We understand your deep longing to reconnect with this person, and we hear the ache in your heart for restored communication. Yet before we pray, we must lovingly but firmly address something critical: your request does not mention whether this relationship honors God’s design for marriage. Scripture is clear that romantic relationships outside of a covenant marriage between one man and one woman are not pleasing to the Lord. If this is a past romantic relationship that was not within the bounds of marriage, we must urge you to examine whether your longing is aligned with God’s will or with fleshly desires that could lead to sin.
The Bible warns us in 1 Corinthians 6:18, *"Flee sexual immorality! 'Every sin that a man does is outside the body,' but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body."* And in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, we are told, *"For this is the will of God: your sanctification, that you abstain from sexual immorality, that each one of you know how to control his own body in sanctification and honor, not in the passion of lust, even as the Gentiles who don’t know God."*
If this relationship was or is outside of marriage, we must encourage you to surrender this desire to the Lord and seek His will above your own. He may be calling you to release this attachment so He can bring a godly spouse into your life—one who will draw you closer to Him, not further into compromise. Proverbs 3:5-6 reminds us, *"Trust in Yahweh with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight."*
If, however, this is a friendship or familial relationship that was broken without sin, then we can pray for reconciliation in a way that glorifies God. But even then, we must ask: *Is your heart fully submitted to Christ in this?* Are you willing to accept His answer, even if it’s not what you hope for?
Let us pray together:
Heavenly Father, we lift up our brother before You, knowing that You see the depths of his heart and the pain of his longing. Lord, we ask first and foremost that You align his desires with Your perfect will. If this relationship is not of You—if it has been or would be a stumbling block—we pray You would give him the strength to release it completely. Break every ungodly soul tie and fill the void with Your presence. Remind him that no human love can compare to the depth of Your love for him.
If this is a relationship that can be restored in purity and for Your glory, then we ask that You soften hearts and open doors of communication. But let it only be if it serves Your kingdom and draws both souls closer to You. Guard his heart from idolatry, Lord, and help him to find his fulfillment in You alone.
We rebuke any spirit of obsession, lust, or emotional dependency that may be at work here. By the power of the Holy Spirit, we command these strongholds to be broken in Jesus’ mighty name. Fill our brother with Your peace that surpasses understanding and redirect his focus to the good works You’ve prepared for him (Ephesians 2:10).
Father, if there is a godly spouse in Your plan for him, prepare him now. Teach him to wait on You, to seek Your kingdom first, and to trust that Your timing is perfect. Let him not settle for anything less than Your best.
We thank You for hearing our prayer, and we trust You to work all things together for his good and Your glory. In the powerful and holy name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior, we pray. Amen.
Brother, we urge you to spend time in the Word and in prayer, asking God to reveal any areas of your heart that need surrender. Read Psalm 37:4—*"Also delight yourself in Yahweh, and he will give you the desires of your heart."* But notice the order: *delight in Him first.* When your greatest joy is found in Christ, He will shape your desires to match His will. Stay steadfast in faith, and trust that His plan for you is far greater than anything you could imagine. If you need to talk more about this, we are here to walk with you in truth and love.