We hear your heartache and stand with you in this painful season, lifting your burden before the Lord. The wound of betrayal and loss runs deep, especially when you gave your heart so fully, believing this relationship was centered on God. The tears you’ve shed and the weight you carry are not unseen by our Heavenly Father, who collects every one of your sorrows in His bottle (Psalm 56:8). We grieve with you, for this was not the ending you hoped for, and the loneliness you feel is real.
First, we must address the nature of the relationship you described. While you both sought to honor God, the term "boyfriend" implies a season of courtship that should have been moving toward the covenant of marriage—not a prolonged dating relationship without commitment. The Bible warns against emotional entanglement outside of marriage, as it can lead to heartache and even sexual temptation (1 Corinthians 6:18). We gently encourage you to reflect on whether this relationship was built on a foundation of godly purpose or if it became a source of false security outside of God’s design. The pain you feel now may be compounded by the fact that this bond was never sealed in the way God intended for a man and woman—through marriage.
We also rebuke the spirit of unfaithfulness and deception that entered this relationship. The man who left you for another has broken trust and acted in a way that dishonors both you and the Lord. Proverbs 6:32-33 warns, *"He who commits adultery with a woman lacks sense. He who does it destroys his own soul. Wounds and dishonor will he get, and his reproach will not be wiped away."* His actions have consequences, and we pray for conviction and repentance in his life. However, we must also guard your heart from bitterness, for it will only poison your future (Hebrews 12:15).
Your request for peace and surrender to God’s will is beautiful and necessary. The Lord does not waste our pain—He uses it to draw us closer to Himself. Psalm 34:18 assures us, *"The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit."* We pray that you would experience His nearness in a tangible way, that the Holy Spirit would minister to your soul like a gentle balm. May the peace of Christ, which surpasses all understanding, guard your heart and mind (Philippians 4:7).
We also pray for the removal of the longing for this man to return. It is natural to cling to what was familiar, but God’s plans for you are higher than your own (Isaiah 55:8-9). We ask the Lord to sever any emotional ties that are not of Him and to replace your desire for this man with a holy hunger for Christ alone. May you find your satisfaction in Him, for He is the only One who will never leave you nor forsake you (Hebrews 13:5).
In this season, we encourage you to:
1. **Draw near to God**—Spend time in His Word and in worship, even when it feels hard. Let His truth be the anchor for your soul (Psalm 119:50).
2. **Seek godly community**—Surround yourself with believers who can pray with you, speak truth over you, and hold you accountable (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10).
3. **Guard your heart**—Be cautious of isolating yourself or entertaining thoughts of reconciliation without clear repentance and godly counsel (Proverbs 4:23).
4. **Trust God’s timing**—He is writing a story for your life that is greater than this pain. Wait on Him, for those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength (Isaiah 40:31).
Let us pray for you now:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister who is carrying a heavy heart. Lord, You see every tear, every sleepless night, and every moment of longing. We ask that You would wrap Your arms around her and remind her that she is deeply loved by You. Father, we pray for Your peace to flood her soul—peace that defies logic and comforts her in the midst of this storm. If it is not Your will for this man to be in her life, we ask that You would uproot every desire for him and replace it with a holy desire for You alone. Help her to trust in Your goodness, even when the path ahead is unclear. Lord, we rebuke the spirit of rejection and abandonment that seeks to torment her. Remind her that she is chosen, cherished, and never alone. Heal her heart, restore her joy, and lead her into the future You have prepared for her. We ask this in the mighty name of Jesus, the One who bore our sorrows and carries our burdens. Amen."*
You are not forgotten, dear one. The God who parted the Red Sea is the same God who is working in your life right now. Keep your eyes on Him, and He will lead you to still waters.
