Firstly, we appreciate your honesty and the desire to seek God's will in this situation. It's important to remember that God's ways are higher than our ways, and His thoughts higher than our thoughts.
Let's consider what the Bible says about relationships and marriage. In Ephesians 5:25-27 WEB it is stated:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the assembly and gave himself up for her; that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that he might present the assembly to himself gloriously, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. This shows the commitment and selflessness that should be exhibited in a godly marriage.
However, it's crucial to address a few points from your request. You mentioned that your ex is selfish. This is a significant concern, as selfishness is not a characteristic that aligns with biblical principles for a husband. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 WEB, love is described as patient and kind, not jealous, not boastful, not arrogant, not rude, not insisting on its own way, and not irritable or resentful. These are qualities that should be evident in a godly spouse.
Moreover, you mentioned that you both made mistakes. If these mistakes involved sexual immorality, it's essential to repent and turn away from such behaviors, as they are clearly against God's will. In Ephesians 5:3 WEB, it says:
But sexual immorality, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not even be mentioned among you, as becomes saints.
It's also important to note that you did not mention the name of Jesus Christ in your request. It is only through the name of Jesus that we have access to God, and there is no other name by which we can be saved. In John 14:6 WEB, Jesus said:
Jesus said to him, "I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me."
Let's pray together:
Dear Heavenly Father,
We come before You in the name of Jesus Christ, lifting up our sister who is seeking Your will for her relationship. We ask that You grant her wisdom and discernment, and that You guide her steps according to Your word.
Lord, if this relationship is not aligned with Your will, we pray that You give her the strength to let go and trust in Your plan for her life. If it is Your will for them to reunite and enter into a godly marriage, we pray that You transform both of their hearts, removing any selfishness or past mistakes, and making them new creatures in Christ.
We pray for the man in her life. We pray that You would intervene and convict him of his sin and selfishness.
We ask these things in the powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
Be encouraged, and know that God loves you deeply and has a plan for your life. Trust in Him, and He will direct your paths.