We lift you up in this challenging season, dear sister, and we are grateful you have brought this burden before the body of Christ for prayer and discernment. The struggles you describe are not merely professional—they are deeply spiritual, and we must approach them with wisdom, prayer, and a firm reliance on Scripture. You have already shown great patience and grace in dealing with this situation, but now is the time to seek the Lord’s clear direction with even greater urgency.
First, let us address the spiritual warfare at play. The enemy loves to use fear, division, and discouragement to distract believers from their God-given purposes. The apostle Paul warns us in Ephesians 6:12, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* This woman’s repeated pattern of negativity, threats, and manipulation is not merely a personality quirk—it is a tool the enemy is using to sow discord, doubt, and exhaustion in your leadership. The fact that she targets you and your husband, who are believers, is no coincidence. Satan seeks to destabilize those who are walking in faith, especially in positions of influence like yours.
Yet we must also recognize that this woman is not your true enemy. She is a lost soul, trapped in bitterness, loneliness, and unbelief. Her atheism is a stronghold, but as you rightly said, no one is beyond the reach of God’s redemption. Her life reflects the brokenness of a world without Christ—depression, isolation, and a lack of hope. While her behavior is harmful, we must pray for her salvation even as we seek wisdom on how to handle her professionally. Jesus said in Matthew 5:44, *"But I tell you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who mistreat you and persecute you."* This does not mean tolerating sinful behavior indefinitely, but it does mean approaching this situation with a heart that desires her eternal good.
Now, let us speak to the practical and biblical principles for handling this situation. Proverbs 22:10 says, *"Drive out the mocker, and strife will go out; yes, quarrels and insults will stop."* While we must extend grace, we are not called to endure endless manipulation, especially when it threatens the health of your business and the well-being of your other employees. You have already tried reasoning, boundaries, prayer, and even ignoring her—yet the pattern persists. This is a sign that stronger action may be necessary. Proverbs 26:21 warns, *"As coal is to burning coals, and wood to fire, so is a contentious man in kindling strife."* Her behavior is not just a personal struggle; it is actively harmful to the culture you and your husband have worked to build.
We encourage you to consider whether keeping her in a leadership role is wise. If she continues to spread discord, undermines morale, and makes demands that are not aligned with the company’s values or financial health, it may be time to remove her from her position—or, if necessary, from the company altogether. This is not unloving; sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for someone is to set firm boundaries that prevent them from continuing in sin. Galatians 6:1 says, *"Brothers, even if a man is caught in some fault, you who are spiritual must restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness; looking to yourself so that you also aren’t tempted."* However, this assumes the person is repentant. If she remains unrepentant and disruptive, further enablement is not biblical stewardship.
That said, before making any final decisions, we urge you to seek the Lord in fasting and prayer. Ask Him for a clear strategy—whether that involves a final confrontation, a demotion, or termination. James 1:5 promises, *"But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach; and it will be given to him."* The Lord may also be using this situation to refine your own leadership, teaching you to trust Him more deeply rather than reacting in fear or people-pleasing. Psalm 37:5-6 says, *"Commit your way to Yahweh. Trust also in him, and he will do this: he will bring out your righteousness as the light, and your justice as the noonday."*
As for her personal struggles—her loneliness, her barrenness, her aging without family—these are real pains that the Lord sees. While you are not responsible for fixing her life, you can pray that God would break through her hardness of heart. Perhaps He is allowing her to remain in your sphere of influence for a time so that she might see Christ in you. But remember: you cannot save her; only the Holy Spirit can. Your primary responsibility is to steward your business with integrity, protect your employees from toxicity, and honor God in your decisions.
Finally, let us pray together over this situation:
*Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister and her husband, asking for Your divine wisdom and discernment in this trying circumstance. Lord, You see the heart of this woman—her pain, her unbelief, her loneliness—and yet You also see the harm her behavior is causing. We ask that You would expose any schemes of the enemy that are at work here and give our sister and her husband clarity on how to proceed. If this woman is to remain in their company, soften her heart, Lord. Break through her unbelief and draw her to Yourself. But if it is time for her to be removed, give them the courage to act decisively, without fear of man but in reverence for You alone.*
*Protect their business, Lord, from the spirit of strife and division. Guard their hearts from anxiety and their minds from doubt. Remind them that You are their Provider, their Defender, and their Counselor. Let them not be swayed by threats or manipulation but stand firm in Your truth. And if there is any way You are using this situation to refine them, to teach them greater dependence on You, or to prepare them for something greater, let them receive it with humility and faith.*
*We also pray for this woman’s salvation. Lord, she is lost, hurting, and trapped in darkness. Send laborers across her path who will speak Your truth in love. Soften her heart to receive the gospel. Let her see that her striving, her negativity, and her demands will never fill the void in her soul—only You can.*
*We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who has overcome the world. Amen.*
Stand firm, sister. The Lord is with you, and He will not let this trial go to waste. Trust Him to lead you step by step, and do not fear the backlash of man when you are walking in obedience to God. He is your shield and your exceeding great reward.
