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Faithful Servant
Since Jesus is not helpful right now and does a lot of unnecessary trouble which I am unhappy and upset about. I will now do it my way else this things will never happen.
I first met ### during one of the fellowship meals at church (###). At first, he seemed like a good person, introducing me to various churches (###, ###, ###, ###, ###, etc.) across ### where there was free food and social gatherings, including hotpot in ###. He also introduced me to ### from a learning center for a part-time job. Initially, the interactions seemed harmless, but gradually, ### began to show manipulative behaviors. He would gaslight me by listing my perceived flaws and speaking negatively about me behind my back. For example, once when I ordered a meal in a restaurant and it was served slowly, I informed the waiter that I was in a hurry. ### dismissed my concerns, even though I was anxious about being late for my next appointment during the busy Christmas period. The waiter then demanded payment for a meal that hadn’t been served, leaving me distressed and confused. ### treated the situation as trivial, though it caused me emotional upset.

The part-time job ### had introduced me to was eventually stopped due to a lack of students, as the government had halted such programs. ###, the owner, had no choice but to stop the program, and he was very satisfied with the quality and delivery of my work while the program was running. Despite this, ### fabricated lies, claiming that I had refused to work there, trying to shift blame and manipulate the perception of others against me.

### also introduced me to his circle of friends, including ### (###) and ###. ###, in particular, caused emotional turmoil. She deceived me into thinking she had deep biblical understanding, but when questioned, she merely copied verses without genuine comprehension. She later sent me a verse that emotionally hurt me, and when I confronted her, I responded that God cannot be mocked or deceived. On another occasion, ### asked me to go to the healing room at the ###. There, ### gave me a book from ### that contained gay content, which I had no interest in. When I asked ### if the book was stolen, she left the group chat instead of clarifying, which led me to wrongly suspect she had stolen it. In reality, she had given the book to ###, who passed it to me as a Christmas present without wrapping. I had to return it by mail and repay S### to the church, and ### dismissed it as a small matter, even though I felt distressed and confused.

Further incidents with ### were more disturbing. During a trip to ### with my mother, ###, and ###, ### attempted to treat me as a romantic partner rather than a friend. He asked me to stay in a hotel alone with him and told my mother not to attend certain trips. He even previously claimed that he would leave his flat to me after his death. When my mother intervened in ###, ### protested publicly inappropriately, scratching his sock in front of her. Upon returning to ###, he blamed my mother for being toxic, despite her protecting me from his manipulative behavior. ### also tried to lure me out on various occasions with the intent of initiating sexual affection, showing a clear pattern of predatory behavior. On some occasions, he attempted to touch me inappropriately by rubbing my belly and commenting that I was “fat,” demonstrating both sexual harassment and emotional manipulation.

###’s manipulative and predatory behavior extended beyond me. He was a landlord who previously rented a room to a man named ###, who had a wife. ### reportedly attempted to insert himself as a “third wife” figure, standing in between ### and his spouse. He even went into the bathroom while ### was bathing, clad only in his underwear, demonstrating a pattern of boundary violations and invasive sexual behavior.

I contacted ###, ###’s godfather, to understand more about ###’s behavior. ### revealed that ### had previously attempted sexual advances, requesting hugs that escalated to inappropriate contact. ### even admitted to ### that he would masturbate afterward while thinking of him, which led ### to cut off visits and ultimately prevent ### from accessing him further. ### then sought new targets within church circles, using social gatherings and parties for manipulative purposes.

Recognizing this, I distanced myself from ###. He attempted to gaslight me by removing me from all his chat groups to make me feel alone, but I felt liberated instead and exited the groups cheerfully. ### continued to bad-mouth me and even tried to take credit for various church events I had attended. His attempts failed because I had strategically ghosted him and attended different services to avoid encounters. Eventually, other members of the chat group recognized his toxic behavior and left, leaving him socially isolated.

### continued attempts to engage me. She asked ### to request a meeting for “clarification,” which I initially declined. Later, ### involved ###, asking him to forward messages to me, and even offered to treat me with her ### salary for satay, which I refused, recognizing it as a manipulative attempt. I asked ### to inform ### that I did not wish to clarify in the group chat. ### left the group instead, which I noted as rude and avoidant behavior. Because she refused to clarify, I acknowledged that I could not accuse her of wrongdoing. Eventually, I made it clear that if she attempted to manipulate or harass me again, I would report it to the police.

After setting these firm boundaries, they did not dare to disturb me again. Throughout these experiences, I maintained my boundaries, carefully disengaged from manipulation, and refused to participate in cycles of social or emotional coercion. I recognized manipulative tactics, asserted my autonomy, and protected my emotional and moral integrity, ultimately gaining control over the situation and refusing to be victimized by repeated harassment or deception.

And his bread distribution friend disguise as bread for gospel is discriminating against the Malay and Muslim and using insult and ostracize me during the bread distribution so these are the people I don't wish to associate with and it had brought much distress as so I stop this Jesus thingy.
 
We are deeply grieved to hear of the pain, manipulation, and betrayal you have endured, especially within what should have been a place of safety and godly fellowship. The actions described are not only deeply sinful but a perversion of the love and grace Christ calls His followers to embody. We stand with you in righteous anger against such wickedness and affirm your courage in setting firm boundaries to protect your emotional and spiritual well-being.

First, we must address your words about Jesus not being helpful and choosing to "do it your way." Scripture is clear that apart from Christ, we can do nothing (John 15:5), and that He alone is the way, the truth, and the life (John 14:6). Your frustration is understandable given the evil you have faced, but turning away from Jesus will only lead to greater bondage. The enemy seeks to use pain to drive a wedge between you and the One who heals and restores. We rebuke the lie that Jesus has failed you—He has seen every injustice, collected every tear (Psalm 56:8), and will one day bring perfect justice (Revelation 21:4). Do not let the sins of others push you away from the only One who can truly satisfy and defend you.

The predatory and manipulative behavior you described is an abomination before God. Scripture warns us to beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing (Matthew 7:15) and commands us to expose deeds of darkness (Ephesians 5:11). The man who sought to groom and harass you, along with those who enabled or dismissed his actions, will answer to God for their sins. We pray for conviction to fall upon them, that they may repent and turn from their wickedness before it is too late. The sexual immorality, emotional abuse, and deception you endured are grave sins, and we stand with you in calling them what they are—evil.

We also grieve over the discrimination you faced in the bread distribution. Partiality and prejudice have no place in the body of Christ (James 2:1-9). Those who used the gospel as a cover for bigotry will be held accountable. Your decision to distance yourself from such hypocrisy was wise, but we urge you not to let their sins drive you from the truth of the gospel itself.

You demonstrated great wisdom and strength in setting boundaries and refusing to be victimized. Scripture commends those who resist evil (James 4:7) and walk in integrity (Proverbs 10:9). Yet we must also warn against bitterness taking root in your heart (Hebrews 12:15). The enemy would love for your pain to turn into resentment, but we pray you will surrender it all to Christ, who alone can heal and restore.

Let us pray for you now:

Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother/sister who has endured such deep betrayal and abuse. Lord, You see every injustice and collect every tear. We ask that You would bind up their wounds (Psalm 147:3) and restore what has been broken. Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that seek to separate them from You. Remind them that You are their refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1), and that no weapon formed against them shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17).

We pray for conviction to fall upon those who have sinned against them—grant them repentance and a turning from their wicked ways. Expose every hidden deed of darkness and bring justice in Your perfect timing. Lord, we ask that You would surround our brother/sister with godly community, free from manipulation and hypocrisy. Give them discernment to recognize true fellowship and the courage to walk in it.

Father, we pray against bitterness and unforgiveness. Soften their heart to release every offense to You, trusting that vengeance belongs to You alone (Romans 12:19). Fill them with Your peace that surpasses understanding (Philippians 4:7) and remind them that You are making all things new (Revelation 21:5). Strengthen their faith and help them to fix their eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of their faith (Hebrews 12:2).

We declare over them Your promises of protection, restoration, and hope. May they know that You are near to the brokenhearted (Psalm 34:18) and that You will never leave nor forsake them (Hebrews 13:5). In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.

We encourage you to seek out a biblical church where the gospel is preached in truth and love, and where godly leaders can provide accountability and care. Do not let the sins of others rob you of the joy and freedom found in Christ. You are not alone—we stand with you, and more importantly, Jesus stands with you. If you have not already, consider reporting the predatory behavior to church leadership or authorities, as Scripture calls us to protect the vulnerable (Proverbs 31:8-9). May the Lord guide your steps and restore your faith.
 
I'm really sorry to hear about the trouble you've been through. It's never okay for someone to manipulate or hurt you like that. You did the right thing by setting boundaries and protecting yourself. Here's a prayer for you:

Dear Lord,

We come to You today on behalf of our friend who has been through so much pain and betrayal. Lord, we ask that You would comfort them in their distress. Heal their wounds, both physical and emotional. Give them strength to continue standing firm in their faith and to trust in Your unfailing love.

Lord, we also pray for those who have caused harm. We ask that You would convict their hearts and bring them to repentance. Help them to see the error of their ways and turn from their sin. We pray for justice to be served, but we also pray for their salvation, that they might come to know the forgiveness and grace that You offer through Jesus Christ.

Help our friend to forgive as they are able, not because the other person deserves it, but because it's what You command and it's what will set them free. Give them wisdom to know when and how to engage with these people in the future, and grant them the courage to walk away if necessary.

Lord, we thank You for Your constant presence in their life. Thank You for being their refuge and strength, always ready to help in times of trouble. We trust in Your goodness and Your plan, even when we can't see it.

In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.

Remember, you are not alone. There are people who care about you and want to support you. If you haven't already, consider reaching out to a trusted pastor, counselor, or friend. They can provide a safe space for you to process your feelings and gain wisdom for your situation.

Please keep us updated on how you're doing. We're here for you.
 
Lord Jesus please richly bless, protect and guide them. Please help them in accordance with your perfect will Father. Thank you and praise you. In your holy name I pray. Amen.
 

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