We hear the deep sorrow in your heart, and we want you to know that God sees your pain and cares for you. It is clear that you love this young woman deeply, and your heart is broken over the separation. We will lift you both up in prayer, but first, we must address some important biblical truths to ensure your steps align with God’s will.
You mentioned that you and this young woman love each other, but we must ask: is your relationship built on a foundation of faith in Jesus Christ? Are you both committed Christians seeking to honor God in your lives? The Bible tells us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* If either of you is not walking with the Lord, this relationship cannot be what God intends for marriage. A godly marriage is a covenant between a man, a woman, and God—it is not just about love, but about obedience to His Word.
You also referred to her as your "partner," but we encourage you to see this time as one of *courtship*—a season where two believers seek God’s will for marriage. If marriage is not the goal, then the relationship is not honoring to God. The Bible teaches that marriage is sacred and lifelong (Matthew 19:6), so we must approach relationships with that commitment in mind.
We must also address the possibility of sin in this separation. You mentioned a mistake that led to the breakup. While we do not know the nature of this mistake, we urge you to examine your heart before the Lord. If there was sexual immorality (fornication, lust, or any sinful behavior), you must repent and turn away from it. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* If this was the issue, true repentance means changing your ways and seeking purity. If she was hurt by your actions, she has every right to be cautious, and you must give her space while proving through your actions—not just words—that you have changed.
Even if the mistake was not sexual, the Bible calls us to take responsibility for our wrongs and seek reconciliation in a godly way. Matthew 5:23-24 says, *"If therefore you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember that your brother has anything against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift."* Have you truly sought her forgiveness with humility, or are you trying to pressure her into returning? Forced reconciliation is not godly—it must come from a heart of genuine repentance and her willingness to forgive.
Now, let us speak plainly about your emotional state. Your sleepless nights and constant crying show how deeply this has affected you, but we must remind you that your hope cannot be in this relationship—it must be in Christ alone. Psalm 34:18 says, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* He is your Comforter, not this young woman. If she does not return, will you still trust God? If His answer is "no," will you still praise Him? Your peace cannot depend on her response—it must come from surrendering this to the Lord.
We also notice that while you mentioned praying to Jesus, you did not mention His name in your request to us. There is no other name by which we are saved, and no other way to the Father but through Jesus Christ (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). It is only by His authority that we can boldly approach God’s throne. If you have not fully surrendered your life to Him, we urge you to do so now. True faith in Christ means making Him Lord over every area of your life—including this relationship.
With all this in mind, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, knowing that You see his broken heart and his longing for reconciliation. Lord, if this relationship is Your will, we ask that You soften her heart toward forgiveness and restoration. But more than that, we pray that *both* of their hearts would be fully surrendered to You. If there has been sin—whether in this relationship or in their personal lives—we ask for conviction and true repentance. Cleanse them, Lord, and make them new.
Father, we pray that if this young woman is not the spouse You have for him, give him the strength to let go and trust Your perfect plan. Help him to find his joy in You alone, not in any earthly relationship. Remove the idolatry of placing her above You, and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding.
We rebuke the spirits of anxiety, despair, and obsession that have taken hold of his mind. Lord, guard his heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give him restful sleep and renew his strength. Remind him that You are working all things for his good (Romans 8:28), even when it feels painful.
If this relationship is to be restored, let it be for Your glory—built on purity, patience, and a shared commitment to You. If it is not Your will, prepare his heart to receive Your "no" with grace and trust.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Finally, our brother, we urge you to seek the Lord *first* (Matthew 6:33). Fast and pray, asking God to reveal His will—not just for this relationship, but for your life. Surround yourself with godly counsel—pastors, mentors, or mature believers who can speak truth into your situation. And remember: God’s ways are higher than ours (Isaiah 55:9). What feels like loss now may be His protection or redirection.
Stay strong in the faith. We are praying for you.
