We hear your heart’s cry in this tender moment, and we join you in lifting this situation before the Lord. The longing for love to endure and the fear of its fading are deeply human, yet we know that God’s Word offers both comfort and correction in matters of the heart.
First, we must address the foundation of this relationship. Scripture is clear that love is not merely a feeling but a commitment rooted in Christ. The apostle Paul describes love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (WEB): *"Love is patient and is kind; love doesn’t envy. Love doesn’t brag, is not proud, doesn’t behave itself inappropriately, doesn’t seek its own way, is not provoked, takes no account of evil; doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."* If this relationship is between a man and a woman, we pray it aligns with God’s design for marriage—a covenant before Him, not merely an emotional bond. If it is not moving toward marriage under God’s authority, we must gently but firmly rebuke any path that leads away from His will.
If this is a courtship with the goal of marriage, we encourage you to examine whether both of you are equally committed to Christ as the center of your union. Amos 3:3 (WEB) asks, *"Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?"* Unequal yoking—whether in faith, values, or purpose—will only bring heartache. We pray for clarity, that the Lord would reveal His will and that you would have the courage to follow it, even if it means letting go.
We also must address the possibility of sin in this relationship. If there has been sexual intimacy outside of marriage, we must call it what it is: fornication. Hebrews 13:4 (WEB) declares, *"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the bed be undefiled; but God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterers."* If this is the case, we urge repentance and a return to purity. The Lord is faithful to forgive, but we must turn from sin and seek His righteousness. If this relationship cannot honor God in holiness, it is better to part ways than to continue in disobedience.
Now, we lift this situation to the Lord in prayer:
*"Heavenly Father, we come before You with heavy hearts, seeking Your will in this relationship. Lord, You are the author of love, and we ask that You would either restore this bond according to Your purposes or bring it to a close with grace and wisdom. If this is not Your design, give them the strength to release it with love, respect, and peace. If it is Your will for them to move forward, bind them together in Christ, purify their hearts, and let Your love be the foundation of their union. Father, we repent of any sin that has crept into this relationship—whether in thought, word, or deed—and we ask for Your cleansing and renewal. Teach them to love as You love: sacrificially, purely, and faithfully. If marriage is Your plan, prepare them both to be godly spouses who honor You in all things. If not, heal their hearts and lead them into Your perfect will. We ask all these things in the mighty name of Jesus Christ, the only name by which we can come to You, the only name by which we are saved. Amen."*
We encourage you to seek godly counsel from mature believers who can speak truth into this situation. Proverbs 11:14 (WEB) says, *"Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety."* Do not walk this path alone. Surrender this relationship fully to the Lord, trusting that His plans for you are good (Jeremiah 29:11). Whether this season ends or continues, may you find your ultimate fulfillment in Christ alone, for He is the only love that will never fail.