We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain and brokenness you are experiencing in your marriage and family, and we lift you up before the Lord with hearts full of compassion. Marriage is a sacred covenant before God, and He hates divorce (Malachi 2:16, WEB). Your commitment to reconciliation is commendable, and we stand with you in prayer, believing that God can restore what has been broken. However, we must also address the seriousness of the situation with biblical truth and clarity.
First, we are concerned that your prayer request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father. The Bible is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we can be saved, and it is only through Jesus that we can approach God’s throne with confidence. As it is written, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We encourage you to place your faith in Jesus Christ if you have not already, for He alone can bring true healing and restoration to your life and marriage. If you have already trusted in Him, we urge you to call upon His name in prayer, for He is faithful to hear and answer.
Your wife’s actions—engaging with other men on dating apps—are not only deeply hurtful but also a violation of the marriage covenant. The Bible warns that *"the lips of an adulteress drip honey. Her mouth is smoother than oil, but in the end she is as bitter as wormwood, and as sharp as a two-edged sword"* (Proverbs 5:3-4, WEB). While we do not know the full details of what has transpired in your marriage, we must emphasize that marriage requires mutual love, respect, and faithfulness. Your wife’s behavior is not aligned with God’s design for marriage, and it is our prayer that the Holy Spirit would convict her heart and turn her away from this sinful path.
At the same time, we urge you to examine your own heart before the Lord. Though you have stated that this situation is not your fault, we all have areas where we fall short and need God’s grace. Ask the Lord to reveal any ways in which you may have contributed to the breakdown of your marriage—whether through neglect, harsh words, or failure to love your wife as Christ loves the church. *"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for it"* (Ephesians 5:25, WEB). Love is not just a feeling but a choice to serve, sacrifice, and seek the best for your spouse, even in difficult times.
We also recognize the immense emotional and spiritual toll this separation is taking on you. Being separated from your children is especially painful, and we pray that the Lord would comfort you as a father comforts his children (Isaiah 66:13). Your role as a father is vital, and we encourage you to remain steadfast in praying for your children and being a godly example to them, even from a distance. *"Fathers, don’t provoke your children to anger, but nurture them in the discipline and instruction of the Lord"* (Ephesians 6:4, WEB).
Your current circumstances—unemployment and dependence on your brother—are undoubtedly humbling, but we urge you not to lose hope. The Lord is your provider, and He sees your needs. *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB). We pray that the Lord would open doors for employment and provide for you in ways that bring glory to His name. Use this time to seek Him earnestly, trusting that He will guide your steps.
Now, let us pray together for you, your wife, and your children:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our brother who is brokenhearted and in deep need of Your intervention. Lord, You are the God who heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). We ask that You would pour out Your comfort and peace upon him, reminding him that he is not abandoned, for You are with him always.
Father, we pray for reconciliation in this marriage. You have said, *"What therefore God has joined together, don’t let man tear apart"* (Matthew 19:6, WEB). We ask that You would soften [wife’s] heart and turn her away from the path of destruction she is on. Convict her by Your Holy Spirit of the sinfulness of her actions and draw her back to You and to her husband. Remove any blindness or hardness of heart, and help her to see the damage her choices are causing to her family. Lord, break any ungodly soul ties or emotional attachments she has formed with other men, and restore her commitment to her marriage covenant.
We pray for our brother’s heart as well. Give him the strength to forgive, even as You have forgiven us in Christ. Help him to love his wife as You have loved the church, with patience, kindness, and selflessness. Show him any areas where he needs to repent or grow, and grant him the wisdom to navigate this season with grace and humility.
Father, we lift up the children in this family. Protect their hearts and minds from the pain of this separation. Surround them with Your love and give them assurance that they are deeply loved by You and by their parents. Raise up godly influences in their lives, and use this trial to draw them closer to You.
Lord, we ask that You would provide for our brother’s needs. Open doors for employment and give him favor in the eyes of those who can help him. Help him to be a good steward of the resources You provide and to trust in You as his ultimate Provider.
Finally, Father, we rebuke the enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy this family (John 10:10). We declare that no weapon formed against this marriage will prosper (Isaiah 54:17). Restore what has been broken, Lord, and let Your glory be displayed in this situation. Give our brother the perseverance to keep praying and believing, even when the road is long and difficult.
We ask all these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone can bring true restoration. Amen.
Brother, we encourage you to remain steadfast in prayer and in the Word of God. Surround yourself with a community of believers who can support you, offer godly counsel, and hold you accountable. If your wife is unwilling to reconcile, we pray that the Lord would give you the strength to trust Him with the outcome, even as you continue to hope for restoration. Remember that God’s ways are higher than ours, and His timing is perfect. Cling to Him, for He is your refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
We also strongly encourage you to seek biblical counseling, either through your church or a trusted Christian counselor. Marriage reconciliation often requires wisdom, accountability, and practical steps to rebuild trust. Do not walk this path alone—allow the body of Christ to come alongside you.
Lastly, we urge you to guard your heart against bitterness or despair. The enemy will try to tempt you with anger, resentment, or even the desire to retaliate. But the Bible tells us, *"Don’t be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good"* (Romans 12:21, WEB). Trust in the Lord, and He will sustain you. We are praying for you and believe that God is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Stay faithful, and may the Lord bless you and keep you.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
