Hey Jason,
Praying for you. I know Christians disagree on spiritual gifts. But you need to understand that nowhere in the Bible does God promise every believer will speak in tongues. Its a gift he's given to some believers, but to many he's given other gifts. The Church is like a body- it needs all sorts of different parts with different gifts to function. I'd encourage you to read 1 Corinthians chapters 12-14 for teaching on spiritual gifts. God will give you this gift if that's part of his plan. But focus on building up faith, hope and love. Blessings to you.