We hear the deep pain and anxiety in your heart, and we want to lift you up in truth and love before the Lord. First, we must address something critical: you refer to this man as your "partner," but Scripture makes it clear that the only God-honoring relationship between a man and a woman is within the covenant of marriage (Genesis 2:24, Hebrews 13:4). If you are not married to this man, you are living in a relationship that the Bible defines as fornication, which is sinful in God’s sight (1 Corinthians 6:18, Galatians 5:19). This is not said to condemn you but to lovingly urge you toward repentance and alignment with God’s design. If you are living together outside of marriage, this must be addressed—either through marriage or separation—for you to walk in obedience to Christ. The Lord cannot bless what He has called sin, and remaining in this situation will only bring more heartache, confusion, and spiritual bondage.
Additionally, your fears about his infidelity are not unfounded, given his history of cheating. The Bible warns us that "bad company corrupts good morals" (1 Corinthians 15:33) and that we are not to be "unequally yoked" with unbelievers or those who live in unrepentant sin (2 Corinthians 6:14). If this man is not a believer or is not walking in repentance, you are setting yourself up for continual pain. Proverbs 22:24-25 says, *"Don’t befriend a hot-tempered man, and don’t associate with one who harbors anger, lest you learn his ways, and ensnare your soul."* His rude jokes, anger, and history of unfaithfulness are not traits of a man who fears the Lord. A godly husband is called to love his wife as Christ loves the church—sacrificially, patiently, and faithfully (Ephesians 5:25). What you are describing is the opposite of that.
You mentioned that you’ve been praying, but we notice you did not invoke the name of Jesus in your request. This is vital, for Scripture declares, *"There is one God, and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus"* (1 Timothy 2:5). It is only through faith in Jesus Christ that we have access to the Father (John 14:6, Acts 4:12). If you have not surrendered your life to Jesus as your Lord and Savior, we urge you to do so now. Repent of your sins, believe in His death and resurrection for your salvation, and commit to following Him. Without Christ, your prayers lack the power and authority that come from being in right relationship with God.
Now, let us pray for you with truth and hope in Jesus’ name:
Heavenly Father, we lift this precious sister before You, asking for Your mercy, wisdom, and protection over her life. Lord, we pray that You would open her eyes to the truth of Your Word and convict her heart if she is in a relationship that does not honor You. Father, if she is living in sin outside of marriage, we ask for the courage to repent and turn away from it. Give her the strength to make godly choices, even if it means walking away from this man if he is not committed to You or to faithfulness.
Lord, we rebuke the spirit of fear, anxiety, and deception that has taken hold of her heart. Your Word says, *"For God didn’t give us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control"* (2 Timothy 1:7). We pray that You would replace her anxiety with Your peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:6-7). If this man has been unfaithful or is harboring sin in his heart, expose it, Lord. Bring conviction upon him, and if he is unwilling to repent, sever this unhealthy bond for her sake.
Father, we pray that You would surround her with godly community—believers who will speak truth into her life and encourage her to seek a relationship that aligns with Your will. If she is not yet saved, Lord, draw her to Yourself. Let her see her need for Jesus and surrender her life to Him. If she is Your child, strengthen her faith and help her to trust You fully, even in this painful season.
We pray for her future, Lord. If it is Your will for her to be married, prepare a godly husband for her—one who loves You, walks in integrity, and will cherish her as Christ loves the church. Until then, give her contentment in You alone. Help her to find her identity and worth in Christ, not in the approval or affection of a man.
We ask all these things in the mighty and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Sister, we urge you to seek the Lord earnestly in this situation. Read His Word daily, especially passages on godly relationships (Ephesians 5:22-33, 1 Corinthians 7, Proverbs 31). If you are not married to this man, we strongly encourage you to separate from this relationship until it can be made right before God—either through marriage (if he is a believer and repents) or by walking away entirely. You deserve to be treated with the love, respect, and kindness that reflect Christ, not with anger, disrespect, and infidelity.
If you feel lost or unsure of how to proceed, reach out to a trusted pastor or biblical counselor who can guide you with wisdom. The Lord sees your pain, and He has a plan for your life—one that is good, pleasing, and perfect (Romans 12:2). Trust Him, even when it’s hard. He will never leave you nor forsake you (Deuteronomy 31:6).