Earlier in the month, someone contacted me online stating that they are a housebound Christian who is seeking other Christian friends. Because of the way this person spoke about being isolated and because they seemed to have a good head on their shoulders in terms of Christian faith, I began corresponding with them not realizing that, in the process of doing so, I was ignoring several boundaries that God has led me to place in the relationships in my life especially when it pertains to interacting with people of the opposite gender which this person is. Soon after corresponding with this person, I began to notice some concerning things as I interacted with them. After a day or so, I then remembered the boundaries God has led me to place in my life which I had somehow forgotten (please pray this will never happen to me again). I communicated these boundaries to this person and told them that the way I interact with them will have to change due to them. They responded very negatively and after that, I stopped interacting with them totally and restricted their access to my profile. They have tried to message me since but I don't know what they said because I will not be corresponding with them further especially since doing so in the first place was neglectful of those God given boundaries I mentioned. Please pray that this person will not contact me again. I didn't totally block them because I don't want to be cruel but the entire experience made me very uncomfortable. I don't want to go through anything like that again. Please pray I will be protected from such experiences - this is not the first time such a disturbing thing has happened to me online (I don't know whether these experiences are due to spiritual warfare attacking me or what the source is). This person interacted with one of my posts recently. I really don't want them to contact me again. Thank you.
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We hear your heart and the discomfort this situation has caused you, and we stand with you in seeking God’s wisdom, protection, and peace. First, we want to affirm the boundaries the Lord has placed in your life—they are not restrictions but gifts of discernment to guard your heart, mind, and walk with Him. It is wise and obedient to honor those boundaries, even when it feels difficult or when others react poorly. Proverbs 4:23 reminds us, *"Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life."* You did the right thing by recognizing the lapse in judgment and correcting it, and we pray that the Lord will continue to strengthen your resolve to walk in His ways.
The negative reaction from this individual is concerning, and it may reflect deeper spiritual dynamics at play. While we cannot know their heart, their response suggests a lack of respect for your boundaries, which could stem from emotional neediness, manipulation, or even spiritual deception. Scripture warns us in 2 Timothy 3:6 about those who *"creep into households and take captive gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts."* Though this verse speaks specifically to women, the principle applies broadly: we must be vigilant against those who may seek to exploit our compassion or goodwill. Your discomfort is not without cause, and we believe the Holy Spirit is using it to alert you to potential danger.
We also want to address the possibility of spiritual warfare in this situation. The enemy seeks to isolate, deceive, and disrupt the peace of believers, and online interactions can be a particularly vulnerable area. Ephesians 6:12 tells us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* If this is indeed an attack, we rebuke any assignment of the enemy against you in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we pray that the Lord will expose any hidden motives or schemes aimed at you.
Regarding your decision not to block this person, we encourage you to reconsider. While it is kind to avoid cruelty, there is also wisdom in fully removing access to those who have disregarded your boundaries and caused you distress. Jesus Himself taught in Matthew 10:14, *"Whoever doesn’t receive you, nor hear your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake off the dust from your feet."* This is not an act of unkindness but an act of stewardship over your peace and safety. You are not responsible for their reaction; you are responsible for walking in the wisdom God has given you. If you feel led, you may even send a final, clear message stating that you will no longer engage and that any further contact will be ignored, then block them. This is not harsh—it is healthy.
We also want to gently address the pattern you’ve noticed in these online interactions. If this is not the first time you’ve encountered such disturbances, it may be time to evaluate the platforms or communities you engage with. Are there settings or groups where you are more vulnerable to these kinds of encounters? The Lord may be calling you to adjust your online habits to better align with His protection. Psalm 91:1-2 says, *"He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of Yahweh, 'He is my refuge and my fortress; my God, in whom I trust.'"*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister/brother in Christ, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we thank You for the discernment You have given them and for the boundaries You have placed in their life to protect their heart and walk with You. We ask that You would strengthen them in their resolve to honor those boundaries, even when it is difficult. Father, we pray that You would close any doors that should not be open and that You would remove this individual from their life completely. If there is any assignment of the enemy at work here, we rebuke it in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper and that You will expose any deception or manipulation aimed at them.
Lord, we ask that You would heal any anxiety or discomfort this situation has caused. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give them wisdom in how to proceed, whether that means blocking this person or taking other steps to protect their peace. Father, if there are areas of their online life that need adjustment, reveal them clearly and guide them into safer, more edifying spaces.
We also pray for this individual who has caused distress. If they are truly in need of Christian fellowship, Lord, lead them to a healthy, God-honoring community where they can be discipled and loved in a way that aligns with Your Word. If their motives are impure or deceptive, we ask that You would convict their heart and turn them from any harmful intentions.
Above all, Lord, we pray that our sister/brother would draw closer to You through this experience. Help them to trust in Your protection and to lean on Your understanding rather than their own. May they find their refuge and strength in You alone. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this matter. Spend time in His Word, particularly in the Psalms, where David often cried out for protection and deliverance. Psalm 34:17-19 is a beautiful reminder: *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."* You are not alone in this, and the Lord is your defender.
If you feel led, consider reaching out to a trusted pastor, mentor, or mature believer in your local church to share this burden. There is strength in godly community, and they may be able to offer additional prayer and support. You are not powerless in this situation—you have the authority in Christ to take action, and we believe the Lord will guide your steps as you seek Him.
The negative reaction from this individual is concerning, and it may reflect deeper spiritual dynamics at play. While we cannot know their heart, their response suggests a lack of respect for your boundaries, which could stem from emotional neediness, manipulation, or even spiritual deception. Scripture warns us in 2 Timothy 3:6 about those who *"creep into households and take captive gullible women loaded down with sins, led away by various lusts."* Though this verse speaks specifically to women, the principle applies broadly: we must be vigilant against those who may seek to exploit our compassion or goodwill. Your discomfort is not without cause, and we believe the Holy Spirit is using it to alert you to potential danger.
We also want to address the possibility of spiritual warfare in this situation. The enemy seeks to isolate, deceive, and disrupt the peace of believers, and online interactions can be a particularly vulnerable area. Ephesians 6:12 tells us, *"For our wrestling is not against flesh and blood, but against the principalities, against the powers, against the world’s rulers of the darkness of this age, and against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places."* If this is indeed an attack, we rebuke any assignment of the enemy against you in Jesus’ name. We declare that no weapon formed against you shall prosper (Isaiah 54:17), and we pray that the Lord will expose any hidden motives or schemes aimed at you.
Regarding your decision not to block this person, we encourage you to reconsider. While it is kind to avoid cruelty, there is also wisdom in fully removing access to those who have disregarded your boundaries and caused you distress. Jesus Himself taught in Matthew 10:14, *"Whoever doesn’t receive you, nor hear your words, as you go out of that house or that city, shake off the dust from your feet."* This is not an act of unkindness but an act of stewardship over your peace and safety. You are not responsible for their reaction; you are responsible for walking in the wisdom God has given you. If you feel led, you may even send a final, clear message stating that you will no longer engage and that any further contact will be ignored, then block them. This is not harsh—it is healthy.
We also want to gently address the pattern you’ve noticed in these online interactions. If this is not the first time you’ve encountered such disturbances, it may be time to evaluate the platforms or communities you engage with. Are there settings or groups where you are more vulnerable to these kinds of encounters? The Lord may be calling you to adjust your online habits to better align with His protection. Psalm 91:1-2 says, *"He who dwells in the secret place of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty. I will say of Yahweh, 'He is my refuge and my fortress; my God, in whom I trust.'"*
Let us pray for you now:
Heavenly Father, we come before You on behalf of our sister/brother in Christ, lifting up this situation to You. Lord, we thank You for the discernment You have given them and for the boundaries You have placed in their life to protect their heart and walk with You. We ask that You would strengthen them in their resolve to honor those boundaries, even when it is difficult. Father, we pray that You would close any doors that should not be open and that You would remove this individual from their life completely. If there is any assignment of the enemy at work here, we rebuke it in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper and that You will expose any deception or manipulation aimed at them.
Lord, we ask that You would heal any anxiety or discomfort this situation has caused. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their heart and mind in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7). Give them wisdom in how to proceed, whether that means blocking this person or taking other steps to protect their peace. Father, if there are areas of their online life that need adjustment, reveal them clearly and guide them into safer, more edifying spaces.
We also pray for this individual who has caused distress. If they are truly in need of Christian fellowship, Lord, lead them to a healthy, God-honoring community where they can be discipled and loved in a way that aligns with Your Word. If their motives are impure or deceptive, we ask that You would convict their heart and turn them from any harmful intentions.
Above all, Lord, we pray that our sister/brother would draw closer to You through this experience. Help them to trust in Your protection and to lean on Your understanding rather than their own. May they find their refuge and strength in You alone. We ask all these things in the precious and powerful name of Jesus Christ, our Lord and Savior. Amen.
We encourage you to continue seeking the Lord in this matter. Spend time in His Word, particularly in the Psalms, where David often cried out for protection and deliverance. Psalm 34:17-19 is a beautiful reminder: *"The righteous cry, and Yahweh hears, and delivers them out of all their troubles. Yahweh is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves those who have a crushed spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but Yahweh delivers him out of them all."* You are not alone in this, and the Lord is your defender.
If you feel led, consider reaching out to a trusted pastor, mentor, or mature believer in your local church to share this burden. There is strength in godly community, and they may be able to offer additional prayer and support. You are not powerless in this situation—you have the authority in Christ to take action, and we believe the Lord will guide your steps as you seek Him.
I hear your concern, dear friend. It's natural to feel unsettled when boundaries are crossed, especially when it involves someone seeking Christian friendship. Let's pray together for protection, wisdom, and healing.
Lord Jesus, we come to You today, lifting up our friend who has shared their burden. Thank You for the discernment You've given them, and for the boundaries You've placed in their life to protect their heart and walk with You. We ask that You would strengthen them in their resolve to honor those boundaries, even when it's difficult.
Father, we pray that You would close any doors that should not be open, and remove this person from their life completely. If there's any assignment of the enemy at work here, we rebuke it in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and that You would expose any deception or manipulation aimed at them.
Lord, we ask that You would heal any anxiety or discomfort this situation has caused. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give them wisdom in how to proceed, whether that means blocking this person or taking other steps to protect their peace.
We also pray for this individual who has caused distress. If they are truly in need of Christian fellowship, Lord, lead them to a healthy, God-honoring community where they can be discipled and loved in a way that aligns with Your Word. If their motives are impure or deceptive, we ask that You would convict their heart and turn them from any harmful intentions.
Above all, Lord, we pray that our friend would draw closer to You through this experience. Help them to trust in Your protection and to lean on Your understanding rather than their own. May they find their refuge and strength in You alone.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Let's continue to stand with them in prayer, seeking the Lord's wisdom and guidance in this matter.
Lord Jesus, we come to You today, lifting up our friend who has shared their burden. Thank You for the discernment You've given them, and for the boundaries You've placed in their life to protect their heart and walk with You. We ask that You would strengthen them in their resolve to honor those boundaries, even when it's difficult.
Father, we pray that You would close any doors that should not be open, and remove this person from their life completely. If there's any assignment of the enemy at work here, we rebuke it in the mighty name of Jesus. We declare that no weapon formed against them shall prosper, and that You would expose any deception or manipulation aimed at them.
Lord, we ask that You would heal any anxiety or discomfort this situation has caused. Fill them with Your peace that surpasses all understanding, guarding their heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Give them wisdom in how to proceed, whether that means blocking this person or taking other steps to protect their peace.
We also pray for this individual who has caused distress. If they are truly in need of Christian fellowship, Lord, lead them to a healthy, God-honoring community where they can be discipled and loved in a way that aligns with Your Word. If their motives are impure or deceptive, we ask that You would convict their heart and turn them from any harmful intentions.
Above all, Lord, we pray that our friend would draw closer to You through this experience. Help them to trust in Your protection and to lean on Your understanding rather than their own. May they find their refuge and strength in You alone.
In Jesus' name, we pray. Amen.
Let's continue to stand with them in prayer, seeking the Lord's wisdom and guidance in this matter.
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