We hear your cry, dear one, and we lift you up before the throne of grace with heavy hearts. You have carried a burden no person should ever bear—abuse, rejection, and unkindness from those who should have been a refuge for you. You ask what you did to deserve this, and we declare with Scripture that you did nothing to warrant such treatment. The Word of God tells us, *"For he has not despised nor abhorred the affliction of the afflicted; neither has he hidden his face from him; but when he cried to him, he heard"* (Psalm 22:24). You are seen, you are known, and you are deeply loved by the One who formed you in your mother’s womb.
You are not defined by the cruelty of others, nor are you responsible for their sin. Jesus Himself said, *"If the world hates you, you know that it has hated me before it hated you"* (John 15:18). The mistreatment you’ve endured is not a reflection of your worth but a reflection of the brokenness of this fallen world. Yet even in this, God promises to be near to the brokenhearted and to save those who are crushed in spirit (Psalm 34:18). You are not forgotten. You are not abandoned. You are precious in His sight.
We must also speak truth into the pain you’ve described. Abuse—whether emotional, verbal, or physical—is never justified, and it is never the will of God. The Bible is clear: *"Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, outcry, and slander be put away from you, with all malice. And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving each other, just as God also in Christ forgave you"* (Ephesians 4:31-32). Those who have hurt you will one day answer to God for their actions. But we also urge you, in the strength Christ provides, to set boundaries where possible and to seek safety if the abuse continues. God does not call you to endure harm in silence.
Your desire for love and kindness is not wrong—it is a longing placed in you by God Himself. But we must caution you against comparing your life to others, for Scripture warns, *"For we don’t dare count or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves. But they themselves, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves with themselves, are without understanding"* (2 Corinthians 10:12). The love you seek can only be fully satisfied in Christ, who loved you first and gave Himself for you (1 John 4:19). Human love, no matter how pure, will always fall short. But His love never fails.
We also lift up your family before the Lord. The stress, drama, and trials you all face are heavy, and we pray for God’s intervention. But we must gently remind you that true peace will not come by merely asking God to *take away* your problems. Instead, He calls us to cast our burdens upon Him (1 Peter 5:7) and to trust Him in the midst of them. Trials are not meant to destroy you but to refine you, as gold is refined in the fire (1 Peter 1:7). We do not pray for the absence of struggle but for the presence of Christ to sustain you through it.
And so, we come before the Father together, in the mighty name of Jesus, the only name by which we can approach the throne of grace:
Heavenly Father, we lift up this precious child of Yours who has known far too much pain and far too little love. Lord, You see every tear, every wound, every moment of rejection. You know the weight she carries, and You promise to be her refuge and strength. We ask that You would surround her with Your presence, that she would know deep in her spirit that she is cherished, valued, and deeply loved by You. Heal the wounds of abuse, Lord. Replace lies with Your truth, shame with dignity, and fear with peace.
Father, we pray for her family—those who have caused harm and those who have been harmed. Bring repentance where there has been sin, and bring healing where there has been brokenness. Break the cycles of dysfunction, Lord, and let Your light shine into the darkness. Give her wisdom to know how to respond, strength to set boundaries, and grace to forgive where it is possible.
We ask for Your provision in every area of her life—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Provide godly community, safe relationships, and opportunities for her to experience Your love through Your people. Help her to see herself as You see her: fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), redeemed by the blood of Christ, and destined for eternity with You.
Lord, we also pray for justice. You are a God who defends the oppressed and lifts up the downtrodden. We ask that You would move in the hearts of those who have mistreated her, that they would come to know You and turn from their ways. And where justice is delayed, we trust in Your perfect timing.
Above all, we pray that she would draw near to You, for You have promised to draw near to her (James 4:8). Let her find her identity, her worth, and her hope in Christ alone. May she experience the peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding her heart and mind in Jesus (Philippians 4:7).
We pray all of this in the powerful, matchless name of Jesus Christ, the One who bore our sorrows and carried our griefs. May Your will be done in her life, and may she come to know the depth of Your love more and more each day. Amen.
You are not alone in this. The road has been long and weary, but the Lord goes before you. Keep crying out to Him, for He hears you. Keep seeking His face, for He will not turn you away. And remember the words of Jesus: *"Come to me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest"* (Matthew 11:28). His yoke is easy, and His burden is light. You are loved—deeply, fiercely, and eternally.
