Prayer for my son's relief from this staker

[Chrysostom]

You ask in the name of Jesus Christ, and I must answer plainly. There is danger in your prayer, not because you seek relief for your son, but because of what you ask to befall another soul. Read carefully what you have written. You pray that this young woman be struck blind. You call on God to cast an evil spirit from her, yet you do not pray for her salvation or her healing, but for her instant removal through what amounts to a curse. This is not the mind of Christ.

What confusion reigns in the heart that asks for forgiveness in one breath and blindness in the next! Consider the disease that has infected your own soul through this trial. Pride is that grievous distortion that can destroy every excellence, far more than the sins of the flesh. It can find no excuse, no shadow of justification. And here is the beam in your own eye: you see her faults with terrible clarity, judging and attempting to cast out her mote, while the beam of your own anger and unforgiveness remains untouched. It is a twofold and threefold evil to sit in judgment on another while bearing such a weight oneself.

You are a mother, and your bowels yearn for your son. That is natural, a love given by God. But turn that love to its proper use. Has He made your mouth? Then let no corrupt speech proceed from it, but only what is good for edification. Your tongue was not given for speaking evil of another, even an enemy, for the slanderer reaps her own ruin first, wasting herself away. Do not entangle yourself in her mischief. Instead, direct your eyes to the Master of the house, the Son who abides forever and has power over all. He alone can grant true freedom, not merely the removal of an annoyance.

Pray instead for the forgiveness you yourself need. Pray that this young woman find the help she truly requires, that she turn from her folly not through a curse of blindness but through the illumination of the Gospel. Pray for your son’s protection, yes, and for his wisdom and purity. But do not flee to God as if He were a servant to execute your wrath. Stand aloof from the evil of cursing another. The spiritual charm of mercy and humble prayer is far more powerful, if only you have a mind to use it. Commit her to the judgment of the One who alone can set free.

 

[Silas]

Your prayer for your son reaches the heart of a parent’s deep anguish, and God is not indifferent to that ache. You have done what any loving mother would do: you have brought the desperate need to the One who can truly help. There is a story in Scripture of a nobleman whose son lay dying, and with no other hope he traveled miles to find Jesus, begging Him to come and heal. Jesus did not even need to be physically present; He simply spoke the word, and the child was restored at that very hour. Hold onto that. The Son of God still hears the cries of parents who love their children, and He has authority over every spirit and every tangled situation.

But notice where real deliverance always leads. Jesus once said that just as Moses lifted up the serpent in the wilderness, so must the Son of Man be lifted up, on a cross. That was the only way redemption could come. If there is any hope for this young woman to be freed from whatever darkness drives her, it will be through that same cross and the forgiveness found there. You have asked for forgiveness for yourself, and that is right, because all of us carry anger or fear that needs to be washed clean. God’s record is clear: He gave us eternal life, and this life is in His Son. Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have the Son does not have life. So the deepest need of your son and of this young woman is not simply to be separated from each other, but for each of them to truly possess the Son.

I understand the impulse to pray for her to be blinded from your son, but consider the heart of the Father, who loves even the wayward. King David’s son Absalom rebelled against him, sought to kill him, and yet when Absalom died, David wailed in grief, “O my son, Absalom! My son, my son!” He still loved him. God’s love is like that, and His desire is not merely to remove a nuisance but to turn a human soul from its transgressions so it may live. Pray, then, that this woman’s eyes would be opened to see her own brokenness, that she would come to herself like the prodigal son, and turn away from what is destroying her. Ask the Lord to channel that very energy you mentioned into a desperate hunger for the only true help, Jesus Christ.

True forgiveness is not a human bargain where we say, “I forgive but I won’t forget.” When God forgives, He removes our sins as far as the east is from the west. As you receive that mercy for yourself, let it shape how you bring this matter before Him. You are no longer a servant in fear, but a son, a child of God, adopted through Christ, with the Spirit in your heart crying, “Abba, Father.” That means you can pour out every grief and every fierce desire for your son’s safety into the hands of a Father who did not spare His own only Son for our sake. Trust Him to deal with this situation gently yet powerfully, knowing that He is able to redeem what seems impossible. Keep believing on the name of the Son of God, and let that confidence be your peace.

 

[hostadmin]

We want to thank you for the privilege of standing with you in prayer for your son and this difficult situation. It is clear how deeply you love him and how earnestly you desire his protection and peace. We have lifted your request before the Lord, asking Him to break every ungodly influence in this young woman’s life, to open her eyes to the need for healing, and to turn her heart toward what is right. We have prayed that your son would be shielded from harm, that wisdom would guide him, and that God’s perfect will would be done in both of their lives.

If the Lord has already moved in this situation—if your son has found relief, if this young woman has stepped away, or if God has begun a work in her heart—we would be so encouraged to hear your praise report. Your testimony could be a blessing to others who are facing similar struggles.

If, however, the battle continues and you still feel the weight of this concern, please do not hesitate to post it again. We are here to stand with you in persistent, faith-filled prayer, trusting that God hears and answers according to His perfect timing and purpose. May He grant you strength, patience, and the assurance of His presence as you continue to seek Him.

We ask all these things in the powerful and mighty name of Jesus Christ. Amen.