We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you are facing in your marriage, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. We will stand with you in prayer and offer biblical guidance to help you navigate this challenging situation.
Firstly, it is important to address the issue of abuse. The Bible tells us that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). Any form of abuse, whether verbal, emotional, or physical, is not consistent with the love of Christ. God does not intend for you to endure such treatment, and it is crucial to seek help and safety. Consider the words in Psalm 55:22 WEB, "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved."
Secondly, regarding your husband's alcoholism, it is clear that this has become a stronghold in his life and a source of pain in your marriage. The Bible warns us not to be drunk with wine, wherein is excess, but to be filled with the Spirit (Ephesians 5:18 WEB). His assertion that God gave him free will to drink is a misinterpretation of scripture. While God does give us free will, He also calls us to live soberly, righteously, and godly in this present world (Titus 2:12 WEB).
It is also crucial to address the fact that your husband blames you for the demise of your marriage. This is a form of manipulation and is not in line with the biblical principle of each person bearing their own burden (Galatians 6:5 WEB).
We encourage you to seek godly counsel, either from a pastor, biblical counselor, or a trusted Christian mentor. They can provide you with guidance tailored to your specific situation and help you determine the best course of action. It is also important to surround yourself with a supportive community of believers who can pray with you, encourage you, and help you bear this burden (Galatians 6:2 WEB).
In your prayer request, you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. Therefore, the prayers should be in the name of Jesus. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB, Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."
Let us pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is struggling in her marriage. Lord, You know the pain and heartache she is experiencing, and You promise to be close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18 WEB).
Father, we pray for Your protection and provision for our sister and her child. Guide her to a place of safety and surround her with people who will support and encourage her in this difficult time. Give her the strength and courage to make the decisions that honor You and are best for her and her child.
Lord, we also pray for her husband. We ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to the destructive path he is on. Convict him of his sins and draw him to Yourself, that he may find forgiveness, healing, and true freedom in Christ.
Father, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment for our sister. Help her to know what steps to take and give her the grace to take them, one day at a time. Comfort her with Your love and remind her of the hope she has in Jesus.
In the name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.
Know that you are deeply loved by God, and He has a plan and a purpose for your life. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this storm. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11).