We hear your pain, frustration, and deep disappointment, and we want you to know that your feelings are valid. It is incredibly difficult to face injustice, betrayal, and hardship—especially when it feels like those who claim to follow Christ are the ones causing harm. But we must address this with truth and love, for Scripture warns us that not everyone who names the name of Christ walks in His ways. Jesus Himself said, *"Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravening wolves"* (Matthew 7:15 WEB). The behavior you’ve described—belittling, rebuking without love, guilt-trapping, and gaslighting—is not of God. It is the work of the enemy, who twists the truth and uses even believers to discourage and destroy.
You’ve faced unfair dismissal, ungodly judgment, and even persecution for doing what is right. We do not dismiss your suffering, nor do we excuse the sin of those who have mistreated you. But we must ask: Is your frustration with *Jesus*, or with those who have misrepresented Him? The Lord is not the author of confusion, nor does He delight in injustice. *"The LORD is righteous in all his ways, and gracious in all his works"* (Psalm 145:17 WEB). The fact that you were wronged does not mean God has abandoned you. In fact, Scripture promises that *"all things work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to his purpose"* (Romans 8:28 WEB). This does not mean your pain is trivial, but that God can use even the darkest circumstances for His glory and your ultimate good.
You mentioned tithing and the false notion that God "curses" those who do not give. This is a distortion of Scripture. While tithing is a biblical principle (Malachi 3:10), God does not operate on a transactional basis. He does not withhold blessings as punishment for disobedience in one area while ignoring our faithfulness in others. *"Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights, with whom can be no variation, nor turning shadow"* (James 1:17 WEB). If someone has told you that your struggles are because you did not tithe, they have spoken a lie. God’s love is not conditional on our performance.
As for your job and your desire for marriage, we must be honest: the Christian life does not guarantee earthly prosperity or a life free from hardship. In fact, Jesus warned us, *"In the world you have oppression; but cheer up! I have overcome the world"* (John 16:33 WEB). The enemy will use delays, rejections, and even the cruelty of others to make you doubt God’s goodness. But consider this: if you walk away from Christ because of the failures of His followers, you are allowing the actions of broken people to determine your eternity. That is not wisdom; it is surrender to the very forces that seek to destroy you.
You asked if you still need Jesus. The answer is an emphatic *yes*. Not because He is a magic solution to all your problems, but because He is the only way to true peace, purpose, and eternal life. *"Jesus said to him, ‘I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father, except through me’"* (John 14:6 WEB). Without Him, you are left to rely on your own strength, your own wisdom, and your own ability to navigate a fallen world. And we both know how that ends—exhaustion, bitterness, and a heart that grows harder with each disappointment.
We must also address the language you’ve used—words that dishonor God and reveal the depth of your anger. Scripture tells us, *"Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but such as is good for building up as the need may be, that it may give grace to those who hear"* (Ephesians 4:29 WEB). Your words matter, and they reflect the condition of your heart. We are not rebuking you to shame you, but to call you back to a place where healing can begin.
Now, let us pray for you:
Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, lifting up our brother who is hurting, angry, and questioning his faith. Lord, You see his pain—every unfair dismissal, every cruel word, every moment of loneliness and rejection. You know the weight he carries, and You collect every tear in Your bottle (Psalm 56:8). We ask that You would meet him in his despair and remind him that You are not like those who have failed him. You are faithful, just, and full of compassion.
Father, we rebuke the lies of the enemy that have taken root in his heart. The lie that You have abandoned him. The lie that his suffering is without purpose. The lie that he is better off without You. We declare that You are his refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). We pray that You would break the chains of bitterness and unforgiveness that have bound him. Soften his heart, Lord, and help him to release the anger that is poisoning his soul.
We ask for Your provision in his life—both for his daily needs and for the desires of his heart. If it is Your will, open doors for a job that honors You and provides for him. Surround him with godly community—believers who will love him, encourage him, and walk with him in truth. And if it is Your plan, bring a godly spouse into his life, a woman who loves You and will be a helpmate in his journey.
Most of all, Lord, we pray for revival in his spirit. Restore his faith, not because of what You can do for him, but because of who You are. Remind him that You are the Good Shepherd who leaves the ninety-nine to find the one (Luke 15:4). You are the God who turns ashes into beauty, mourning into joy, and despair into hope (Isaiah 61:3). Let him experience Your presence in a tangible way, so that he may say with the psalmist, *"The LORD is my strength and my shield. My heart has trusted in him, and I am helped. Therefore my heart greatly rejoices. With my song I will thank him"* (Psalm 28:7 WEB).
We ask all of this in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the One who overcame the world and who promises to never leave us nor forsake us. Amen.
We urge you, brother, not to make a permanent decision based on temporary pain. The Christian life is not a guarantee of an easy life, but it is the only path to true life. The world will offer you counterfeit comforts—self-reliance, bitterness, or even the fleeting pleasures of sin—but these will only lead to deeper emptiness. Jesus offers you something real: forgiveness, purpose, and an eternal home where there is no more pain, no more tears, and no more injustice (Revelation 21:4).
If you feel like you cannot trust the Church right now, that is understandable. But do not let the failures of people keep you from the perfect love of Christ. Seek Him in His Word. Spend time in prayer, not with a list of demands, but with an open heart, asking Him to reveal Himself to you. And consider finding a small group of believers who truly walk in love and humility—people who will encourage you and hold you accountable, not tear you down.
You are not alone in this struggle. Many of us have walked through seasons of doubt and despair, only to find that God was closer than we realized. He is not offended by your questions. He is big enough to handle your anger. But He loves you too much to leave you in it. Turn to Him, not away from Him. He is waiting with open arms.
Prayer Focus: God, Thank You for loving me. God, I ask You in Jesus’ name please bless me with everything that I stand in need of and everything You want me to have. 
