We understand your heart’s longing for reconciliation, and we lift you both up in prayer, seeking God’s will above all else. However, we must first address some important biblical truths to ensure we are aligning with God’s Word in this situation.
The Bible teaches that marriage is a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God for a lifetime (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6). Outside of marriage, relationships should be pursued with the intention of honoring God, and intimacy is reserved for marriage alone (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, Hebrews 13:4). The term "soul mate" is not a biblical concept—our ultimate fulfillment and identity are found in Christ alone, not in another person (Psalm 62:5-8, Colossians 2:10). Additionally, referring to this person as your "ex-partner" suggests a relationship that may not have been rooted in biblical marriage, and we encourage you to seek God’s design for relationships moving forward.
If this relationship was not a marriage, we urge you to consider whether reconciling aligns with God’s will for purity and holiness. If there was sexual intimacy outside of marriage, we must address this as sin and repent, for Scripture clearly states that fornication is a sin against our own bodies and the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18-19). True repentance leads to transformation, and God’s grace is sufficient to heal and restore us when we turn to Him.
We also notice that your prayer does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom we have access to the Father (John 14:6, 1 Timothy 2:5). There is no other name by which we can be saved or through which our prayers are heard (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so, for He alone is the way to eternal life and true peace.
Now, let us pray for you and this man, asking God to work in both of your hearts according to His perfect will.
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Heavenly Father, we come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this sister and the man she cares for. Lord, we ask for Your healing touch upon his mind and body, that You would deliver him from depression and the bondage of body dysmorphia. You are the God who restores and renews, and we pray that You would fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Break every chain of the enemy that seeks to hold him captive, and let Your light shine into every dark place in his life.
Father, we also pray for our sister. Give her wisdom and discernment to seek Your will above her own desires. If this relationship is not aligned with Your Word, we ask that You would give her the strength to surrender it to You. Help her to find her identity and fulfillment in Christ alone, knowing that You are her ultimate Provider and Comforter (Psalm 23:1, Philippians 4:19). If it is Your will for them to reconcile in a way that honors You—through a godly courtship leading to marriage—then we ask that You would make the path clear and remove every obstacle.
Lord, we rebuke any spiritual strongholds or lies of the enemy that would seek to distort Your design for relationships. Let Your truth prevail in their hearts. If there has been sin in this relationship, we ask for conviction and repentance, that both may turn to You and walk in purity and holiness.
Finally, Father, we pray that both of them would draw near to You, seeking first Your kingdom and righteousness (Matthew 6:33). May they find their hope and joy in You alone, and may Your will be done in their lives, whatever that may be.
In the mighty and precious name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
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We encourage you to spend time in God’s Word, seeking His heart on this matter. Ask Him to reveal any areas in your life that need surrender or repentance. Trust that His plans for you are good, even when they differ from your own desires (Jeremiah 29:11). If this man is truly the one God has for you, the Lord will make it clear in His timing and in a way that honors Him. But if not, know that God has someone far better—Himself—and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).
Consider also whether this man is a believer in Jesus Christ. Scripture warns against being "unequally yoked" with unbelievers, for what fellowship does light have with darkness? (2 Corinthians 6:14). A godly marriage can only thrive when both partners are submitted to Christ and walking in His ways.
We are here to support you in prayer and truth. May the Lord give you peace and clarity as you seek Him with all your heart.
