We hear the deep pain and longing in your heart, and we want to lift you up in truth and love, for God’s Word is the only foundation upon which lasting relationships can be built. Before we pray, we must first address some critical matters in light of Scripture, for we care deeply about your soul and your alignment with God’s will.
First, we notice that your request does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom *all* prayers must be offered to the Father. There is no other name by which we are saved, and there is no other way to approach God except through His Son. As Scripture declares, *"I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me"* (John 14:6, WEB). If you have not yet surrendered your life to Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for apart from Him, there is no true peace, restoration, or eternal hope. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and commit to following Him wholeheartedly. Only then can your prayers—and this relationship—be fully aligned with God’s purposes.
Now, regarding this relationship, we must speak truth in love. You mention that you and this man were dating for two years, yet there is no indication that this relationship was centered on Christ or that marriage was the godly goal. Dating without the intent of marriage—especially between believers—can easily lead to emotional bondage, fornication, and heartache, none of which honor God. Scripture warns us not to be *"unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB) and to flee from sexual immorality, for *"the body is... for the Lord, and the Lord for the body"* (1 Corinthians 6:13, WEB). If this man is not a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, pursuing this relationship further would be disobedience to God’s Word. Even if he is a believer, if the relationship has been marked by sin—such as premarital intimacy, bitterness, or uncontrolled emotions—it must be repented of and surrendered to Christ before true restoration can occur.
You also mention that you "liked another guy" during your time apart. This reveals a heart that was not fully committed or guarded, which is dangerous. Proverbs 4:23 (WEB) tells us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* A relationship built on shifting emotions rather than covenant commitment before God is unstable. Additionally, your repeated attempts to contact him—even to the point of "spamming his phone"—are not healthy or godly. Pursuing someone who is ignoring you, especially with desperation, can push them further away and does not reflect the dignity or self-control we are called to in Christ. *"A man’s pride will bring him low, but honor shall uphold the humble in spirit"* (Proverbs 29:23, WEB). You must release this man to God’s will and trust that if this relationship is from the Lord, He will restore it *in His timing and His way*—not through manipulation or emotional pressure.
Lastly, we must address the possibility of sexual sin in this relationship. Though you do not explicitly state it, the depth of your emotional attachment and the mention of "taking advantage" of his love suggest that boundaries may have been crossed. If there has been any physical intimacy outside of marriage, this is fornication, and it must be repented of. *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB). True love does not defile; it waits, it honors, and it seeks God’s best.
Now, let us pray for you with hearts aligned to God’s Word:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this precious soul who is hurting and seeking Your will. Lord, we ask first and foremost that if this woman does not know You as her Savior, You would draw her to Yourself today. Open her eyes to see her need for Jesus, that she may repent of her sins and place her full trust in Him. Let her find her identity, worth, and peace in Christ alone, for apart from You, there is no lasting joy or restoration.
Father, we pray for clarity and conviction in this relationship. If this man is not a believer, we ask that You would give her the strength to let him go, for Your Word commands us not to be bound together with unbelievers. If he is a brother in Christ, we pray that You would expose any sin—including fornication, bitterness, or idolatrous attachment—and bring both of them to repentance. Cleanse their hearts, Lord, and renew their minds by Your Word. Break any soul ties that have formed outside of Your will, and set them free from emotional bondage.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of desperation and fear that has driven her to pursue this man in her own strength. Teach her to wait on You, to trust in Your timing, and to find her comfort in Your presence. *"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight"* (Proverbs 3:5-6, WEB). Give her the grace to stop contacting him and to surrender this relationship entirely to You. If it is Your will for them to be restored, let it be *You* who softens his heart and draws him back—not through human effort, but by Your Spirit.
We pray for healing from the pain of rejection and the wounds of the past. Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding, and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Remove all bitterness, anger, and resentment from both of their hearts, and replace it with Your love and forgiveness. If there has been sexual sin, we ask for deep conviction and repentance, that they may honor You with their bodies and their emotions.
Father, if this relationship is not from You, give her the strength to walk away and the faith to trust that You have someone better—a godly husband who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25). If this relationship *is* from You, restore it in a way that glorifies Your name, with both of them fully submitted to Your Lordship. Let their bond be built on Christ, not emotion, and let their love be patient, kind, and selfless (1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
We declare that You, Lord, are the God of restoration and redemption. You see her tears, You hear her cries, and You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18). Comfort her in this season, and let her find her hope in You alone. In the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to spend time in God’s Word daily, especially in Psalms for comfort and Proverbs for wisdom. Seek godly counsel from a mature believer or pastor who can help you navigate this season with biblical discernment. Surround yourself with a community of believers who will point you to Christ, not enable emotional decisions. And remember: *"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord. Trust also in him, and he will do this"* (Psalm 37:4-5, WEB). Your first desire must be for *Him*—then He will align the desires of your heart with His perfect will.
Stay strong in the Lord, and do not lose hope. He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28).