We come before the Lord with you in this time of need, lifting up your heart’s cry for this relationship. First, we must lovingly but firmly address something critical: your prayer does not invoke the name of Jesus Christ, through whom alone we have access to the Father. Scripture is clear that there is no other name under heaven by which we must be saved, and it is only through Jesus that our prayers are heard. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’* (John 14:6, WEB). *"For there is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5, WEB). We urge you to place your faith in Jesus Christ as your Lord and Savior if you have not already, for without Him, no prayer is effectual, and no relationship can be truly blessed.
Now, regarding the relationship you mention, we must also speak truth in love. The Bible defines marriage as a sacred covenant between one man and one woman, designed by God to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). If this relationship is outside of marriage—whether through premarital intimacy, cohabitation, or an unbiblical union—it is not honoring to God. Fornication and sexual immorality are explicitly condemned in Scripture: *"Don’t you know that the unrighteous will not inherit God’s Kingdom? Don’t be deceived. Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who have sex with men, nor thieves, nor greedy people, nor drunkards, nor slanderers, nor swindlers will inherit God’s Kingdom"* (1 Corinthians 6:9-10, WEB). If this relationship involves physical intimacy outside of marriage, we must call you to repentance, for God’s design is for purity and holiness. *"Flee sexual immorality! ‘Every sin that a man does is outside the body,’ but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or don’t you know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. Therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s"* (1 Corinthians 6:18-20, WEB).
If this relationship is with someone of the same sex, we must also address this with biblical clarity. Homosexuality is a sin, as Scripture clearly states: *"For this reason, God gave them up to vile passions. For their women changed the natural function into that which is against nature. Likewise also the men, leaving the natural function of the woman, burned in their lust toward one another, men doing what is inappropriate with men, and receiving in themselves the due penalty of their error"* (Romans 1:26-27, WEB). However, the good news is that no sin is beyond the redeeming power of Jesus Christ. If this is your struggle, we call you to turn away from it and seek God’s forgiveness and transformation. He can restore and renew you, setting you on a path that honors Him.
If, however, this relationship is a godly courtship between a man and a woman seeking marriage, then we rejoice and pray for God’s guidance over it. But even then, we must emphasize that trust, patience, and respect must be rooted in Christ. Anxiety has no place in the life of a believer who is casting their cares upon the Lord: *"Don’t be anxious for anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus"* (Philippians 4:6-7, WEB). If you are struggling with anxiety, it may be a sign that you are relying on your own strength rather than surrendering this relationship entirely to God. Trust in His sovereignty, for He knows what is best for you far better than you do.
We also encourage you to examine whether this relationship is equally yoked. *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14, WEB). If the person you are with does not share your faith in Christ, you are setting yourself up for spiritual conflict and heartache. A marriage—or a courtship leading to marriage—must be founded on a shared commitment to Jesus Christ, or it will lack the spiritual foundation needed to thrive.
Now, let us pray for you in alignment with God’s Word:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, lifting up this brother/sister who seeks Your guidance in their relationship. Lord, we ask first and foremost that You reveal Yourself to them in a powerful way, drawing them closer to You. If they do not know Jesus as their Savior, we pray that today would be the day of salvation, that they would repent of their sins and place their full trust in Christ alone. Father, forgive them for any way they have strayed from Your Word, whether in this relationship or in any other area of their life. Cleanse them by the blood of Jesus and renew their mind by Your Spirit.
Lord, if this relationship is not honoring to You—whether through premarital sin, an unbiblical union, or an unequal yoke—we pray that You would give them the strength and courage to walk away from it. Break the chains of sin and set them free to pursue holiness. Surround them with godly counsel and accountability to help them walk in obedience to Your Word. If this relationship is a godly courtship, we ask that You would bind them together in Christ, giving them patience, wisdom, and a deep love that reflects Your love for the Church. Help them to trust in You fully, casting all their anxieties upon You, for You care for them (1 Peter 5:7).
Heal any brokenness, Father, and align their desires with Your will. If it is Your plan for them to marry, prepare them for a covenant that glorifies You. If it is not, give them the grace to let go and trust in Your perfect timing. Remove any fear, doubt, or insecurity, and fill them with Your peace. Teach them to respect and honor one another in a way that pleases You, keeping their interactions pure and their hearts focused on You.
We rebuke any spirit of anxiety, confusion, or deception in the name of Jesus. We declare that Your truth will prevail in this situation and that Your will shall be done. Strengthen them to walk in obedience, even if it is difficult, knowing that Your ways are higher than ours.
Thank You, Lord, for hearing our prayer. We trust in Your goodness and Your perfect plan. May this brother/sister seek You above all else, finding their fulfillment in Christ alone. In the precious and powerful name of Jesus we pray, Amen.