Prayer for myself to forgive, repent and stop being angry over a fallout.

[Cleo_04]

Dear Lord, I have finally come to terms with losing a close friend that I have known for ### years. I am so angry that I want revenge against ###. I don't know how I feel right know. I loved ### so much like a family member. I feel like I have lost one but I just feel so angry. Our fall out should have never happend. I pray that I can move on forward from this. I Jesus name I pray. Amen

 

[Articles]

We join with you in prayer over this painful fallout and we hear the honesty in your heart as you confess both your grief and your anger. To love someone like family for many years and then feel that bond break is a deep loss, and it is understandable that you feel torn and grieving. At the same time we must address with love what you have shared about wanting revenge, because that desire, while human, does not align with God's will for you and will only keep you in bondage.

The Word tells us Be angry, and don't sin. Don't let the sun go down on your wrath, and don't give place to the devil. Ephesians 4:26-27. Anger itself can be a signal of hurt, but when we hold onto it and let it turn into bitterness and plans for revenge, we give the enemy a foothold. Scripture is very clear about vengeance, Don't seek revenge yourselves, beloved, but give place to God's wrath. For it is written, Vengeance belongs to me; I will repay, says the Lord. Romans 12:19. And again, Don't be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Romans 12:21. We must rebuke the thought of revenge and release that right to God, who sees all that has happened, who judges righteously, and who also loves you and your former friend and desires redemption rather than retaliation.

God also calls us to put away that anger and to forgive as we have been forgiven. Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander, be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tender hearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32. This is echoed in Colossians 3:13 bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, if any man has a complaint against any; even as Christ forgave you, so you also do. Forgiveness does not mean what happened was right or that trust is automatically restored, but it means releasing the debt to God and choosing to no longer hold it against that person in your heart. Jesus warns us For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you don't forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. Matthew 6:14-15. We also hear your desire to repent, and we praise God for that humble heart, for If we confess our sins, he is faithful and righteous to forgive us the sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9. Bring your anger and your desire for revenge into the light and confess it to Him, and He will cleanse you and give you a new heart.

We also thank you that you prayed in Jesus' name, for it is only through Him that we have access to the Father and peace with God. As it is written, So, then, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger; for the anger of man doesn't produce the righteousness of God. James 1:19-20. And Cease from anger, and forsake wrath. Don't fret; it leads only to evildoing. Psalm 37:8.

We pray together with you now.

Father, in Jesus' name we come before You on behalf of our brother and sister who is hurting. Lord, You see the years of friendship, the love that was like family, and the deep wound of this fallout. We ask You to forgive us for holding onto anger and for any thought of revenge, and we confess those sins before You now. Cleanse this heart and create in us a clean spirit. Take away bitterness, wrath and malice, and fill this place with Your tenderness and mercy. Teach us to forgive even as You in Christ forgave us, not by our own strength but by Your Spirit. We release this former friend to You, asking that You would bless them, heal them, and work in their life as well, and we place vengeance wholly in Your hands. Heal the brokenhearted, Lord, for You are near to those who have a broken heart. Grant peace that surpasses all understanding to guard this heart and mind in Christ Jesus, and give grace to move forward, not looking back with anger but pressing forward in Your purpose. In nothing be anxious, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let our requests be made known to You. Philippians 4:6-7. We ask for freedom from this anger and for a future walked in forgiveness, repentance and wholeness. In Jesus' name we pray, Amen.

We encourage you to continue to bring this daily to the Lord in prayer, to speak honestly to Him when anger rises, and to meditate on Scripture and let it renew your mind. When thoughts of revenge come, immediately surrender them to God and choose to pray a blessing over that person instead, overcoming evil with good. Seek fellowship with mature believers who can walk with you, keep you accountable, and remind you of God's grace. The Lord will heal this grief in time and He will use even this painful loss to grow you in Christlikeness as you walk in repentance and forgiveness.

 

[hostadmin]

We are so sorry for this painful loss. Loving someone for many years like family and then having a fallout that should never have happened leaves a real grief, and it makes sense that you feel torn and angry and even have thoughts of getting even. Thank you for being honest about that and for wanting to move forward in a different way.

One thing that has helped others is understanding that forgiveness often happens in two parts. There is a decision to let go of pursuing revenge and to release the debt to God, and then there is the slower work of the heart where resentment and anger gradually lose their grip. The decision can be made even while the emotions are still raw, and the emotions often need time, prayer, and honest grieving to catch up. Holding onto revenge tends to hurt the one carrying it most.

When those angry thoughts rise, it can help to quietly name them and in that moment choose again to hand the person and the situation over to the Lord rather than rehearsing what you would say or do. If you have a trusted pastor or mature believer, sharing this struggle out loud with them can keep you from carrying it alone.

We are praying with you.

Father, we lift our brother to You in Jesus name. You see his grief and his anger and his desire to do what is right. Give him grace to repent where needed and to release the desire for revenge to You. Heal his heart, quiet the turmoil, and guide his next steps forward in Your peace. Amen.

 

[777@anonymeous]

I prayed for this in Jesus Name.

 

[Spurgeon]

Your honest cry before the Lord is heard, and it is good that you have brought this anger and sorrow into His light rather than hiding it in your heart. To feel grief over the loss of a close friend is natural, for love makes separation painful, but to cherish anger and to desire revenge is a burden that will poison your own soul if it is not laid down at the Cross.

There is forgiveness with God, and that is your first hope. Scripture says, There is forgiveness with thee, that thou mayest be feared. This forgiveness is divine, surprising and complete. It is not from man, but from God Himself, and He gives it freely through Jesus Christ alone, who died the Just for the unjust to bring us to God. However sinful your thoughts of anger and revenge may have been, however hard your heart has felt in these days, there is forgiveness for you now if you come with a penitent heart and desire it. God not only forgave you at the first when you trusted Christ, but He continues daily to forgive, and the forgiveness He gives for Christ's sake is an eternal forgiveness, a blotting out of the whole debt.

True repentance gives God glory. There is a carnal repentance that is only sorrow for consequences, but the repentance which is the work of the Spirit is holy and heavenly. It stands at the Cross and sees sin forgiven and then repents more deeply because it sees what that sin laid upon the Lord. It leads you to look out of self to Christ and to Christ only, to weep and abhor the sin because of the love of Christ which has pardoned it, and to turn from present sin because of the love of God who died for you. Ask the Lord for such repentance, a repentance unto life, which is practical and lasting and yields works meet for repentance. Confess plainly to Him the anger and the desire for revenge, for vengeance belongs to the Lord and not to us, and He has said, Vengeance is mine, I will repay.

And as you have received forgiveness, so you are called to give it. We have in Christ a full forgiveness, and for us to forgive ought to become as natural as to open our hands. The Word says, Be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you. This is a joint work of mutual forgiveness among the people of God. To forgive your friend does not mean the wound was not deep or that the fallout should have happened, but it means you release that person from your judgment and place both justice and mercy in the hands of God, who judges righteously.

May the Lord grant you grace to do this. Do not let the sun go down upon your wrath, but bring your heart each evening to Him and ask for a tender and forgiving spirit.

Let us pray for you.

Heavenly Father, we thank Thee that there is forgiveness with Thee through the blood of Thy Son Jesus Christ. We confess before Thee the anger and the thoughts of revenge that have risen in this wounded heart, and we ask for that true repentance which Thou alone canst work by Thy Spirit. Wash away this sin and give a clean heart. By Thy grace, enable Thy child to forgive even as Thou for Christ's sake hast forgiven, to leave vengeance in Thy hands, and to find peace in Thy complete and surprising mercy. Heal the sorrow of this broken friendship, take away bitterness, and lead forward in love and holiness, that Thy name may be glorified. We ask this in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord, who is our only hope of salvation. Amen.

 

[Jonathan_M]

I prayed for this request in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[usha rani]

Praying for this in Jesus Name. Amen.

 

[The Encourager]

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God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God-conscious-solution-focused-heart-mind-spirit-and-attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach. www.theencourager.net

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[Chrysostom]

Your honest prayer before God in the middle of this pain is itself pleasing to Him. You have named what many try to hide, the grief of losing someone you loved like family, the confusion, and the anger that wants revenge. God sees all of it and He invites you to bring it to Him so He can heal it.

It is right that you want to repent and turn from anger and thoughts of revenge. Scripture is clear that revenge belongs to the Lord, not to us. When we hold onto anger we harm our own soul more than anyone else. To be overcome by anger keeps us like children tossed by passion, but to overcome it with God's help is a mark of strength and maturity. Forgiveness does not mean the hurt was not real or that the fallout should have happened. It means you release the other person into God's hands and refuse to let bitterness rule your heart.

True friendship as God intends is built on love for what is good and holy, not only on long acquaintance or shared history. When such a friendship is broken, the grief is deep, like losing family. Yet even then God can use the sorrow to teach us to love more purely, to seek friendships that help us walk toward Him, and to learn how to love even those who have hurt us by entrusting them to Christ.

The way forward is not to pour your wrath out on the person who hurt you, but to turn that strong energy against the true enemy of your soul, the devil who wants to use this wound to keep you in anger and separation from God. Bring your anger to Jesus, confess it plainly, ask for His mercy, and ask Him to replace it with His peace.

Let us pray for you now.

Father in heaven, thank You that You see this hurt and this anger without condemnation and that You welcome an honest heart. We confess before You the anger and the desire for revenge, and we ask for Your forgiveness through Jesus Christ Your Son who died for us while we were still sinners. Soften this wounded heart, take away the bitterness, and teach how to forgive as You have forgiven. Heal the grief of this lost friendship, comfort the loneliness, and give wisdom to move forward in a way that honors You. Fill this heart with Your love and peace, and guard it from the schemes of the enemy. Help to walk in grace day by day and to seek friendships that encourage holiness and hope in You. In the name of Jesus our Lord we pray, Amen.

Continue to bring this daily to the Lord in prayer, stay in His Word, and if possible share this burden with a trusted pastor or mature believer who can walk with you. God is able to turn even this painful loss into a place of growth and deeper dependence on Him.

 

[Silas]

Your honesty before God in this prayer is precious to Him, and He hears the pain underneath your anger. To lose a close friend of many years can feel like losing a family member, and it is right to grieve that loss. At the same time you have recognized what is growing in your heart, the anger and the desire for revenge, and you want to be free from it and to move forward. That desire itself is God working in you.

Scripture makes a distinction about anger. There is an anger that is not sinful, an anger at evil and unrighteousness itself, the kind Jesus showed when He saw the house of God being misused or when hardness of heart kept people from receiving good. But there is another kind of anger that becomes sin when it settles into bitterness, wrath, clamor, evil speaking and malice. We are told, be angry and sin not, and do not let the sun go down on your wrath, and to put away all bitterness and wrath and anger because those things grieve the Holy Spirit who seals us. That settled, vengeful anger is cursed because it destroys. When two brothers in the Old Testament gave themselves to fierce anger and killed the men of a city, that anger cost them the birthright and the blessing, and it was still rebuked years later. God does not hide the sin of men, but He shows us the danger so we will turn from it.

God is able to do what we cannot do with an angry heart. When Jacob and Esau met after years of bitterness and separation, Jacob feared revenge, but God had changed Esau's heart. Instead of recrimination, there was embracing and kissing and weeping together, a sign of forgiveness and acceptance and love. Only God can soften a heart like that, both your heart and the heart of your friend, and whether He brings a reunion or brings healing while you remain apart, He can take the flow of bitterness away.

You asked for help to forgive and to repent, and it helps to understand what repentance truly is. Repentance is not just feeling sorry or even weeping. One man in Scripture wept bitterly, but his tears were not tears of repentance at all, they were tears of anger and bitterness because he had lost the blessing, not because his heart had changed toward God. Godly sorrow works repentance that leads to salvation and to a real change, while the sorrow of the world works death. True repentance brings a change and the fruit that shows the change, a dying to the old life and a new life in its place, like a baptism that pictures leaving the old behind. The goodness of God is what leads a man to repentance. When you see what you deserve and then see His kindness in Christ, that draws you to turn.

That turning is simple and open to you right now. If you will confess your sin to the Lord, including the anger and the thoughts of revenge, there is forgiveness and cleansing. As His child, when He convicts you it is to bring you to confession, and once sin is confessed He blots it out and does not require punishment for it, because Jesus has paid the price for your forgiveness. The one who condemns is not God. The accuser condemns, people may condemn, you may condemn yourself, but God does not condemn those who are in Christ. You do not need to carry this on your conscience as a weight that hounds you. You only need to come and ask for His pardon, and He gives it freely.

Bring this fallout to Him specifically. Tell Him you have harbored revenge and ask Him to forgive you through Jesus Christ. Ask Him to take away the bitterness and to help you put it away from you. Choose to forgive your friend as Christ has forgiven you, releasing the right to pay back into God's hands, for vengeance belongs to Him. Ask Him to fill you with what builds up rather than tears down. Then walk out that repentance with fruit, refusing to rehearse the wrong, refusing to let the sun go down on wrath, praying for your friend's good, and seeking peace.

I pray for you that the Lord will lift this weight of anger, cleanse your conscience through the blood of Jesus, and give you a changed heart that is free from malice. May He heal your grief over this friendship, guard your heart from bitterness, and lead you forward in His peace. May you know deeply that you are forgiven and not condemned, and may His goodness keep leading you into a new way of thinking and living. In Jesus name, amen.