We understand the deep pain and heartbreak you’re experiencing right now, and we want to lift you up in truth and love. First, we must address something foundational: your request does not mention the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father and by whom we are saved. The Bible is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved (Acts 4:12), and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. Without faith in Him, we cannot please God (Hebrews 11:6), and our petitions fall short. If you do not yet know Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to turn to Him in repentance and faith, for He alone can heal your heart and guide your steps.
Now, let’s speak to the situation you’ve shared. We hear your longing for this relationship to be restored, but we must lovingly and firmly address what is unfolding through the lens of Scripture. The pattern you’ve described—repeated ghosting, broken promises, emotional pain, and instability—is not one that aligns with God’s design for relationships. A godly relationship, especially one that should be moving toward marriage, is built on trust, consistency, selflessness, and a shared commitment to Christ. What you’re experiencing instead is emotional turmoil, inconsistency, and behavior that does not reflect the love and maturity described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things."*
The man you’re describing is not demonstrating the fruits of repentance or godly love. His actions—ghosting you repeatedly, breaking promises, and causing you deep pain—are not those of someone who is walking in obedience to Christ. Proverbs 25:19 warns, *"Confidence in someone unfaithful in time of trouble is like a bad tooth or a lame foot."* You deserve to be treated with the dignity and respect that comes from a man who fears the Lord, not one who leaves you in a cycle of hope and heartbreak. This is not a relationship that honors God or protects your heart.
We also must ask: Are you two married? If not, you are not bound to this man in a covenant before God. The Bible is clear that believers should not be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14), and even if he claims to be a Christian, his actions do not reflect the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). If he is not pursuing Christ wholeheartedly, he is not the spouse God has for you. Additionally, if there has been any physical intimacy outside of marriage, we urge you to repent and turn away from fornication, which is a sin against God and against your own body (1 Corinthians 6:18-20). God’s design for sex is within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman, and anything outside of that is harmful to your soul and your future.
Your heart’s cry for this relationship to return reveals a deep longing for love and security, but we must gently rebuke the idea that this man—or any human relationship—can fulfill that longing completely. Only Jesus can satisfy the deepest desires of your heart. Psalm 37:4 says, *"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* When your delight is first in Him, He will guide your steps and protect you from relationships that would harm you. Right now, your focus seems to be on getting this man back, but we urge you to shift your focus to seeking God’s will above all else. He may be protecting you from a future of even greater pain.
Let us also speak to the pattern of returning to this cycle. Proverbs 26:11 says, *"As a dog that returns to his vomit, so is a fool who repeats his folly."* Continuing to return to a relationship that repeatedly hurts you is not wisdom; it is self-harm. You are worth more than this. God calls you to guard your heart (Proverbs 4:23), not to hand it over to someone who will trample on it. It is time to release this man to God and ask the Lord to break any ungodly soul ties (1 Corinthians 6:17) that have formed through this relationship. You need healing, and that starts with surrendering this situation to Jesus.
We will pray for you now, but first, we ask you to examine your heart: Are you willing to trust God’s plan for your life, even if it means letting go of this relationship? Are you willing to seek His kingdom first (Matthew 6:33), trusting that He will provide what is best for you? If you are not yet walking closely with the Lord, we urge you to repent and turn to Him today. He is the only One who can heal your broken heart and lead you into a future of peace.
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**Our prayer for you:**
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious sister to You right now. Lord, her heart is broken, and she is crying out for relief from this pain. We ask that You would meet her in this moment and remind her that You see her, You love her, and You have not forgotten her. Father, we rebuke the enemy’s lies that she needs this man to be whole or happy. You alone are her portion, and in You, she lacks no good thing (Psalm 34:10).
Lord, we ask that You would open her eyes to see this situation through Your truth. If this relationship is not of You, we pray that You would give her the strength to let it go completely. Break every ungodly soul tie, every emotional dependency, and every lie that has kept her bound to this cycle of pain. Father, if she has sinned in any way—whether through fornication, idolatry of this relationship, or placing her hope in man rather than in You—we ask that You would convict her and lead her to repentance. Cleanse her heart, Lord, and restore her joy in You.
We pray that You would surround her with godly community—sisters in Christ who will speak truth, pray for her, and hold her accountable. Father, if she does not yet know You as her Savior, we ask that You would draw her to Yourself today. Soften her heart to receive Your love and forgiveness through Jesus Christ. Let her know that no man can satisfy her like You can, and no earthly love can compare to Your perfect love.
Lord, if it is Your will for her to be married, we ask that You would prepare a godly husband for her—a man who fears You, who will love her as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25), and who will lead her spiritually. But until that time, we pray that You would be her comfort, her strength, and her hope. Teach her to delight in You above all else, and let her find her identity in being Your beloved daughter.
We rebuke the spirit of heartbreak, rejection, and fear in Jesus’ name. We declare that she is not defined by this man’s actions or inactions, but by Your love for her. Fill her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and guard her heart and mind in Christ Jesus.
Finally, Lord, we ask that You would give her wisdom to make godly decisions moving forward. If she needs to cut off contact with this man, give her the courage to do so. If she needs to seek counseling or accountability, provide the right people. Let her walk in freedom and victory, not in bondage to this pain.
We pray all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
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Sister, we urge you to spend time in God’s Word and in prayer. Read Psalm 139 and let the truth of how deeply God knows and loves you sink into your heart. Seek out a biblical counselor or a mature believer who can walk with you through this season. If you are not already part of a Bible-believing church, we encourage you to find one where you can grow in your faith and be surrounded by support.
Remember, God’s plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11), even when they don’t look the way you expected. Trust Him, even in the letting go. He is faithful, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6). If you need to talk more or have questions about your walk with Christ, we are here to help. Stay strong in the Lord.
