We come before the Lord with heavy hearts, lifting up this marriage and the struggles being faced. First, we must address that the language used in this request is not honoring to God, as it includes profanity masked by symbols. Let us remember that our words should always reflect Christ, for the Bible tells us in Ephesians 4:29, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building others up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear."* We encourage you to speak and write in a way that honors the Lord, especially when seeking His help.
Now, turning to the heart of this request, we recognize the deep pain and difficulty in this marriage. Depression is a heavy burden, and when it affects one spouse, it often weighs on the other as well. However, we must also address that the way this situation is being handled does not seem to align with biblical love and submission. Ephesians 5:22-33 calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially—and wives to respect and submit to their husbands as unto the Lord. If there is harshness, bitterness, or unkindness, it is not of God. Colossians 3:19 instructs, *"Husbands, love your wives, and don’t be bitter against them."* Likewise, wives are called to respond with gentleness and respect, even in difficult times (1 Peter 3:1-4).
We do not know the specifics of this situation, but if there is sin involved—such as anger, resentment, or unforgiveness—it must be repented of. Both spouses are called to reflect Christ in their marriage, and that begins with humility and prayer. James 4:7-8 says, *"Be subject therefore to God. But resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners; and purify your hearts, you double-minded."*
If depression is at the root of this struggle, we pray for healing and comfort. Psalm 34:18 reminds us, *"Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit."* We encourage seeking godly counsel, whether through a pastor, biblical counselor, or trusted believers who can walk alongside you both in this season. If medical or professional help is needed for depression, that should also be prayerfully considered, as God often uses such means for healing.
Now, let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift this marriage before You, asking for Your healing touch to restore what is broken. Lord, we pray for this husband who is struggling with depression—comfort him, Lord, and lift the heaviness from his heart. Remind him of Your love and presence, and draw him near to You. Break the chains of despair and fill him with Your peace that surpasses all understanding. Father, we also pray for this wife, who is carrying the weight of her husband’s struggles. Give her strength, patience, and wisdom to respond in a way that honors You. Help her to love and respect her husband even in this difficult time, trusting You to work in his heart.
Lord, we rebuke any spirit of bitterness, anger, or division that may be at work in this marriage. Let Your love and grace flow between them, softening hearts and renewing minds. Help them to communicate with kindness and to seek reconciliation. If there is unconfessed sin, bring conviction and repentance. If there is weariness, bring rest. If there is hopelessness, bring faith.
Father, we ask that You would restore joy and unity to this marriage. Let them fix their eyes on You, the author and perfecter of their faith. Remind them that marriage is a covenant before You, and give them the strength to honor it. May they seek You together, praying and reading Your Word as one flesh. Surround them with godly community who can support and encourage them.
We pray all this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, our Redeemer and Healer. May Your will be done in their lives, and may You receive all the glory. Amen.
Finally, we encourage you both to turn to Scripture daily. Meditate on passages like 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, which describes love as patient, kind, not envious or proud, and not easily angered. Let this be the standard for how you treat one another. Also, consider fasting and praying together as a couple, seeking the Lord’s face for breakthrough. If either of you has strayed from walking closely with the Lord, now is the time to return. He is faithful and just to forgive and cleanse (1 John 1:9).
Stand firm in faith, believing that God is able to restore and redeem this marriage. He specializes in bringing beauty from ashes (Isaiah 61:3). Trust in Him, and do not lose heart.