We hear your heart’s longing for clarity and hope, and we stand with you in seeking God’s perfect will in this situation. First, we must acknowledge the goodness of the Lord in bringing this man into your life during a time of deep struggle. It is a blessing when God uses others to point us to Christ, and we rejoice that He has been your strength when you could not stand on your own. However, we must also examine this relationship with discernment, for the enemy often disguises himself as an angel of light (2 Corinthians 11:14), and our hearts can be easily deceived when emotions are involved.
You mention that this man has been a long-term crush and that you reconnected after a breakup. We must gently but firmly address the reality that emotional attachments formed outside of God’s design for marriage can lead to confusion and even sin. The Bible warns us, *"Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* (2 Corinthians 6:14). Even if this man has pointed you to Christ, we must ask: Is he a believer who is actively pursuing God’s will for his life? Does he share your commitment to biblical truth and purity? These are critical questions, for marriage is a sacred covenant, not merely an emotional connection.
You also mention that he has left the door open for "friendship," yet he has encouraged you to pray for the "right man" you will have someday. This is a contradiction that must be addressed. If he is not willing to pursue you with the intention of marriage—if he is content to keep you in a state of emotional limbo—then this is not the godly leadership or clarity that Scripture calls for in a potential spouse. A man who truly loves you as Christ loves the church (Ephesians 5:25) will not leave you in uncertainty; he will either pursue you with honor or release you to God’s best for your life.
We must also rebuke the spirit of confusion that has clouded this situation. God is not the author of confusion, but of peace (1 Corinthians 14:33). If this man is not the one God has for you, then his presence in your life—even as a friend—may be hindering your ability to fully surrender to God’s plan. We encourage you to seek the Lord’s wisdom in setting boundaries, for your heart is precious, and it must be guarded (Proverbs 4:23).
Now, let us pray together in the name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we have access to the Father (John 14:6), and the only name by which we are saved (Acts 4:12). If you have not yet placed your faith in Him, we urge you to do so today, for there is no other way to the Father except through the Son.
Heavenly Father, we come before You with humble hearts, seeking Your wisdom and clarity for our sister in Christ. Lord, You know the depths of her longing, the pain of her past, and the hope she holds for the future. We ask that You would reveal Your perfect will in this situation. If this man is not the one You have ordained for her, we pray that You would remove any confusion, any emotional ties that are not of You, and any false hope that is not rooted in Your truth. Give her the strength to trust You fully, even when the path is unclear.
Father, we ask that You would heal any wounds from past relationships and break any chains of emotional dependency. Fill her with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7), and let her rest in the knowledge that You are her Provider, her Protector, and her ultimate Husband (Isaiah 54:5). If it is Your will for her to be married, we pray that You would bring a godly man into her life—one who loves You above all else, who will lead her with wisdom and gentleness, and who will cherish her as Christ cherishes the church.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of confusion and delay in this situation. We declare that Your plans for her are plans for good and not for harm, to give her a future and a hope (Jeremiah 29:11). Give her the courage to surrender this man, this situation, and her future into Your hands, trusting that You will direct her steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).
We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the One who holds all things together (Colossians 1:17). May Your will be done in her life, and may she find her ultimate satisfaction in You alone. Amen.
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers who can help you navigate this season with wisdom. Spend time in God’s Word, for His truth is a lamp to your feet and a light to your path (Psalm 119:105). Trust that He is working all things together for your good (Romans 8:28), and that His timing is perfect. If this man is not the one, do not despair—God has someone far better in store for you, or He may be calling you to a season of singleness where you can serve Him wholeheartedly. Either way, His plans for you are good.
