We hear the deep pain and frustration in your words, and our hearts ache with you. You are not alone in feeling abandoned or questioning where God is in your struggles. The Bible tells us, *"The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit"* (Psalm 34:18). Yet we also see that your anger and demands reveal a misunderstanding of who God is and how He works in our lives.
First, we must address the way you have framed your relationship with God. You have made Him out to be a transactional being—one who must meet your conditions before you will return to Him. But God is not a vending machine where we insert faith and receive blessings on demand. He is a loving Father who calls us to trust Him even when we do not understand His ways. *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, and your ways are not my ways," says Yahweh. "For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts"* (Isaiah 55:8-9). His love is not proven by giving us everything we want, but by giving us what is best for us—even when it hurts.
You mention provision, yet the Bible does not promise a life free from struggle. Jesus Himself said, *"In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world"* (John 16:33). Our faith is not built on ease, but on the assurance that God is with us in the fire. You demand a job and a relationship as proof of His love, but these things are not guarantees of His favor. Many faithful believers face unemployment, loneliness, and hardship, yet they cling to God because they know He is their true source of hope. *"But seek first God’s Kingdom and his righteousness; and all these things will be given to you as well"* (Matthew 6:33). This does not mean we will never face lack, but that God will provide what we truly need.
Your demand for a girlfriend is especially concerning. A godly marriage is a blessing, but it is not a right to be demanded. The Bible warns against treating relationships as transactions or seeking fulfillment outside of God’s timing. *"Delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart"* (Psalm 37:4). This does not mean God will give you whatever you want, but that as you seek Him first, your desires will align with His will. A relationship built on impatience or desperation is not the foundation for a godly marriage. We must trust that if God has someone for you, He will bring them in His perfect timing.
You also speak of stepping away from the Bible, church, and prayer as if these are punishments for God. But these are not chains—they are lifelines. The Bible is God’s Word, living and active, sharper than any double-edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). The church is the body of Christ, where we find encouragement and strength (Hebrews 10:24-25). Prayer is our direct line to the Father, not a bargaining chip. Walking away from these things will not bring you closer to God; it will only deepen the emptiness you feel.
We must also address the issue of salvation. You mention Jesus Christ, but your words reveal a heart that is not resting in His finished work. Salvation is not earned by our demands or works—it is a gift received by faith. *"For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, that no one would boast"* (Ephesians 2:8-9). If you are truly saved, then nothing can separate you from God’s love—not even your anger or doubt (Romans 8:38-39). But if you are treating faith as a transaction, then you have misunderstood the gospel entirely.
We rebuke the spirit of entitlement and unbelief in your words. You are not in a position to dictate terms to God. He is the Creator; you are the created. He is the Potter; you are the clay (Isaiah 64:8). Your threats to abandon Him will not move Him, but they will harm you. *"Do not be deceived. God is not mocked, for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap"* (Galatians 6:7). If you sow bitterness and unbelief, you will reap destruction.
Yet even in this, we do not give up on you. We choose to believe that God is at work, even in your pain. We choose to pray for you, not because you deserve it, but because God’s mercy is greater than our failures.
Father in Heaven, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother who is hurting. We ask that You would break through the walls of anger and doubt that he has built. Soften his heart to receive Your truth, not as a demand, but as a gift. Lord, You know his needs—his desire for provision, for companionship, for purpose. We ask that You would meet him in his struggle, but not on his terms. Show him that Your ways are higher, Your timing is perfect, and Your love is unshakable.
We pray for the job he interviewed for. If it is Your will, open that door. If not, close it firmly and redirect him to something better. But more than a job, we pray for his heart. Give him the faith to trust You even when he does not see the outcome. Remind him that You are working all things together for his good (Romans 8:28).
We pray for his desire for a relationship. If it is Your will, bring a godly woman into his life who will encourage him in his faith. But until then, help him to find his fulfillment in You alone. Teach him that You are enough, even when he feels alone.
Father, we ask that You would restore his faith. Do not let him walk away from You. Pursue him with Your relentless love. Remind him of the cross, where Jesus proved His love not with words, but with action—by dying for our sins while we were still sinners (Romans 5:8). Let that truth sink deep into his heart.
We rebuke the lies of the enemy that tell him he is abandoned. We declare that You are near, that You hear his cries, and that You will never leave him nor forsake him (Hebrews 13:5). Bring people into his life who will speak truth and love into his situation. Surround him with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7).
Lord, we know that You are not a God who can be tested or manipulated. You are holy, just, and full of compassion. We ask that You would draw our brother back to Yourself—not out of guilt or fear, but out of a genuine desire to know You. Restore his joy in You. Renew his passion for Your Word. Revive his heart for worship and prayer.
We trust You, Lord, to work in this situation. We believe that You are able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine (Ephesians 3:20). Even if he does not see it now, we pray that one day he will look back and see Your hand at work in his life.
In the mighty name of Jesus, we pray. Amen.
