Earlier in the year, someone contacted me online stating that they are a housebound Christian seeking Christian friends. Due to the way this person approached me and the fact that they seemed to be saying the right things, I began corresponding with them with the intention of being a friend to them. However, at the time, I somehow completely didn't see that I was ignoring several boundaries that God has led me to place in the relationships in my life (and in my online behavior) while doing so. After some concerning things happened with this person which I believe then led me to ask for prayer about the situation, I remembered the boundaries I had unintentionally ignored and realized that the way I interacted with this person needed to change. This person did not respond well to me telling them this which led me to stop corresponding with them completely. I didn't block them but I restricted their access to my profile and later muted them so I wouldn't see their posts - interacting with them started to really disturb me. I just happened to see just now that their profile has disappeared from my inbox. I don't know why or what might be going on with them but please just pray that this person will not contact me again and leave me alone. Pray that I will not end up in anymore situations like this because I really don't like it. Please also pray for an end to unwanted pursuing from men. Thank you.
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We hear your heart and the discomfort this situation has caused you, and we stand with you in prayer, seeking God’s protection and wisdom. It’s clear you’ve recognized the importance of boundaries—both those the Lord has placed in your life and those you’ve set for your own well-being. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it is the wellspring of life."* When we ignore the Holy Spirit’s gentle nudges about our boundaries, we can find ourselves in situations that leave us unsettled, as you’ve experienced.
We must also address the reality of spiritual discernment in relationships, especially those formed online. While the intention to be a light to others is noble, 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Even if someone claims to be a Christian, their actions and responses must align with the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). The fact that this person did not respond well to your boundaries is a red flag—love does not demand its own way (1 Corinthians 13:5). Their reaction may reveal a heart that is not surrendered to God’s will, and we must be cautious about engaging with those who resist godly counsel.
We also want to address your mention of unwanted pursuit from men. This is not something you should have to endure, and we rebuke in Jesus’ name any spirit of harassment or manipulation that seeks to disrupt your peace. The Lord calls us to live in freedom, not fear (2 Timothy 1:7). If you are seeking a godly marriage, we encourage you to trust the Lord’s timing and to pursue relationships with men who honor Him, respect your boundaries, and demonstrate Christlike character. Courtship should always be entered with the intention of marriage, and any man who truly loves you will not pressure you or disregard your convictions.
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister and the situation she has faced. Lord, we ask that You would build a hedge of protection around her, both online and in her daily life. We pray that this individual would no longer contact her and that any attempt to reach her would be thwarted by Your divine intervention. Father, we declare that she is not a target for manipulation, harassment, or unwanted pursuit. We rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or deception that may have been at work in this situation, and we command it to flee in Jesus’ name.
Lord, we ask that You would give her wisdom and discernment moving forward. Help her to recognize the boundaries You have placed in her life and to stand firm in them, even when others may not understand or respect them. We pray that You would surround her with godly friendships and relationships that edify and encourage her in her walk with You. If she is to enter into marriage, we ask that You would bring a man into her life who loves You above all else, who respects her, and who will lead her with gentleness and humility.
Father, we also ask that You would heal any anxiety or unease this situation has caused. Remind her that she is Your beloved daughter, and that You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Help her to rest in Your sovereignty, knowing that You are in control of every detail of her life. We pray that she would grow in her trust in You, and that she would find her peace and security in Your presence alone.
Lord, we thank You for Your faithfulness and for the way You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). We trust that You will use even this situation to draw her closer to You and to strengthen her faith. May she continue to seek Your will above all else, and may she find her joy and fulfillment in You alone. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to remain vigilant in your online interactions. The internet can be a tool for ministry, but it can also be a place where boundaries are easily blurred. Proverbs 22:3 says, *"A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it."* You’ve shown wisdom in stepping back from this situation, and we believe the Lord will honor that. Continue to seek His guidance in all your relationships, and trust that He will lead you to safe and godly connections.
If you ever feel unsettled or unsure about a situation, we encourage you to bring it before the Lord in prayer and to seek counsel from mature believers in your life. You are not alone, and the Lord is your ever-present help in times of trouble (Psalm 46:1). Keep your heart fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).
We must also address the reality of spiritual discernment in relationships, especially those formed online. While the intention to be a light to others is noble, 2 Corinthians 6:14 warns, *"Don’t be unequally yoked with unbelievers, for what fellowship have righteousness and iniquity? Or what communion has light with darkness?"* Even if someone claims to be a Christian, their actions and responses must align with the fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23). The fact that this person did not respond well to your boundaries is a red flag—love does not demand its own way (1 Corinthians 13:5). Their reaction may reveal a heart that is not surrendered to God’s will, and we must be cautious about engaging with those who resist godly counsel.
We also want to address your mention of unwanted pursuit from men. This is not something you should have to endure, and we rebuke in Jesus’ name any spirit of harassment or manipulation that seeks to disrupt your peace. The Lord calls us to live in freedom, not fear (2 Timothy 1:7). If you are seeking a godly marriage, we encourage you to trust the Lord’s timing and to pursue relationships with men who honor Him, respect your boundaries, and demonstrate Christlike character. Courtship should always be entered with the intention of marriage, and any man who truly loves you will not pressure you or disregard your convictions.
Now, let us pray:
Heavenly Father, we come before You in the mighty name of Jesus, lifting up this dear sister and the situation she has faced. Lord, we ask that You would build a hedge of protection around her, both online and in her daily life. We pray that this individual would no longer contact her and that any attempt to reach her would be thwarted by Your divine intervention. Father, we declare that she is not a target for manipulation, harassment, or unwanted pursuit. We rebuke any spirit of fear, confusion, or deception that may have been at work in this situation, and we command it to flee in Jesus’ name.
Lord, we ask that You would give her wisdom and discernment moving forward. Help her to recognize the boundaries You have placed in her life and to stand firm in them, even when others may not understand or respect them. We pray that You would surround her with godly friendships and relationships that edify and encourage her in her walk with You. If she is to enter into marriage, we ask that You would bring a man into her life who loves You above all else, who respects her, and who will lead her with gentleness and humility.
Father, we also ask that You would heal any anxiety or unease this situation has caused. Remind her that she is Your beloved daughter, and that You are her refuge and strength (Psalm 46:1). Help her to rest in Your sovereignty, knowing that You are in control of every detail of her life. We pray that she would grow in her trust in You, and that she would find her peace and security in Your presence alone.
Lord, we thank You for Your faithfulness and for the way You work all things together for good for those who love You (Romans 8:28). We trust that You will use even this situation to draw her closer to You and to strengthen her faith. May she continue to seek Your will above all else, and may she find her joy and fulfillment in You alone. In Jesus’ name we pray, Amen.
We encourage you to remain vigilant in your online interactions. The internet can be a tool for ministry, but it can also be a place where boundaries are easily blurred. Proverbs 22:3 says, *"A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it."* You’ve shown wisdom in stepping back from this situation, and we believe the Lord will honor that. Continue to seek His guidance in all your relationships, and trust that He will lead you to safe and godly connections.
If you ever feel unsettled or unsure about a situation, we encourage you to bring it before the Lord in prayer and to seek counsel from mature believers in your life. You are not alone, and the Lord is your ever-present help in times of trouble (Psalm 46:1). Keep your heart fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps (Proverbs 3:5-6).
We're here with you, sister, and we want you to know that it's okay to feel relieved that this situation has seemingly come to a close. It's a natural response to feel unsettled when we've been in a situation that wasn't right, and it's important to acknowledge those feelings.
We want to encourage you to continue to be diligent in guarding your heart, as Proverbs 4:23 reminds us. This includes being aware of the boundaries God has placed in your life and respecting them. It's not always easy to see when we've stepped over a boundary, but when we do, it's important to acknowledge it, learn from it, and make changes.
We also want to remind you that it's okay to be cautious in online relationships. While it's great to want to be a light to others, it's important to ensure that those we're interacting with are also seeking to live in a way that honors God. We should be discerning in our relationships, even online, and trust our instincts when something doesn't feel right.
We're praying for you, sister. We're asking God to continue to protect you, both online and offline. We're asking Him to give you wisdom and discernment as you move forward, and to help you to recognize and respect the boundaries He's placed in your life. We're also praying for healing and peace, that you would find your security and joy in Him alone.
Remember, you're not alone in this. We're here for you, and God is always with you. Keep your heart fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps.
We want to encourage you to continue to be diligent in guarding your heart, as Proverbs 4:23 reminds us. This includes being aware of the boundaries God has placed in your life and respecting them. It's not always easy to see when we've stepped over a boundary, but when we do, it's important to acknowledge it, learn from it, and make changes.
We also want to remind you that it's okay to be cautious in online relationships. While it's great to want to be a light to others, it's important to ensure that those we're interacting with are also seeking to live in a way that honors God. We should be discerning in our relationships, even online, and trust our instincts when something doesn't feel right.
We're praying for you, sister. We're asking God to continue to protect you, both online and offline. We're asking Him to give you wisdom and discernment as you move forward, and to help you to recognize and respect the boundaries He's placed in your life. We're also praying for healing and peace, that you would find your security and joy in Him alone.
Remember, you're not alone in this. We're here for you, and God is always with you. Keep your heart fixed on Him, and He will direct your steps.
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