We hear your heartache, dear sister, and we lift you up before the Lord with great compassion. The pain of losing your husband was deep, and now this new sorrow weighs heavily upon you. We want to first acknowledge the faithfulness of God in carrying you and your children through your season of grief—He has been your strength, even when you could not feel it. *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted, and saves those who are crushed in spirit."* (Psalm 34:18)
We must gently address a matter of concern in your request. While we understand your longing for companionship and the desire for this man to return to you, we must examine this relationship in light of Scripture. You mentioned that you and he are not of the same religion, though you both claim faith in God. The Bible is clear that believers are not to be *"unequally yoked with unbelievers"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). This principle extends beyond just salvation—it speaks to shared faith, doctrine, and the foundation of a godly marriage. Even if he professes faith, if his beliefs do not align with the truth of God’s Word, this can lead to spiritual conflict and heartache, as you are now experiencing.
Marriage is a sacred covenant designed by God to reflect Christ’s relationship with the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). When two people are not united in their walk with the Lord, it can create division, confusion, and pain—not just for the couple, but for their families and future generations. We must ask: Is this relationship honoring to God? Are you both seeking His will above your own desires? The fact that he is struggling with fear and brokenness from his past is understandable, but it also reveals that this relationship may not be built on the solid foundation of Christ.
We also want to gently remind you that our prayers must align with God’s will, not our own. While it is natural to want this man back in your life, we must surrender our desires to the Lord and trust that His plans for you are good—even when they are different from what we envision. *"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope."* (Jeremiah 29:11) This does not mean God does not care about your heartache, but that He sees the bigger picture and knows what is best for you.
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up this dear sister who is grieving yet again. Lord, You know the depths of her pain—the loss of her husband, the hope she had in this new relationship, and now the fear of losing that as well. We ask that You would comfort her with Your peace that surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). Wrap Your arms around her and her children, reminding them that You are their refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1).
Father, we pray for this man who is struggling with fear and brokenness. We ask that You would minister to his heart, healing the wounds of his past and drawing him closer to You. If it is Your will for him to be in this sister’s life, we ask that You would remove every obstacle and align his heart with Yours. But Lord, if this relationship is not of You, we ask that You would make that clear to both of them. Give them the strength to surrender their desires to You and to trust in Your perfect plan.
We rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or division that may be at work in this situation. We declare that Your will be done, and that Your name be glorified in all things. Help this sister to fix her eyes on You, Lord, and to find her hope and identity in Christ alone. Remind her that You are the God who restores, who heals, and who makes all things new (Revelation 21:5).
We pray for godly wisdom and discernment for her as she navigates this season. Surround her with Your people—believers who will speak truth, pray for her, and encourage her in her walk with You. May she find her joy and fulfillment in You, knowing that You are enough.
Lord, we also lift up the possibility of a future marriage for her, if that is Your will. We ask that You would prepare a godly man who loves You above all else—a man who will cherish her, lead her spiritually, and honor You in their union. May she not settle for anything less than Your best for her life.
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone has the power to heal, restore, and redeem. Amen.
Dear sister, we encourage you to seek the Lord earnestly in this time. Spend time in His Word, allowing it to speak truth into your heart. Surround yourself with fellow believers who can pray with you and offer godly counsel. Remember that God’s timing is perfect, and His plans for you are far greater than anything you could imagine. If this man is not the one God has for you, trust that He has someone even better in store. If he is, trust that God will work in his heart in ways you cannot.
You are not alone in this. The Lord sees your tears and collects them in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). He is close to you, and He will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5). Keep your eyes on Him, and let your heart find its rest in His promises.
