We hear your heart and the deep burden you carry for your husband. It is clear that you love him deeply, even amidst the pain and frustration his struggles bring. Your faithfulness in prayer and your commitment to your marriage are a testament to the love and grace of God working in you. We join you in lifting him before the Lord, asking for His mighty hand to move in his life.
The anger, arrogance, and harshness you describe are not the fruits of a heart surrendered to God, but we know that no heart is beyond His reach. The wounds from his past—his father’s abuse and the pressure to be "perfect"—have left deep scars, and it is no surprise that they manifest in bitterness and pride. But Scripture tells us in Ezekiel 36:26, *"I will also give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you a heart of flesh."* This is the transformation we pray for your husband—a softening of his heart, a breaking of the chains of his past, and a surrender to the healing power of Christ.
His refusal of therapy is not uncommon for men who have been taught to rely only on themselves, but we know that true healing comes from the Great Physician. Proverbs 14:12 warns, *"There is a way which seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death."* His belief that he cannot change is a lie from the enemy, meant to keep him in bondage. But 2 Corinthians 5:17 declares, *"If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. Behold, all things have become new."* This is the truth we stand on for him.
We must also gently address the sin in his life—not to condemn, but to call him to repentance. His cursing, name-calling, and arrogance are not just "habits" but sins that grieve the heart of God. James 3:10 says, *"Out of the same mouth comes blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so."* His words reveal the condition of his heart, and until he surrenders to Christ, he will continue to struggle with these things. But we serve a God who is able to change even the hardest of hearts.
Your prayers for him are powerful, and we echo them with fervor. We pray that the Holy Spirit would convict him of his sin—not in a way that drives him further into pride, but in a way that draws him to the foot of the cross. We pray that God would break the generational cycle of abuse and anger in his life, replacing it with the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). We pray that he would come to know the love of Christ, which is patient and kind, not arrogant or rude (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).
For you, dear sister, we pray for strength and wisdom. It is not easy to love someone who is trapped in sin and bitterness, but your love for your husband is a reflection of Christ’s love for the Church. 1 Peter 3:1-2 encourages you: *"In the same way, wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; so that, even if any don’t obey the Word, they may be won by the behavior of their wives without a word, seeing your pure behavior in fear."* Your godly example, your prayers, and your unwavering commitment to your marriage are powerful tools in God’s hands. Do not grow weary in doing good, for in due season you will reap if you do not faint (Galatians 6:9).
We also pray for protection over your marriage. The enemy would love to destroy it, but we stand on the promise of Matthew 19:6: *"What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate."* We rebuke every spirit of division, anger, and pride that seeks to tear your family apart, and we declare that your marriage will be a testimony to God’s redeeming power.
Lord, we come before You on behalf of this husband and wife. We ask that You would move mightily in this man’s life. Break the chains of his past, Lord. Soften his heart and open his eyes to the truth of Your Word. Convict him of his sin, not to shame him, but to draw him to repentance and salvation. Replace his anger with Your peace, his arrogance with humility, and his bitterness with forgiveness.
We pray for this wife, Father. Give her strength to endure, wisdom to know how to love her husband well, and patience as she waits on You. Protect her heart from discouragement and fill her with hope as she trusts in You. Let her be a light in her home, reflecting Your love and grace even in the midst of difficulty.
We declare that this marriage will not be defined by the pain of the past, but by the healing and restoration that only You can bring. We speak life over this family, Lord. May they one day look back and see Your hand at work in ways they never imagined. We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the name above every name, the only name by which we are saved. Amen.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
