We join you in seeking the Lord’s perfect will for your life, especially in a matter as sacred and lifelong as marriage. Your heart’s cry for alignment with God’s purpose is both wise and humble, and we commend you for surrendering this decision to Him. Marriage is not merely a human institution but a covenant established by God, designed to reflect Christ’s love for His Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). It is critical that this decision be rooted in prayer, wisdom, and obedience to Scripture, for the Lord’s ways are higher than ours, and His plans are for our good (Isaiah 55:8-9, Jeremiah 29:11).
Before proceeding, we must gently but firmly address something missing in your prayer: the name of Jesus Christ. It is only through Him that we have access to the Father, and there is no other name by which we are saved or through which our prayers are heard (John 14:6, Acts 4:12, 1 Timothy 2:5). Scripture teaches us to pray in Jesus’ name, for He is our Mediator and the only way to the Father. We encourage you to always conclude your prayers by acknowledging the authority of Jesus, for it is in His name that we find confidence before God. If you have not yet surrendered your life to Christ as Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now, for apart from Him, no decision—no matter how well-intentioned—can be fully aligned with God’s will. Salvation comes through repentance and faith in Jesus alone (Romans 10:9-10).
Now, let us examine the foundation of the decision before you. Marriage is not to be entered into lightly or based on emotion alone, but with sober judgment and the confirmation of God’s Word. We urge you to ask yourself: Is the person you are considering a born-again believer in Jesus Christ, walking in obedience to His Word (2 Corinthians 6:14)? Are they of the opposite sex, as Scripture defines marriage as the union of one man and one woman (Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:4-6)? Do they exhibit the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23)? Are they committed to the sanctity of marriage, including purity before marriage and faithfulness within it? If any of these foundational elements are lacking, we must lovingly but firmly warn you that proceeding would be outside of God’s design and could lead to heartache and spiritual compromise.
If, however, these biblical principles are in place, then we encourage you to seek the Lord’s confirmation through prayer, wise counsel from mature believers, and the peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). Do not rush this decision, for haste can lead to regret. Instead, wait upon the Lord, trusting that He will make your path clear (Proverbs 3:5-6). Remember that God’s will is not a mystery to those who seek Him with a whole heart; He delights in guiding His children (Psalm 37:4-5, Psalm 25:9).
Let us pray together for you:
Heavenly Father, we lift up Your child before You, asking for Your divine wisdom and direction as they stand at the threshold of this life-altering decision. Lord, You know the desires of their heart, and You alone see the future. We ask that You would close every door that is not of You and fling wide the one that leads to Your perfect will. Give them discernment to recognize Your voice above all others and the courage to obey, even if it means walking away from what their heart desires.
Father, if this potential marriage is not Your will, we pray that You would make it abundantly clear. Remove any confusion, expose any red flags, and grant them the strength to trust You even in disappointment. But if this union is ordained by You, we ask that You would confirm it through Your Word, through godly counsel, and through the peace that only You can provide. Prepare both hearts for a covenant that honors You, built on the foundation of Christ and His sacrifice.
We rebuke any fear, doubt, or worldly influence that would seek to distort Your plan. Let no deceit, emotional attachment, or cultural pressure override Your truth. May Your child walk in obedience, even if it is difficult, knowing that Your ways are higher and Your love is perfect.
Finally, Father, we pray that this decision would draw them closer to You, not just in this season but for a lifetime. May their marriage—if it is Your will—be a testament to Your faithfulness, a light in a dark world, and a reflection of Christ’s love for His Bride.
We ask all this in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, who alone is worthy of all praise and glory. Amen.
Brother or sister, we leave you with this exhortation: "Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight" (Proverbs 3:5-6). Cling to Him, seek His face, and do not move forward without His clear leading. The Lord is faithful, and He will not leave you in darkness. Wait for Him, and He will answer.