We hear the deep pain and frustration in your words, and our hearts ache for the hurt that has led you to this place of anger and separation. It is clear that you feel abandoned, unheard, and let down, and those feelings are valid—they are real and heavy. But we must address this with truth and love, for your soul is too precious to leave in this place of bitterness.
First, we must rebuke the spirit of entitlement and ultimatum that has taken root in your heart. You have presented demands to the Lord as if He were a contract to be negotiated rather than the sovereign Creator of the universe. Scripture tells us, *"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, says Yahweh. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts"* (Isaiah 55:8-9). You cannot dictate to God how or when He should move in your life. He is not a vending machine where you insert faith and receive your desired outcome. He is the Potter, and we are the clay (Isaiah 64:8). His ways are perfect, even when they do not align with our expectations.
You speak of broken trust, and we understand that pain. But consider this: have you truly trusted Him, or have you trusted in your own understanding of what His provision should look like? Proverbs 3:5-6 says, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."* Trust is not a transaction; it is a surrender. You cannot withhold your devotion until He meets your conditions—that is not faith, but manipulation.
You demand a job and a girlfriend as proof of His love, but God’s love is not proven by circumstances. His love was proven on the cross, where Christ died for your sins while you were still a sinner (Romans 5:8). His love is not measured by material provision or relational fulfillment, but by the fact that He gave His only Son so that you might have eternal life (John 3:16). If you discard the Bible, you discard the very words that reveal His heart to you. If you walk away from church, you walk away from the body of Christ, which is meant to be your support and encouragement (Hebrews 10:24-25). If you stop praying, you cut off the lifeline that connects you to the One who hears and answers in His perfect timing and way.
We must also address the demand for a girlfriend. Scripture is clear that relationships are not to be entered into lightly or selfishly. 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?"* If you are seeking a relationship outside of God’s design—one that is not rooted in mutual faith and commitment to Christ—you are setting yourself up for further heartache. Marriage is a sacred covenant, not a means to fulfill personal desires. If you are not first content in Christ, no relationship will satisfy you.
Your anger is understandable, but it is misdirected. You are blaming God for the brokenness of this world, yet it is sin—not God—that has corrupted creation. Jesus came to redeem that brokenness, not to remove all suffering in this life. He promised, *"In the world you have oppression; but cheer up! I have overcome the world"* (John 16:33). His provision is not always what we want, but it is always what we need. Sometimes closed doors are His protection. Sometimes delays are His preparation. Sometimes silence is His way of drawing us closer to Himself.
We must also address the absence of humility in your words. James 4:6 says, *"But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, 'God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.'" You have approached God with demands, but He calls us to approach Him with humility and repentance. Psalm 51:17 says, *"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit. A broken and contrite heart, O God, you will not despise."* It is not God who needs to prove Himself to you—it is you who need to surrender to Him.
Let us pray for you now, not with the arrogance of your demands, but with the humility of Christ:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts for our brother who is hurting. Lord, we ask that You would soften his heart and open his eyes to see Your love, even in the midst of his pain. We rebuke the spirit of bitterness and entitlement that has taken hold of him, and we ask that You would replace it with a spirit of humility and trust. Father, we know that You are good, even when life is not. We know that You are faithful, even when we feel forgotten. Lord, we ask that You would meet him in his brokenness and draw him back to Yourself. Restore his faith, not because You have met his demands, but because You are worthy of his trust. Remind him of Your promises, and let him see Your hand at work in ways he may not yet recognize. Father, we ask that You would provide for his needs—not just the ones he sees, but the deeper needs of his soul. If there is unrepentant sin in his life, convict him and lead him to repentance. If there is unforgiveness, soften his heart to forgive. If there is pride, humble him. Lord, we ask that You would surround him with believers who can speak truth and love into his life. Protect him from the lies of the enemy, who would use this pain to pull him further from You. And Father, we ask that You would reveal Yourself to him in a powerful way, so that he may know that You are near, even when he feels far from You. We pray all of this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who died and rose again so that we might have life, and have it abundantly. Amen.
We urge you to reconsider your stance. Do not walk away from the only One who can truly heal your heart. Do not trade the eternal for the temporary. God is not your enemy—He is your Redeemer. He is not silent—He is speaking, if you will only listen. Return to Him, not with demands, but with a repentant heart. Return to His Word, not as a critic, but as one who is hungry for truth. Return to His people, not as one who has all the answers, but as one who needs the love and support of the body of Christ.
You are not alone in your struggles. Many of us have walked through seasons of doubt and disappointment, but we can testify that God is faithful. He has never failed us, even when we failed to see His hand at work. We encourage you to seek Him again, not with conditions, but with an open heart. He is waiting for you with arms wide open.
