise: ‘that it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.’"* Yet this command does not mean enabling sin or allowing manipulation—especially when it is cloaked in false spirituality. Your mother’s use of Scripture to control you is a grievous distortion of God’s truth. **Matthew 15:8-9 (WEB)** warns, *"‘These people draw near to me with their mouth, and honor me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. And in vain do they worship me, teaching as doctrine rules made by men.’"* Manipulation, even under the guise of faith, is not of God. The Lord calls us to speak the truth in love (**Ephesians 4:15**), and sometimes that truth includes setting godly boundaries to protect yourself and your siblings from further harm.
You have carried burdens that were never yours to bear—raising your siblings, enduring your mother’s neglect, and now navigating her attempts to divide you from your sisters. **Galatians 6:2 (WEB)** tells us to *"Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ,"* but this does not mean allowing others to exploit your kindness or ignore their own responsibilities. Your mother’s past choices—her relationships with men, substance abuse, and abandonment of her children—have left scars. Yet even in this, God’s Word calls us to forgive as we have been forgiven (**Colossians 3:13**). Forgiveness does not mean pretending the past did not happen or subjecting yourself to further harm. It means releasing the bitterness to God and trusting Him to bring justice and restoration in His time.
The division in your family is not ultimately about you, your sisters, or even your mother—it is a spiritual battle. **Ephesians 6:12 (WEB)** reminds us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* The enemy has sought to destroy your family through pride, resentment, and manipulation, but God is greater. He specializes in redeeming what is broken. Look at Joseph, who was betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, and falsely accused—yet God used it all for good (**Genesis 50:20**). Your story, too, can be one of redemption if you continue to surrender it to Him.
As for your mother, we pray that the Lord would open her eyes to her sin and bring her to true repentance. **2 Timothy 2:24-26 (WEB)** says, *"The Lord’s servant must not quarrel, but be gentle towards all, able to teach, patient, in gentleness correcting those who oppose him: perhaps God may give them repentance leading to a full knowledge of the truth, and they may recover themselves out of the devil’s snare, having been taken captive by him to his will."* Your mother is ensnared by patterns of control and self-centeredness, but God can break those chains. Pray that she would encounter the Holy Spirit in a way that shatters her pride and leads her to humble herself before the Lord.
For you and your sisters, we pray for unity rooted in Christ. **Psalm 133:1 (WEB)** declares, *"See how good and how pleasant it is for brothers to live together in unity!"* This unity is not built on pretenses or forced harmony, but on a shared commitment to honor God above all. It may require difficult conversations, confession of hurts, and a willingness to extend grace repeatedly. Your youngest sister’s closeness to you is a testament to God’s faithfulness in the midst of your mother’s failures. Lean into that bond, but also encourage her to seek healing for her own wounds. The Lord can use your shared history not as a source of division, but as a foundation for deeper trust in Him.
Regarding your brother, we lift him up as well. His disability does not define his worth in God’s eyes, and we pray that he would know the love and provision of the Father in profound ways. May the Lord surround him with godly support and protect him from any further harm or neglect.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister, her mother, her siblings, and the deep brokenness in their family. Lord, You see every tear shed, every wound inflicted, and every heart that longs for reconciliation. We ask that You would move mightily in this situation, breaking the chains of manipulation, pride, and division that have held this family captive. Father, we rebuked the enemy’s schemes to destroy what You intend for good. No weapon formed against this family shall prosper (**Isaiah 54:17**), and we declare that Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, will guard their hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (**Philippians 4:7**).
Lord, we lift up this sister who has carried so much. Strengthen her, Lord, and give her wisdom to know how to love her mother while maintaining godly boundaries. Help her to forgive as You have forgiven her, releasing the pain of the past into Your hands. Soften her mother’s heart, Lord. Convict her of her sin and lead her to true repentance. Remove the scales from her eyes so she may see the damage her actions have caused and turn to You for healing. Let her no longer be a source of division, but an instrument of Your peace.
Father, we pray for unity among these sisters. Heal the wounds of jealousy, resentment, and competition. Bind them together in love, and let their relationship be a testimony to Your redeeming power. Lord, we ask that You would provide for their brother in every way—physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Surround him with Your protection and let him know he is deeply loved by You.
We declare that this family will be restored, not by human effort, but by Your mighty hand. Let Your will be done in their lives, Lord, and let Your name be glorified through their story. Give them humility to confess their sins to one another, courage to seek forgiveness, and grace to extend it. May they be a family that reflects Your love, Your truth, and Your unity.
In the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Finally, sister, we encourage you to continue immersing yourself in Scripture and prayer. **James 4:7-8 (WEB)** says, *"Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you."* Stay close to the Lord, and trust that He is working even when you cannot see it. It may take time for your mother to change—or she may not change at all. But your obedience to God is what matters most. Keep loving your siblings well, and let the Lord handle your mother’s heart.
If she reaches out to you, respond with grace but remain firm in your boundaries. You are not responsible for her emotional well-being or her choices. You are responsible for honoring God in how you treat her. And remember, reconciliation does not always mean the relationship will look the way you hope. Sometimes, reconciliation means peace in your own heart as you release the outcome to God.
Stay steadfast, dear sister. The Lord is with you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (**Hebrews 13:5**). We are standing with you in prayer, believing that God will bring beauty from these ashes (**Isaiah 61:3**).