Prayer for my marriage that is toxic or discernment to walk away

Anonymous

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My husband and I have had a toxic relationship since we first met. He is verbally and emotionally abusive and because I address issues with him, instead of talking it out, he blocks me and ignores me. I am pregnant now and emotionally it is depressing and quite unbearable. He has been an alcoholic for years and when I say anything about it, I am wrong for it, it affects our whole family and marriage. He tells me God gave him free will to drink if he chooses. He doesn’t see the issues with it and is never accountable for anything. To him our demise in our marriage is my fault. I am just always hopeful for our marriage to flourish through being close to God and change. I pray and cry about this throughout most of my days. My husband tells me to be realistic and not hopeful that our marriage is over. Please any prayers would be much appreciated.
 
We are truly saddened to hear about the difficulties you are facing in your marriage, and we want you to know that you are not alone in this struggle. We will stand with you in prayer and offer biblical guidance to help you navigate this challenging situation.

Firstly, it is important to address the issue of abuse. The Bible tells us that husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her (Ephesians 5:25 WEB). Any form of abuse, whether verbal, emotional, or physical, is not consistent with the love of Christ. God does not intend for you to endure such treatment, and it is crucial to seek help and safety. Consider the words in Psalm 55:22 WEB, "Cast your burden on Yahweh, and he will sustain you. He will never allow the righteous to be moved."

Secondly, regarding your husband's alcoholism, it is clear that this has become a stronghold in his life and a source of pain in your marriage. The Bible warns us not to be drunk with wine, wherein is excess, but to be filled with the Spirit (Ephesians 5:18 WEB). His assertion that God gave him free will to drink is a misinterpretation of scripture. While God does give us free will, He also calls us to live soberly, righteously, and godly in this present world (Titus 2:12 WEB).

It is also crucial to address the fact that your husband blames you for the demise of your marriage. This is a form of manipulation and is not in line with the biblical principle of each person bearing their own burden (Galatians 6:5 WEB).

We encourage you to seek godly counsel, either from a pastor, biblical counselor, or a trusted Christian mentor. They can provide you with guidance tailored to your specific situation and help you determine the best course of action. It is also important to surround yourself with a supportive community of believers who can pray with you, encourage you, and help you bear this burden (Galatians 6:2 WEB).

In your prayer request, you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ. It is only by the name of Jesus that we have access to God. Also, there is no other name by which we can be saved. Therefore, the prayers should be in the name of Jesus. As it is written in John 14:6 WEB, Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me."

Let us pray together:

Dear Heavenly Father,

We come before You in the name of Jesus, lifting up our sister who is struggling in her marriage. Lord, You know the pain and heartache she is experiencing, and You promise to be close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18 WEB).

Father, we pray for Your protection and provision for our sister and her child. Guide her to a place of safety and surround her with people who will support and encourage her in this difficult time. Give her the strength and courage to make the decisions that honor You and are best for her and her child.

Lord, we also pray for her husband. We ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to the destructive path he is on. Convict him of his sins and draw him to Yourself, that he may find forgiveness, healing, and true freedom in Christ.

Father, we ask for Your wisdom and discernment for our sister. Help her to know what steps to take and give her the grace to take them, one day at a time. Comfort her with Your love and remind her of the hope she has in Jesus.

In the name of Jesus Christ, we pray. Amen.

Know that you are deeply loved by God, and He has a plan and a purpose for your life. Trust in Him, and He will guide you through this storm. "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says Yahweh, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you hope and a future" (Jeremiah 29:11).
 
Dear friend, we're here with you, holding your hand through this storm. We know the weight you carry, and we want you to know that you're not alone. We've been praying for you and your marriage, asking God to intervene and bring healing.

We've been reminded of 2 Corinthians 1:3-4, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God." We're here to comfort you, just as God has comforted us.

We've been interceding for your husband, asking God to open his eyes to the pain he's causing and to soften his heart. We've been praying for him to be convicted of his actions and to turn to God for forgiveness and healing. We believe in the power of prayer, and we trust that God can reach even the hardest of hearts.

We've also been praying for you, dear friend. We've been asking God to give you the strength and courage to make the decisions that honor Him and are best for you and your baby. We've been praying for God's wisdom and discernment to guide your steps, and for His comfort to surround you in this difficult time.

Remember, "Cast your cares on the Lord and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken." (Psalm 55:22, NIV) Trust in God, and He will see you through this.

We're here for you, every step of the way. Let's keep lifting each other up in prayer, in Jesus' name.
 
Thank you both for the prayers, words of wisdom to follow, and trust in God.
Sometimes I feel as though I am not emotionally equipped to avoid the toxic situations with my husband.
I am going to focus on prayer and surrounding myself with like followers and just pray for my husband.
I have a Christian counselor, which is good, and have signed up for couples counseling, but I feel there is a long wait as we have already waited very long.

As in the reference to the scriptures about the abuse and alcoholism, I have used these scriptures to show my husband God and the Bible tell us to call out abuse. Although I believe the Bible is a guidance and written for us how to like Godlike, my husband tells me that I am weaponizing scripture when I bring the scriptures up. He also tells me it is a way to control him, so I don't know that’s what I’m faced with.

Anyhow, thank you again, I appreciate you both ❤️
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

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Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
 
Lord, we pray for this prayer and family for blessings healing and salvation. Heal and bless. May their lives be a praise and glory unto thee.
Come to the Lord's holy presence. Seek him with all your heart. Cling to his Word and meditate on it moment by moment by positive thoughts and joy in the heart (James 1:2-4), knowing that the Lord is good and to him be all the praise. Seek first God's kingdom and his righteousness (Matthew 6:33). Even though life may feel hard, the Lord's hand will be on you, and he will answer in his time. I am praying for you. Amen.

Some resources that might help.

Needs: - But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19(KJV)

Salvation: - So they said "Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and you will be saved you and your household." Acts 16:31(NKJV)

Healing: - But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, And by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5(NKJV)

Fulfillment by the Holy Spirit: - Then he answered and spake unto me, saying, This is the word of the LORD unto Zerubbabel, saying, Not by might, nor by power, but by my spirit, saith the LORD of hosts. Zechariah 4:6(KJV)

Persecutions: - But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. Luke 6:27-28(KJV)

Help in Prayer

Dwelling and Thriving in God’s grace where everything happens for good (Romans 8:28)

Pray that the Lord may open the eyes of the nations affected by coronavirus (Specifically forces against God’s people)

sermons

Be a Prayer Warrior: “Praying for others”
 
May God in Jesus' name answer your prayer request according to God's perfect love, wisdom, will, timing, grace, and mercy. Thank You Jesus!!!

Psalm 37:4: Delight yourself in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Matthew 6:33: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.


🙏Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. God bless me to prosper, walk in excellent health, and never stop growing in the love, grace, and knowledge of Christ Jesus. God bless me to know You in truth, fall in love with You with all my heart, mind, soul, body, and strength and never fall out of love with You. Bless me to have an ever growing closer stronger, more intimate relationship with You. Bless me with the love, desire, strength, and the spirit of obedience to always delight myself in You, seek first Your kingdom, Your righteousness, and to always respect and obey You. Bless me to trust You with all my heart, acknowledge You in all my ways, and lean not to my own understanding.

God heal me in every area of my life. Deliver and cleanse me of everything in my life that doesn't honor You. Transform and renew my mind. Bless me with love, power, and a sound mind. Let the mind that is in Christ Jesus be in me. Bless me to have and operate with a God solution focused heart, mind, spirit, and attitude. Bless me to have a God Kingdom Culture Mentality. God be with me as a mighty warrior. Let no weapon formed against me prosper. Protect me from all the plans of my enemies and the plans of the enemy of my soul. God, all that I have asked of You, in this prayer, please do the same for the writer of the prayer, all those who love and care about me, and all those I love and care about. God, please forever honor this prayer over each of our lives. God Thank You. Amen, so be it by faith, and by faith, it is so
. Prayer written by The Encourager-Prayer Warrior-Board Certified Professional Christian Life Coach.
 

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